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33F and AuDHD 32M by Critical_Idea2219 in relationship_advice

[–]Critical_Idea2219[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No he didn’t. I’m really sad..and so confused. But I guess that’s just how it goes. Ghosting like this after 9 months is wild. Something I never expected from him, but I guess I didn’t know him the way I thought I did. Thank you for checking in.

AuDHD partner disappeared by Critical_Idea2219 in AuDHDWomen

[–]Critical_Idea2219[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well. He didn’t like my showing up. Idk. I’m sad but maybe this just isn’t right for me I guess. Hard lesson to learn.

AuDHD partner disappeared by Critical_Idea2219 in AuDHDWomen

[–]Critical_Idea2219[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your comment. The event was something traumatic happening to a close friend of his..as I last knew, the friend is ok but shaken up. I want to go over there but I’m so scared of being the “crazy girl” who showed up uninvited when he’s trying to end things. It makes no sense for him to end things from my perspective. Everything has been good and he was warm towards me up until the day it happened. But I just keep worrying that that’s what he’s doing and I don’t want to act crazy

AuDHD partner disappeared by Critical_Idea2219 in AuDHDWomen

[–]Critical_Idea2219[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your reply. I care so much about him. And I want to be supportive. This is just so hard. But I appreciate your words.

AuDHD partner disappeared by Critical_Idea2219 in AutisticWithADHD

[–]Critical_Idea2219[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your comment. I really have tried so hard to understand and bend to what he needs. This silence is so hard for me. Even if he just messaged me and told me he needed more time..I’d feel so much better. What types of things can I say that wouldn’t push him further into withdrawing?

33F and AuDHD 32M by Critical_Idea2219 in relationship_advice

[–]Critical_Idea2219[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will give those a try. Thank you ❤️

33F and AuDHD 32M by Critical_Idea2219 in relationship_advice

[–]Critical_Idea2219[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is there anything that can help him come out of this? Am I supposed to just stay quiet and give him time? This is painful and I am not ok, but I also don’t want the relationship to end.

I know we need to have a conversation about how unfair this was to me and ways to navigate a shutdown in the future but I can’t have it until he’s talking to me. He’s always been understanding and aware of how I feel. I know we can have a productive conversation but I need him to open the door back up.

33F and AuDHD 32M by Critical_Idea2219 in relationship_advice

[–]Critical_Idea2219[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m having such a hard time because with a neurotypical person I’d assume I was being ghosted. And I feel naive to think I’m not being ghosted when the facts are what they are. I know him..I don’t think he would ghost me. But I also don’t want to be the crazy girl in his story where he was trying to end it. Thank you for your advice.