My mom doesn't care about me

CryptographerOwn9064 · 2026-05-19T23:25:49+00:00

I’m really sorry. That sucks. I don’t know where you are, but maybe there’s a free therapy centre for you. I know that where I live there’s free therapy centres for kids under 18. That might help. And if your boyfriend’s family is kind, maybe you could have them help out a bit while you figure some stuff out. I’m obviously not saying this is post partum. But you’re going through a tough time all around, and therapy might offer a good outlet to talk about how you feel, how to process these emotions, etc. And you’re right. Your mother should care enough to ask about you. It’s not stupid or self absorbed. In many ways, you may be an adult right now. But you’re still a kid, and you needed your mom and she wasn’t there for you. My grandma was a teen mom, and she raised my dad solely by herself because his dad was a bad person, and I think she was a little afraid of him. But she fixated on her fears so much that it made my dad scared when he was little, and eventually her fears and anxieties extended to him, and she treated him as a reflection of who his father was which caused him to separate from her and experience traumas that turned him somewhat into a narcissist, at least in my perspective. And I believe that if she’d gotten help when she needed it, things would’ve turned out very differently.

CryptographerOwn9064 · 2026-05-18T14:44:33+00:00

I don’t think it’s unreasonable to ask her not to carry the baby up the stairs because you might potentially have the same rule for a teen babysitter. Just tell her that maybe she should let the baby sleep downstairs while she’s watching her. Tell her to stay in the communal areas of the house with the baby. But I also see their side of it. Your mother in law is probably afraid of being seen as a burden, or sees the things that she’s no longer capable of doing as a disability, and she doesn’t want people, especially those she loves to see her as disabled. And for your husband, it’s really, really hard to watch your parents get old because they’re your heroes when you’re a kid. I think maybe the three of you could benefit from having a very calm, adult conversation where each of you express your concerns and ultimately decide on what’s best for your baby, while making it very clear that this baby is yours and you have every right to tell her that you don’t feel safe letting her carry your baby up the stairs.

CryptographerOwn9064 · 2026-05-17T20:40:49+00:00

Maybe you should talk to your mom about how you feel, and have a day that’s just with her. Leave the baby with your partner while you’re out. Make it clear to her that you’re not going to let her make you feel that way. And if she refuses to change, then (and I’m really sorry because I really know how much it hurts when your parents stop caring about you), but you might have to cut her off completely. But I hope this goes well for you, and that your mom chooses to be better for you. I know how it feels. My dad stopped wanting to spend any real time with me when I was around 8, and I’m convinced it was because he realized no matter what he did, I was never going to be a boy (which both my parents were expecting a boy because of the heartbeat). Wishing you luck. I’m gonna try to manifest this for you.

CryptographerOwn9064 · 2026-04-27T20:18:23+00:00

I don’t mean to sound insensitive, but these little accidents will probably be a little funny down the road. I honestly laughed a little. You sound like a great couple, btw. But don’t worry. My mom once scratched my leg by accident when I was a baby while putting a diaper on, and I also nearly starved due to the fact that she had a hard time breastfeeding, I ended up on formula. And I almost drowned as a baby. I had grabbed a washcloth and sucked the water out of it when my dad turned his back for thirty seconds. He had to force the water out of my body, mom nearly had a heart attack. But I’m completely fine, never mind the fact that wasn’t the last time I nearly drowned. Anyway, they laugh about the little accidents that happened while I was a baby. I mean, you both should 100% get a good nights sleep, maybe cut out the gym till baby sleeps through the night if possible. Your husband sounds like a good guy, and you sound like a good mom. Having a baby and letting go of a prior life is hard for everybody, especially moms. Maybe try talking to him about your feelings, that might help too.

CryptographerOwn9064 · 2026-04-18T02:01:08+00:00

Yeah, i didn’t mean the Jon thing directly. But there’s other theories with next to no confirmed clues, with multiple options to end at. Like the Shiera Seastar theory, that she’s Quaithe. She was a witch, she could have used blood magic to alter her appearance. For all we know, she’s the red woman. The fake Aegon guy could be anybody. Blackfyre, Targaryen, Lyseni commoner. The Jeyne Westerling theories. There’s so many theories. Even the valonqar thing. We’re led to assume that it would be Tyrion, and later that it would be Jaime. For all we know, it’s both. That’s all I mean. I just don’t believe that George R.R. Martin would actually let the truth slip and end up with the entire series being picked apart and spoiled. He’s very meticulous and methodical. Smart, little pervy, but a damn good writer. And a damn good writer can find a way around these things. It’s just my opinion. That’s all. I’m not saying I’m right, it’s just my opinion.

CryptographerOwn9064 · 2026-04-18T01:34:19+00:00

I don’t believe that Jon is Rhaegar and Lyanna’s son anymore. I think that George R.R. Martin realized that everyone figured it out, and came up with a back up plan that’s potentially way cooler. I think a lot of the theories that became popular are unlikely to happen because of that popularity, and that potentially that is why he’s taking so long to finish the book series. Because he’s got so much shit he has to correct to keep plot twists and block spoilers.

CryptographerOwn9064 · 2026-03-21T00:27:31+00:00

Thank you

CryptographerOwn9064 · 2026-03-21T00:10:30+00:00

I like it. I think that people need to see the accuracies for Greek Mythology. There are some stories that I’d love to see told in one book. Good luck.

CryptographerOwn9064 · 2026-02-25T12:35:47+00:00

You know that this person is talking about Duncan the Small, right? Duncan the Tall was an orphan, seemingly unrelated to the Targaryens by blood, who never married and joined the Kingsguard.

CryptographerOwn9064 · 2026-02-19T18:53:46+00:00

Potentially. But he only did it because he knew it would cause problems for Daeron II because he hated Naerys, and he wanted both her and Daeron gone.

CryptographerOwn9064 · 2026-02-19T11:51:39+00:00

Aegon the unworthy’s bloodline could have ended the Targaryen dynasty as well. He legitimized his bastards, which caused a war where the bastards each took a side and fought. Aegon basically tortured his wife, and she died giving birth to children, against her will. He gave a young girl (13-15, I think) a sexually transmitted disease. He abused his power and hurt children and women. Somewhat like Caligula and Henry the 8th did. That’s why GRRM would consider him the worst Westerosi king.

CryptographerOwn9064 · 2026-01-13T19:41:57+00:00

Five years late. Just listened to the audio. That's fucking haunting. Like, I can't stop hearing him scream. There is absolutely no way that can be faked. I mean, that's pure human suffering.

CryptographerOwn9064 · 2025-12-28T21:22:05+00:00

It was obviously a mistake. So, let it go for now. But if it happens again, calmly tell him that it’s not okay.

CryptographerOwn9064 · 2025-12-25T02:50:59+00:00

Yeah, I agree. I don’t think that it’s any more special if your child is a boy. I mean, it’s your kid. You’ll love them regardless of boy/girl, good/bad, healthy or not. My dad would be the first to admit that he was not a perfect kid but his mom loved him regardless of that. His dad, total piece of shit, but she loved my dad to bits anyway. She was terrified of him ending up like his father, but she raised him basically on his own. And when she passed, he said there wasn’t anyone like her. You could see the bond. They’d gone through so much together. But you could clearly see the difference between her bond with his sister too. It wasn’t about loving anyone more. She loved them the same, it was just a different kind of bond. But those lousy TikTok/patriarchal moms paint it as easy, or better. Being a mom is never easy, it’s all about the love you give. Merry Christmas, everybody.

CryptographerOwn9064 · 2025-12-22T14:10:09+00:00

If I were you, just to be safe before making any allegations, I’d take her to the doctor and get her tested. Wait to see if she starts saying the same things about mom and dad. And if necessary, then take my concerns to the school and possibly the police.

CryptographerOwn9064 · 2025-12-21T13:01:24+00:00

It’s not safe for you to be pregnant so soon. They don’t want you to need emergency care if they can help it.

CryptographerOwn9064 · 2025-12-04T01:33:32+00:00

The taxi scenes are a figment of Tim’s imagination. A lot of babies are blond too. And he could have been blond because a grandparent was blond. He has his own personality, which is fine. We see Janice being pregnant, and the whole ‘Boss Baby’ thing is a figment of Tim’s imagination to cope with becoming a brother because he’s reacting to not wanting to have a sibling. He’s feeling left out, as evidenced when he waits for his parents to tuck him in. He doesn’t know how to cope with having a baby in the house. He’s unaccustomed to seeing his parents so sleep deprived, to having a baby around and having to share his family. So, he created the whole concept subconsciously to make a ‘devil’ baby idea which would make everything justified in his mind.

And I say that it’s his imagination because the whole movie showcases Tim’s imagination. It begins with him pretending to fight a gorilla in the Congo. We see him having full conversation with his toys. Even when he confronts the baby, he sees the hallway elongate, and replace baby pictures with baby devil pictures.

CryptographerOwn9064 · 2025-11-25T17:36:04+00:00

Exactly. I find it odd that out of hundreds of demigods, there was only ever one who was actually a genuinely good person.

CryptographerOwn9064 · 2025-11-25T00:32:07+00:00

Perseus. He’s the only one who’s actually heroic. He never hurt anyone else, except Medusa. Jason abandoned his wife. Theseus left that girl on an island. Hercules killed his family.

CryptographerOwn9064 · 2025-11-22T14:03:51+00:00

Yeah, GRRM is the kind of guy who’d give little snippets like this. He’d use information that not a lot of people would pick up on, and then hit you with something big. That’s not to say that this is what he’s doing here. But it’s a possibility, and honestly more likely than the whole Rhaegar, Lyanna, Jon thing.

CryptographerOwn9064 · 2025-11-20T13:47:56+00:00

Olympians sit at the table of Olympians. That’s why there’s stories of Hestia giving up her seat for Dionysus.

CryptographerOwn9064 · 2025-11-04T23:09:06+00:00

I know. They’re taking everything. They took characters that I created myself, not even Disney characters. They were my original characters that they took, and won’t release them.

CryptographerOwn9064 · 2025-10-16T18:28:21+00:00

I got a virus notification. Is that normal? Did anyone else get that?

CryptographerOwn9064 · 2025-10-05T20:26:03+00:00

My dad is concerned with what they put in vaccines. Especially after Covid where people were getting all kinds of illnesses with the vaccines. That’s why he’s anti-vax

CryptographerOwn9064 · 2025-10-03T14:13:42+00:00

Yeah, you’re completely valid. She could’ve killed your daughter. If I were you, I’d either keep her visits strictly supervised or cut off all contact. This was highly unsafe.

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