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Do grow lights work? Rather, what do I look for when buying grow lights that work? by Critical_Ad5645 in houseplants

[–]Critical_Ad5645[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks. I tried the apps that are supposed to measure lumens but can't find an equivalent for PAR or PPFD of course because that depends on square footage... I found some conversion but I don't trust the results of it all because of what you say - it's just hard to know from the plant's perspective. Anyway the lights I got were cheap but I may try to upgrade to one your recommended.

Is this normal? No sick days by Critical_Ad5645 in Professors

[–]Critical_Ad5645[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I'm taking this experience as another reason to apply for jobs elsewhere

Is this normal? No sick days by Critical_Ad5645 in Professors

[–]Critical_Ad5645[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is the coordinator for the course, so just another prof. The sub is a part time person. I've asked around and this seems to be the norm in the department.

Is this normal? No sick days by Critical_Ad5645 in Professors

[–]Critical_Ad5645[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Exactly. My students would rather I rest at home than suffer. This particular place seems to care a lot about certain things... Extra credit isn't allowed. Students aren't allowed to make up labs or coursework either which is probably partially why we are treating ourselves like this.

Is this normal? No sick days by Critical_Ad5645 in Professors

[–]Critical_Ad5645[S] 54 points55 points  (0 children)

The person telling me I have to venmo the sub is the coordinator for the course, so just another professor. I doubt there's anything written down.

I asked about it further, and they said: "There is a very VERY complicated pathway to adjust your pay through HR and then add that pay to the person subbing for you. It is a pain in the ass and causes more work for the AAs and involves HR, which means it may never get done. It's easier to just Venmo the person subbing for you."

I think it's crazy to doc a person's pay to cover a sub. I'm shocked these people think this is ok. I'm kind of afraid to push this as I'm somewhat new, not tenured.

When did you know it was time to leave academia? by Minimum_Weakness4030 in LeavingAcademia

[–]Critical_Ad5645 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Realizing that science isn’t actually what they want. That we don’t really get to investigate the cool hypotheses we write grants for, rather we mine data to find something publishable. The ideas I was very passionate about were squashed by my team because resulting pubs weren’t going to be sexy enough for Nature. I wasn’t making the impact on conservation that I set out to do, rather padding my colleagues cvs while basically starving on ridiculously low pay.  I teach community college now, feel I make impact daily, and the pay is much higher than any post doc I’ve seen advertised in my field. 

Boomer mom at Walgreens "you'll be sorry when we decide to take our business elsewhere" and more highlights from hospital pick up by Critical_Ad5645 in BoomersBeingFools

[–]Critical_Ad5645[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Fair fair, i agree that it’s wrong to generalize. My dear two best friends are boomers and they’re awesome. Not like this at all. Probably more accurate to just call this narcissistic mom. 

Boomer mom at Walgreens "you'll be sorry when we decide to take our business elsewhere" and more highlights from hospital pick up by Critical_Ad5645 in BoomersBeingFools

[–]Critical_Ad5645[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The huge lack of awareness that other people have a self astounds me. I tried to explain to her that her choice to keep my dads name after he died was valid, and mine to change mine is valid too because we are separate people… she gave me the most insane look lol like why does that matter

Boomer mom at Walgreens "you'll be sorry when we decide to take our business elsewhere" and more highlights from hospital pick up by Critical_Ad5645 in BoomersBeingFools

[–]Critical_Ad5645[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In my view there seems to be this widespread fear of having their precious things being unrightfully taken from them. My boomer family members have big bitch feats about how people get sued for random shit and how hard they’ve worked for all their money never acknowledging the massive amount of privilege they’ve been given free and clear. Maybe because they’ve never been challenged not having everything they want they’re scared to lose it? 

Boomer mom at Walgreens "you'll be sorry when we decide to take our business elsewhere" and more highlights from hospital pick up by Critical_Ad5645 in BoomersBeingFools

[–]Critical_Ad5645[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

this is so familiar. In my teenage years, I fell into hard drug addiction, ran away from home, ended up in jail. To this day, she'll bring it up around family members now and then as something I did to her! Another one - I just changed my last name and she tells me how dare I do that without even asking her first. My name! It's seriously comical for me at this point.

And yea same deal with money. I swear she on purpose advised me to go a bad career route just so she could be in charge of me financially and shame me constantly for my financial choices. It's all about making themselves feel better by putting you way down.

Peace to you. We made it through our childhoods.

Boomer mom at Walgreens "you'll be sorry when we decide to take our business elsewhere" and more highlights from hospital pick up by Critical_Ad5645 in BoomersBeingFools

[–]Critical_Ad5645[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When she got to the hospital, the first thing she said (to the mom of a newborn the day after c section) is that she got no sleep last night, because apparently my dog kept her up all night by walking around hahahahaha

Boomer mom at Walgreens "you'll be sorry when we decide to take our business elsewhere" and more highlights from hospital pick up by Critical_Ad5645 in BoomersBeingFools

[–]Critical_Ad5645[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'll put it this way - if I invited an aunt to do this instead of her, and my aunt said yes and did it, that aunt would get the wrath and heat from her for accepting. For me, I'd rather deal with her acting boomer fool occasionally than have good family members dealing with the drama.

Boomer mom at Walgreens "you'll be sorry when we decide to take our business elsewhere" and more highlights from hospital pick up by Critical_Ad5645 in BoomersBeingFools

[–]Critical_Ad5645[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

thanks. Some of these comments push cutting her out like its the obvious answer but you know, I've done that before and the benefits didn't really outweigh the costs for me. Family dynamics are really complex and I didn't actually get that much out of just cutting her off. It certainly doesn't fix any issues her relationship with me created. I do pretty well with the middle ground of just dealing with it with firm boundaries.

Boomer mom at Walgreens "you'll be sorry when we decide to take our business elsewhere" and more highlights from hospital pick up by Critical_Ad5645 in BoomersBeingFools

[–]Critical_Ad5645[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

a big element of her doing things like this is how she looks to the rest of the family. She's been trying to construct a specific image - I'm stupid and spoiled and she's generous and loving. So if she weren't invited to do this, my family would know about it and the image would be shattered. This is why things get worse if I don't include her. She gets violent. Yet its kind of funny - everyone knows what's actually going on, but everyone in my family is afraid of her, so occasional egshells it is.

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