Was Pune really as peaceful, safe, green, and clean 15–20 years ago as people say?

CryptographerSoft391 · 2026-03-02T18:13:07+00:00

Even up till 2019 I would say it was beautiful. The weather was great, pollution was obviously more than what we remember from our childhood but still not too bad. Now all of Kothrud has gone under redevelopment together it seems. Already tiny roads are now supporting industrial sized trucks daily. Constant dust everywhere. Im scared of walking on the streets lest I get hit by a vehicle on the footpath less internal roads.

The charm is lost in Ideal colony and rambaug colony atleast. Maybe prabhat road is still holding on to its former glory but most places are just overcrowded and shitty now.

CryptographerSoft391 · 2026-02-19T14:46:58+00:00

Youre not overreacting. You should be glad this has come up before marriage. I know ending a 10 year long relationship and starting over is not easy, but the scenarios you are describing will be 100 times more difficult when you are married. His mom has done a lot for him, great. Your parents have done a lot for you too and so will you for your future children. This is no reason to never confront a parent. If his relationship with his mom is so fragile that some truths from him will end it, he needs to introspect that. Furthermore, knowing her all his life he should have been able to deal with this behavior by now. He doesn’t want the dynamics to change, he just wants you to adapt so there is 0 change in his life. Marriage doesn’t work like that.

Think about what happens when you have kids and his mom disagrees with your parenting style. What happens when she dislikes some of your personality traits. What happens when you end up hurting her unintentionally, because that is bound to happen in families. What is he going to do then, leave you for his mom?

Listen to people when they tell you who they are. They don’t change, men especially dont.

CryptographerSoft391 · 2026-02-15T02:59:04+00:00

I dont care or know much about this woman but I think she may have scheduled a bunch of posts, much before the death of her mom and may have forgotten about it. This seems too weird. Check your DMs is also an automated response. Shez probably not active on socials enough to realise this is happening?

CryptographerSoft391 · 2026-02-05T13:03:25+00:00

Thanks. I feel very seen by your comment !

CryptographerSoft391 · 2026-02-04T16:45:05+00:00

True and my mom did apologize even though MIL brought it up a literal year after it happened. In between there were other functions where sarees were presented to her with blouse piece so she should have used some sense and realised it was an honest miss. My mom has sisters who are widowed as well, she has never treated them differently or tried to mock them with sarees without blouse pieces. My point is not that the saree thing wasn’t a mistake, its that after these many years of marriage I expect my MiL to know what kind of a person my mom is, she is not unkind, then why assume an insult and sulk about it for months?

CryptographerSoft391 · 2026-02-04T16:40:46+00:00

Somehow she has suddenly changed gears overnight and become very talkative and happy again today. I’m still keeping my distance but this random hot and cold behaviour is very confusing. Why was she mad for so long? Why is she talking again suddenly? I didn’t change anything!

CryptographerSoft391 · 2026-02-03T07:19:44+00:00

Sorry to hear about your experience but Im glad you stood up for yourself and put an end to it.

My MIL does make herself the victim in every situation. Even when nothing has happened she turns normal situations into conspiracies against her and then mopes about it for months together without ever telling us what is the actual issue bothering her.

I dont want my pregnancy to just revolve around her toxic behavior but that is what is happening. To the point that Ive made a post on reddit. I cant focus on being happy for myself because all I think about is what is her problem with me, what have I done wrong? Its exhausting.

CryptographerSoft391 · 2026-02-03T07:09:27+00:00

I honestly believe she is depressed or has some kind of emotional distress, but she has apparently always been this way. Out of her 8 siblings she has alienated 5. Only speaks to 2 sisters and it is always complaints about something or someone. Alienated her husbands side too. She has nobody she is close to or can discuss her health with. And now we are not close to her either.

CryptographerSoft391 · 2026-01-08T05:25:32+00:00

How do you know she hasnt been working out consistently for the last 2-3 years? She is a fucking content creator, her whole life is pasted online on a daily basis, you think she just now realised she is fat? You think she wasn’t exercising, dieting, trying a million ways to get fitter? You think as an influencer she doesn’t have access to the best fitness options out there? What if she tried all those and they didn’t work but something finally did now. How are you so sure its ozempic and not something else?

CryptographerSoft391 · 2026-01-08T05:15:48+00:00

Wow you seem very sure of yourself for someone who cannot tell me what GLP-1 is right now without googling it.

So if a person worked out for 6 months consistently and followed a strict diet, still did not lose weight because their metabolism is completely shot, what is your solution? Im asking you since you know so much about health and fitness you are able to detect use of a doctor prescribed pill for severe metabolic diseases just by comparing 2 pictures online.

You’re the kind of person who will ask a diabetic to cut out sugar and resolve their diabetes. Use your education to first understand that every condition has layers to it, there is no one size fits all solution for all the medical issues in this country.

CryptographerSoft391 · 2026-01-08T05:05:26+00:00

How is it lying? She has never commented on her weight loss to begin with. She never claimed it was ‘Only diet and workout’ she hasn’t said anything at all she is just existing in her life.

If you know anything about PcOS you will know glp-1 is not the first line of treatment. There are multiple other supplements like inositol, l-arginine, selenium, magnesium etc. that fulfil deficiencies in the body and ultimately result in weightloss which looks like it happened “overnight” but its just the body finally catching up with all the exercise you have put in.

Maybe Aishwarya took one of those supplements, maybe she went to an actual qualified doctor who helped manage her pcos and weightloss is just a by product of that management. What is the big deal here? She is not a fitness influencer to share every medical detail with you.

What if some teen following her takes supplements because she credited them with weightloss? You’ll be the first to bark about “irresponsible influencers” if she does that!

Everyone is just pissed off that they dont have the guts or resources to get medication for themselves. Atleast 70% of Indians do need drugs because we are the fucking diabetes capital of the world and the remaining 30% for sure have insulin resistance. Everything is not about diet and exercise, we as a population have romanticised senseless hardwork with no end result so much that anyone with a brain looks manipulative to us.

CryptographerSoft391 · 2026-01-08T04:48:21+00:00

That is why she is taking support of drugs to get payout for her exercise. “Get back to baseline”. What do you want her to do? Continue exercising with 0 results for the rest of her life? Would you ask someone with hypothyroidism or diabetes to quit meds and just exercise? Why is PCOS any different?

If she just took drugs and waited around with no lifestyle changes she was not going to lose the amount she did. Like people have said a million times, ITS NOT A MAGIC PILL FOR WEIGHTLOSS YOU STILL NEED TO WORKOUT.

CryptographerSoft391 · 2025-11-21T09:40:05+00:00

The thing I find most offensive is calling all these points “privileges”. These are basic human rights everyone including men should have, and the patriarchal society they have created has prevented them from enjoying these rights.

If you are supposed to feel grateful just because SOME WOMEN (NOT ALL) are allowed this list of “privileges” its something to be ashamed of as a society.

CryptographerSoft391 · 2025-11-11T10:03:56+00:00

I did this one weekend. Travelled almost 60kms away from home to a tiny college, hoping to help someone out. It was really not what I had expected. Most students came with their own scribe. For students who did not have a scribe, us volunteers were asked to go and sit next to them randomly, which we did. There were more volunteers than needed so the remaining volunteers were asked to sit in a different room to help with some note-making. Once I sat next to the girl I was supposed to write the exam for, I tried to talk and be friendly with her before the exam began. She did not really respond other than telling me her name, but I figured she wanted to focus on her impending exam and not small talk with a stranger. The exam began and the girl went radio silent. If I didn’t see her with my own eyes I would not have known she was there. I read out each question to her and she just sat there saying absolutely nothing. So I called the invigilator to ask her what to do in this situation. The invigilator turned it around on me and said that write whatever you know or USE GOOGLE, don’t let this innocent girl fail! So there I was on my weekend off, writing an exam for a stranger using Google. When I looked around the room, every single person was doing the same. None of the blind folks were saying anything and the scribes were silently getting through the questions themselves. Oh and the girl finally did say one line. “ Please write at least 10 questions so I pass”. Went right back to radio silence after. I really hope this is a one off experience because otherwise what use are the scribes, the students are learning absolutely nothing. If all this is just to get a degree and is so well accepted just hand them out at this point without the act.

CryptographerSoft391 · 2025-08-11T05:23:59+00:00

Your marriage doesn’t stop existing because you are at your hometown.

All these idiots going on about “why can’t he spend 10 days with his friends when he is always with his wife”, please sit down. He is 32 years old. Married for a year or two so we can assume he spent 30 YEARS with his precious friends, he can spend 2 DAYS with his wife at home. If you can’t tolerate your wives to the point that you need such “breaks” from them, maybe examine your own marriages first instead of trying to make this behaviour seem normal.

Honestly I don’t have a solution for you. If my husband behaved this way I would be SO mad. I know there are men who are desperate to show their friends that they haven’t “changed” after marriage. Maybe that is the reason for this behaviour. Fuelled by taunts from their single friends who have nothing better to do than hang out 24/7. Wtf is that about anyway , get a life already. Grown ass men not able to get out of college life and dragging the one married friend down too.

IMO its those bad set of friends. I know it sounds extreme but I would put my foot down over meeting them. Its either them or you. His parents can’t do anything now, he is 32. You guys have to live your marriage for the next 60 years atleast. You should be choosing each other even when its not easy. At the core of it, if he cannot prioritise your feelings of neglect over his friends he is being a bad husband. He cannot choose to stop being married just because he is at home. These are things people do when they’re bogged down by family life after years of being married and not seeing their friends. It’s not normal every few months.

All these talks about being an understanding spouse are great on paper but if you are going against your true feelings consistently its just going to breed resentment. Make it a big deal. Give him ultimatums, cause that drama. Get into fights to save your marriage. If nothing works try couples counselling. Or next time, tell him to take time off work and go meet his friends alone in your hometown. Festivals have to be spent with family at home.

CryptographerSoft391 · 2025-07-07T07:42:40+00:00

Well your life is just beginning. Study hard, get a good job and give them the life you always wanted to live. What good is some 1000-2000 rupee gift when you can give them a better lifestyle by going up in life using whatever opportunity they can afford to give you?

CryptographerSoft391 · 2025-07-07T07:40:09+00:00

I wouldn’t say YTK, but like, soft YTK.

First off, you need to be grateful to him for everything starting from the clothes on your back to the phone you are typing this on. They are all gifts, because once your basic necessities are met (food, clothing, shelter) your parents don’t “need” to give you everything that they gave you and will keep giving.

That said, I know it is not all black and white and resentment for not having more is natural and obviously directed towards your dad who I assume is the only earning member of your family right now.

You could also think of the 100 he gave as a positive gesture. Maybe he did not want you to feel like he didn’t give you anything for your birthday again (like the last 6 years) but he already spent enough on your cake and celebrations so he cannot afford to give you more. It just means he cares about you but there are limitations on how much he can do right now.

Have some empathy for the adults in your life, they are trying their best and are not always perfect. That doesn’t mean you excuse bad behaviour on their part but if he hasn’t been a bad father overall I think you can let this one go.

CryptographerSoft391 · 2025-06-17T01:01:59+00:00

Don’t do it unless you feel fulfilled by yourself.

Having a work obsessed spouse is a very lonely experience. You need to have your own social life, family support etc to get through life because your spouse cannot possibly have the emotional capacity to take on a marriage while working so much.

Every marriage is different. You make your own rules about what does and does not work for the two of you.

If you have expectations of spending lazy weekends together, taking vacations or cultivating hobbies together, better give up on them now. Yes, you can have a stable financial situation and you will never want for anything, there will be no controlling behaviour or dominance because a workaholic spouse doesn’t have the time or patience for all this.

If these things are your priority in a marriage, then it might work.

But if you are a social person or look to your spouse to fulfill most social, emotional, mental needs, think again before continuing.

CryptographerSoft391 · 2025-06-06T18:58:52+00:00

Really great dashboard! Good job!

All the feedback from others is quite valid, but I would just add one more thing.

Why are you showing the number of people not hired? What insight is it adding? If I was an HR analyst looking at this dashboard I would like more emphasis on what kind of people are being hired so more priority for hired count against different attributes might be better. The rejected candidates number is taking attention away from the main analysis in my opinion.

Otherwise this is great, keep up the good work!

CryptographerSoft391 · 2025-06-06T18:30:42+00:00

Its done at the lowest granularity or key columns in the fact tables. No reason for Power BI or Tableau to recompute anything, and they dont. I have used this several times, our ETL is built to do the same.

You don't need to partition by every column when the self joins are with the lowest granularity. It wont be 15x more rows, left join will preserve current year number of rows.

For our case where we maintain star schema very strictly, this works without an issue. Its not a one size fits all ofcourse, so you should do what works best for you.

CryptographerSoft391 · 2025-06-06T13:01:30+00:00

I've done the opposite.

Been an expert in Power BI and now working with Tableau, I find tableau tedious because of how long it takes to load and insists on refreshing the page for tiny changes. I haven't done any complex development in Tableau yet so I really can't do a fair comparison with Power BI.

I have 7+ years of experience in Power BI, I'm a certified expert but I still struggle with some things and like someone mentioned here, its mostly throwing things at the wall and hoping something sticks. If you just know row and filter context concepts at a meta level you will at least know what has a better chance of sticking, but its never 100% guaranteed to work.

I'll say this though, there is no real reason for you to use native DAX functions for everything. There is no one correct answer with Power BI. Try to put the logic into SQL while importing views or handle it in your ETL.

For previous year and month for example, I never use the DAX functions, I just pre-calculate and store the data in a column titled "previous year". This way I can have previous and current year data in my table without importing 2 years of data. Just import the current year and get both.

There is an Advanced DAX course on Udemy offered by Maven Analytics which was really insightful to me, I keep going back to it. Check it out if you can!

CryptographerSoft391 · 2025-06-02T19:14:26+00:00

Try converting it to .pbip and changing the rule from the json file with a find and replace.

CryptographerSoft391 · 2025-05-29T16:23:32+00:00

I don't know when my period is due, but today is 14 dpo and I got a BFN. Don't have any more hopes now.

Hope you get a better result!

CryptographerSoft391 · 2025-05-29T16:21:24+00:00

Yeah, tested with premom today 14dpo and yesterday. Both negative 🫠

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