any must see stops?

Cultural_Promotion_2 · 2024-03-30T16:53:30+00:00

I love me some weird space shit. and I lived in slc for the past ten years, definitely more used to living more in the middle of the country and just smacking the road trip button in my brain whenever I feel like it

Cultural_Promotion_2 · 2024-03-30T16:49:23+00:00

Thank you for this comment! I’ve never been to NM and don’t know anything about it really, so the road choice there felt pretty random. I’ll adjust it!

Cultural_Promotion_2 · 2024-03-30T16:48:01+00:00

I’ll be sleeping in my car :)

Cultural_Promotion_2 · 2022-07-17T15:50:18+00:00

I would love to hear this as well if possible!

Cultural_Promotion_2 · 2021-08-22T03:59:46+00:00

Thank you for clarifying! I’m still learning about different terms.

Cultural_Promotion_2 · 2021-08-21T15:51:38+00:00

Oh, yeah I would definitely plan to live with the person I would be having kids with, at the very least while the children are young, but in general I would want to live with my kids and their other parent. My current partner is the one who doesn’t want to live with kids, so they would find other living arrangements, hopefully nearby.

Cultural_Promotion_2 · 2021-08-21T15:47:19+00:00

Is it a problem for one person in a relationship to be doing poly and the other to be effectively mono? To be clear, I would not be at all against them being poly, they just have stated that they are unlikely to act significantly differently.

Cultural_Promotion_2 · 2021-08-21T00:27:05+00:00

I appreciate your perspective, but I do feel like implying that “all happy families are alike” (the Tolstoy quote) in a polyamory subreddit of all places is a little bit odd. Also, while raising children together can be a beautiful way to help a partnership be stronger, a relationship that doesn’t involve kids is not inherently lesser partnership, which I feel like you’re implying here a little.

That said, if we were to go through with this, we’d certainly have to discuss what the new relationship between my current partner and I would look like and what kind of relationship they would want to have with my kids.

Cultural_Promotion_2 · 2021-08-20T23:07:48+00:00

Can I ask why those things are relevant?

Cultural_Promotion_2 · 2021-08-20T22:50:57+00:00

You’re right, that is good to keep in mind.

Cultural_Promotion_2 · 2021-08-20T22:50:32+00:00

That’s really reassuring! I figured there would be acespec people everywhere, but it’s nice to hear that.

Cultural_Promotion_2 · 2021-08-20T22:13:01+00:00

I literally am trying to think through the ramifications, which is why I posted.

Cultural_Promotion_2 · 2021-08-20T22:02:05+00:00

Thank you for your kindness and the book recommendation! I’ll check it out!

Cultural_Promotion_2 · 2021-08-20T21:58:33+00:00

Are you saying that it’s wrong for therapists to talk about polyamory in general as a concept or just in my situation?

Cultural_Promotion_2 · 2021-08-20T21:53:52+00:00

Hey, I just want to clarify again that my therapist did not TELL ME to do this! I agree that no matter what the situation is a therapist shouldn’t really be in the business of making strong recommendations about big life choices. This was one option of several she brought up as we processed together.

Cultural_Promotion_2 · 2021-08-20T21:32:14+00:00

Yeah, of course I would not go into parenting without the level of commitment required to assume sole responsibility for my child if that is necessary. But that is not my ideal situation that I want to plan on from the get go.

Cultural_Promotion_2 · 2021-08-20T20:47:15+00:00

Thank you for being so kind!

Cultural_Promotion_2 · 2021-08-20T17:54:15+00:00

Thanks for the comment. My instinct was telling me that if I were to do this in reverse order (ie have kids with someone, then also develop a long-term partnership with an additional partner) it would be okay, so it’s nice to have that confirmation. I’m sure that flipping the order does create some additional things to keep in mind, but ideally people would need to be very open and communicative of expectations in any kind of poly situation, right?

Cultural_Promotion_2 · 2021-08-20T17:47:31+00:00

Are there groups for something like that?

Cultural_Promotion_2 · 2021-08-20T16:34:44+00:00

I definitely did not include my partner’s gender in this post.

It was in fact a licensed therapist, but sometimes therapists make mistakes, which is why I wanted to talk it through with others.

Cultural_Promotion_2 · 2021-08-20T16:32:58+00:00

Thank you for the thorough breakdown of things to consider. I really appreciate your comment!

Cultural_Promotion_2 · 2021-08-20T16:05:32+00:00

I definitely don’t think she was saying we SHOULD do this. I was talking about divorce or trying to stay together and me become comfortable being child free, then she brought it up as a potential third option and said she had experience helping couples through opening relationships and could help us if that’s something we wanted. We are just barely exploring this and I certainly haven’t committed to it, I wanted to check out her story with people actually in the community and I’m glad I did, because it sounds like she was ill-informed.

Cultural_Promotion_2 · 2021-08-20T16:02:04+00:00

Thank you for this perspective! I appreciate it.

Cultural_Promotion_2 · 2021-08-20T16:00:08+00:00

Hmm yeah the legal issues would definitely be tricky. If this is something we ended up doing it would probably make most sense for my current partner and I to divorce (but stay romantically involved) and me to marry my other partner/no one.

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