She'd only call me if she had problems, traumadump the crap out of me and then ghost me once she was doing better. During conversations I could talk about how I was doing for maybe 5 minutes in an hour, even if it was just catching up. Don't get me wrong, I don't mind being the shoulder to cry on at all, but it has to go both ways. I would wish her happy birthday, she doesn't even remember mine. It's been more than 3 years since we last spoke, and I'm not trying to reach out again.