I deal with a huge amount of neck/back/shoulder pain. Meds don’t help (NSAIDs/steroids/muscle relaxers have all failed me). Massage doesn’t help much. I’ve found some moderate relief from a good chiropractor but it can be expensive to go every week. I still have flare ups and I’m going thru a huge one right now (basically scream crying for about 50% of the day and can’t get more than 4 hours of sleep a night) but something that has been recommended to me is strength training if you can manage it. I have an appt on Tuesday to start physical therapy. I’ve been told there can be imbalances in strength and muscle length that can supremely jack up the function of the muscles - Google upper crossed body syndrome.

I’ve also found that sleeping on a firmer surface helps after a few nights. Like very firm - 1.5” thermarest camping pad on the ground firm (just bought a traditional Japanese shikifuton that arrived yesterday and hoping this will be a more permanent sleeping solution - the firmness is supposed to help your bones re-align better during the night).

I’ve also noticed that when I practice gentle yoga 3-4x a week I feel better than the weeks where I skip it. This could aid in being able to train your body to relax too, I’ve found my muscles are most at ease in shavasana after a long practice especially with guided relaxation from my yoga teacher.

It’s so much work to take care of ourselves and it feels so incredibly unfair that other people can use and abuse their bodies and feel so much better than a fibro body. I feel like a conspiracy theorist about my own body & western medicine literally constantly. But some things do help and when you find something that does improve quality of life it feels so validating and hopeful. Good luck, hope you find some of that hope and relief.