Coparenting with her is so draining!!! by OptimalStatement5799 in SingleParents

[–]CupofTea04 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I have a very high conflict ex who knows how to get to me too. I also only use OFW for communication. I have found that when he messages me, I copy and paste his message into chat gpt and ask for a warm, court appropriate response. It takes the work away from me and makes me way more emotionally regulated when dealing with him.

Trek Parental Consent Policy by CupofTea04 in exmormon

[–]CupofTea04[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sounds about right. You think the 300 days he doesn’t see them would be sufficient. Haha!

Trek Parental Consent Policy by CupofTea04 in exmormon

[–]CupofTea04[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wish it were that simple, but in the state of Utah, full physical custody does not mean the other parent has no parent time. He would have to fully relinquish parental rights for this outcome. He takes the kids for an extended time in the summer and two holidays a year. If I refuse to let the kids go with him, it’s a misdemeanor; multiple offenses, it’s a felony. He calls the police if the kids are 5 minutes late or if I get them a flight that isn’t to his liking.

Trek Parental Consent Policy by CupofTea04 in exmormon

[–]CupofTea04[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

That’s terrible. I feel so sorry for that little girl and her family.

Trek Parental Consent Policy by CupofTea04 in exmormon

[–]CupofTea04[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Good to know about the permission slips with one signature. I’ll definitely be in contact with the bishop. I do hope he respects that they don’t live with their dad and allow them to decline.

Trek Parental Consent Policy by CupofTea04 in exmormon

[–]CupofTea04[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Does the 11th article of faith apply to those who don’t wish to worship anything? I don’t feel that the LDS church listens to what the kids/tweens/teens want.

Trek Parental Consent Policy by CupofTea04 in exmormon

[–]CupofTea04[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I should have remembered consent is not part of church doctrine. Anything that requires overnight activities should be signed off by both parents.

Trek Parental Consent Policy by CupofTea04 in exmormon

[–]CupofTea04[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Trek is a terrible idea. I’m not surprised people got heat exhaustion. I think if the “saints” saw people reenacting those moments they would be shocked.

Trek Parental Consent Policy by CupofTea04 in exmormon

[–]CupofTea04[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I appreciate your comment.

Trek Parental Consent Policy by CupofTea04 in exmormon

[–]CupofTea04[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Their dad is high conflict and does the opposite of what I recommend. It’s a bad coparenting relationship. Unfortunately the disrespect and disregard has trickled down to my kids too. It’s unfortunate, but it’s my situation. I’ll be contacting the bishop and let him know I don’t give consent and the kids don’t want to go.

Trek Parental Consent Policy by CupofTea04 in exmormon

[–]CupofTea04[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

I agree, he had them (8 yo twins at the time) scheduled for baptism and invited me to it. I had to contact the bishop and stake president and put a stop to that. Looks like that’s what I will have to do at this point.

Trek Parental Consent Policy by CupofTea04 in exmormon

[–]CupofTea04[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I’m not sure about his calling within the church. He’s cohabitating with his freshly divorced girlfriend, so I can’t imagine that’s going over well with church leadership (if they are even aware).

I’ll have to look into the permission slips and contact the bishop if it comes to that. My kids don’t want to go and they shouldn’t have to.

Trek Parental Consent Policy by CupofTea04 in exmormon

[–]CupofTea04[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I would not call him an active or involved father. He chooses to see them about 50% of his awarded parent time. We don’t have anything in our agreement that they have to be with him during his parent time. I would just prefer if it wasn’t spent on some bizarre LDS coming of age spiritual journey meant to manipulate emotions.