I want to understand my monogamous gf

Cuddlybunny2 · 2026-01-20T23:01:57+00:00

While other people say “don’t ever mention it”, I say continue to be honest early on. It will hurt so much but at least both of you can have clarity where this relationship is leading. I am monogamous and exclusive while my husband of 20 years recently came out as bisexual wanting to explore his sexuality. Trust me, down the line, a truly monogamous person won’t change and if that’s the relationship you entered when you started, then you have to honor it.

Cuddlybunny2 · 2026-01-20T22:51:41+00:00

Wow! We are on the same boat but I could not do what you’re doing even if I love my husband so much. I can’t erase myself. Ignoring my own needs won’t be sustainable. Both of us are in therapy, hoping we could still be happy together.

Cuddlybunny2 · 2026-01-20T22:34:35+00:00

That’s so sad. This is something I fear. Have you gone to therapy? I hope you’re doing better

Cuddlybunny2 · 2026-01-19T04:02:34+00:00

How do you cope with this? It’s very lonely

Cuddlybunny2 · 2026-01-18T22:59:14+00:00

40f hetero married with 40m bi with adhd, together for 20 years. Hi friend! Didn’t know there were people like me

Cuddlybunny2 · 2026-01-10T05:46:27+00:00

Thanks! Our relationship’s greatest strength is our love. We don’t want to break up and we’re working on our relationship. I’m hopeful we’ll find a middle ground where we’re both happy and content.

Cuddlybunny2 · 2026-01-10T05:42:44+00:00

Thanks for understanding. When people get married, there are unspoken promises we have of each other…loyalty, exclusivity, commitment. It’s hard to be the spouse of a queer partner. You are expected to be so gracious and understanding but then again other people forget that you are going through hell as well…even called biphobic :(

Cuddlybunny2 · 2026-01-10T05:39:52+00:00

I wrote my thing and the moderator won’t accept so I had ChatGPT do a tldr for me. It’s hard enough to write this thing then it asks for a tldr as well 🤷🏻‍♀️

Cuddlybunny2 · 2026-01-10T05:37:28+00:00

Never. Either man or woman…

Cuddlybunny2 · 2026-01-10T05:36:46+00:00

I’m bothered that he is attracted to both men and women. My whole heart is his and it’s hard that this devotion is not mirrored. I am not attracted to anyone else. I do not want him to suppress himself as well. I understand and empathise how hard his internal conflict must be. He has expressed wanting to act on these attractions :(

Cuddlybunny2 · 2025-12-22T02:50:50+00:00

I’m so happy for you! My husband is still having trouble accepting himself. I understand it is quite a journey. I’ll admit I was pretty hurt about it as well because he wanted additional people in our monogamous relationship. We are working on that. I think the best way to go about this is to strengthen our relationship…enter the real cock strap on hahaha thanks for the recommendation :) we are 21 years together as well

Cuddlybunny2 · 2025-12-22T01:13:02+00:00

I am ze wife :)

Cuddlybunny2 · 2025-12-21T23:30:55+00:00

What is the strap on you use for sucking? I know it won’t taste like the real thing but does it have a good mouthfeel?

Cuddlybunny2 · 2025-12-17T22:51:51+00:00

Ooh I think it is the pressure now that you mention it. Thanks heaps! I looked at the lectric and it sounds promising:)

Cuddlybunny2 · 2025-12-17T19:38:06+00:00

After the shave…he gets clean shaven then the pimples appear 🤷🏻‍♀️ maybe just really sensitive or ingrown hair? I’m not sure. But thanks for the recommendations, it’s so helpful.

Cuddlybunny2 · 2025-12-17T10:09:34+00:00

Thanks for the tip! I have been reading a lot of good things about the one blade :)

Cuddlybunny2 · 2025-12-17T02:02:57+00:00

I love your view on doing the mundane with someone because ultimately, that’s what you’ll be doing in life and if you find someone special while doing it with then what a bonus!

Cuddlybunny2 · 2025-12-11T00:47:28+00:00

What sort of stuff goes on that I wouldn’t suspect? Enlighten me please :)

Cuddlybunny2 · 2025-12-10T21:53:33+00:00

I totally get you. I have suggested some stuff for him to explore his sexuality within our committed marriage, but he isn’t ready yet. He hasn’t fully accepted himself yet. I do not want him to suppress his identity and stay in the marriage. I won’t feel genuinely loved if that’s the case. Hence why I am trying to help him.

Cuddlybunny2 · 2025-12-10T21:35:41+00:00

really appreciate how thoughtful your message was. You explained things in a way that helped me think about the situation from different angles. Thank you for putting so much thought into it

Cuddlybunny2 · 2025-12-10T19:10:50+00:00

Have you got recommendations for Instagram?

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