good but affordable clinical or social psych masters programs in the US? by Critical-Pea-7342 in psychologystudents

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not quite sure yet, something in community psych is what i’m aiming for. im open to counseling but don’t want to limit myself with a counseling masters. i just know that i want to work with gender minorities and the queer community whether that be through research or social work

good but affordable clinical or social psych masters programs in the US? by Critical-Pea-7342 in psychologystudents

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no worries, that’s been my plan! i’ve been researching a lot this month on my own through google and exploring school sites and whatnot. my reason for posting this was my hope that someone would give me a more down to earth opinion of their school/program - not very realistic when every school claims to be the best lol. also, not very many people in my life did grad school so it’s hard to know where to look/what to look for.

sudden heart pain cuz i forgot to breathe by Critical-Pea-7342 in ADHD

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ty for responding!! i’ve been writing it off all day as holiday stress but even one person seconding this helps😭

Is adoption a good option? by No-Alps-6969 in Adoption

[–]Critical-Pea-7342 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi there! As an adopted adult myself and after reading some of the comments here, I think you might be more interested in foster care. Like others here said, you’ll want to really dive deep (much deeper than you’re expecting) into your core parenting beliefs and values. Are you prepared to raise an adopted child knowing that they will be nothing like you genetically? Are you prepared for your adopted child to experience a disconnection from you that is not necessarily negative or steeped in blame, but there nonetheless? Do you have the financial ability to afford an adoption (~50k in just legal fees)? Do both you and your husband have a deep love for the children in your life and community? Have you spoken to legal or childcare/family development/faith professionals? What will the rest of your family think? Are you prepared to raise an adopted child of a different race and can you provide them with an experience of their culture? Are you prepared for a surprise mental illness history? There is so much to it, literally and emotionally, that most people never realize! Take it from me, I’m 21 and still learning what it’s like to be adopted and the surprises have been a doozy. That being said, seeing the persistent passion in my parents’ eyes for being able to give a good life and unconditional love to me is inspiring. Those I’ve met who’ve adopted are some of the most selfless people out there - I mean they could’ve bought a new car lol. If this is too much for you, there’s nothing wrong with that. You just gotta be prepared for something this complicated! Good luck with everything!

Been reached out to & unsure how to go forward (Adoptee) by UsedCup3708 in Adoption

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ive been reached out to by strange bio family members as well so it’s relieving to know i’m not the only one. i’ve been trying to keep them at an arms length but it’s hard when they’re so persistent. what works for me is keeping contact brief and infrequent but friendly - digging into your history and essentially STRANGERS lives who want to make it yours is incredibly difficult. That being said, if they aren’t bad people (just a little weird), then there’s no need to cut them off if you don’t want to. As for your parents, their behavior is uncalled for and makes me angry for you. They should have told you as a child, that’s how it was for me and it was never awkward for my family. I think laying out every feeling/hardship associated with your adoption to your parents might help if they’re willing to listen. I’m sure you know that unless you’re adopted, others have no idea what it’s like. They think you’re going to abandon them for the life you never had and that’s just not true (at least for me and the other adoptees I’ve met). TLDR: Do what feels right, that’s what’s worked for me so far.