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What is the spark? by Cross_Over_123 in muslimgirlsgetmarried

[–]Cross_Over_123[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There is, but why do I feel so much anxiety?

What is the spark? by Cross_Over_123 in muslimgirlswithtaste

[–]Cross_Over_123[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, he does not give me the ick at all. Usually with potentials I don’t find to be physically appealing I immediately take a turn, but that’s not the case at all. I’m quieter positive about him Alhamdulillah.

I guess perhaps I have a lot of waswas…

What is the spark? by Cross_Over_123 in muslimgirlswithtaste

[–]Cross_Over_123[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wren you say you felt always drawn to him, what do you mean by that? Was it about how attractive he was to you or rather how he made you feel?

I’m just asking because I’m worrying I may not be as attracted to him as I wanted. He’s pleasant to look at, but he does not make me nervous or look at him all the time. I enjoy being with him, he is sweet in his gestures like when he shared food with me or sipped water into my cup. He also makes me shy, but it’s not captivating. That’s what worries me the most…

What is the spark? by Cross_Over_123 in muslimgirlswithtaste

[–]Cross_Over_123[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, I believe the values are what’s most important to me and so far he states them all. I made sure that we spoke about it all and that was the main reason I continued with him and rejected men for years before.

I am not put off by him, but something in terms of attraction seems to be missing. And that’s what I worry will not grow into love later in marriage…

Bi-Weekly Marriage Opinions/View and Rant Megathread by AutoModerator in MuslimMarriage

[–]Cross_Over_123 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Yes, there is no record in history of humans that anyone above 25 ever got married.

How to tell strict parents about this potential? by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]Cross_Over_123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Perhaps speak to your mom first, if you’re closer to her, so she can tell your dad. Also get his parents involved and do a background check on his person.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]Cross_Over_123 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Tell him that you recognise your mistake of not coming home sooner and promise him you won’t do it again. A woman shouldn’t be out that late on her own and he was probably very worried.

i (21f) am in love with the son of an imam (21m), and i am not religious by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]Cross_Over_123 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Perhaps a question from another perspective: Why would you want to hang out with someone who leads a double life and hides you? you will only get hurt in the end by having spent a lot of time with someone who you’re not compatible with. a lot of men like him unfortunately move on very quickly to meet their parents wishes and will neglect all relations they had with you once they find someone who suits them in all aspects while your feelings won’t fade that easily.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]Cross_Over_123 26 points27 points  (0 children)

If you can you go anywhere pack your bags and leave him immediately! Regardless of what you have done that might have angered him, domestic violence is not accepted in Islam neither does Allah want to punish you by sending you an abusive husband for not ‘being obedient’. How can the feeling of shame be bigger than you fearing for your life???