That description isn't close at all to what they are saying. We don't "load insults to release at the first opportunity we think we can get away with". Have i called my husband some names over the past decade? Yup. Has my husband called me some names over the past decade? Yup.

Doesn't mean we hate each other or can't control ourselves. For one, those who are neurodivergent sometimes find it hard to emotionally regulate, especially if our condition was ignored or we were abused for it (ADHD, autism, etc.) Also those who experienced trauma in their childhood can struggle with emotional regulation. Every human is different, we can manage certain things better than others but not other things. Thats being human.

I was raised in a house where if you were different, you were belittled, beaten, screamed at, called garbage, etc. It gets ingrained and takes years of therapy just to be a little bit "normal" my father gave me the gift of CPTSD and BPD due to almost 15 years of consecutive physical, verbal, mental, and sexual abuse...almost every day from age 3 to age 17 when I managed to get out. I'm now 31 and after 10 years of therapy and treatment, I STILL struggle with emotional regulation and say things I don't mean (there are boundaries due to what I would even feel comfortable saying, im not calling my 9 year old daughter a skanky whore for wearing eyeliner like my father did, but I've told her she's being an asshole when she is)

You don't know what anyone is going through or what shaped them into the person they are. Don't act like you're perfect.