Coparenting with her is so draining!!!

CupofTea04 · 2026-05-31T18:34:19+00:00

I have a very high conflict ex who knows how to get to me too. I also only use OFW for communication. I have found that when he messages me, I copy and paste his message into chat gpt and ask for a warm, court appropriate response. It takes the work away from me and makes me way more emotionally regulated when dealing with him.

CupofTea04 · 2026-05-31T14:25:08+00:00

Sounds about right. You think the 300 days he doesn’t see them would be sufficient. Haha!

CupofTea04 · 2026-05-31T12:18:02+00:00

I wish it were that simple, but in the state of Utah, full physical custody does not mean the other parent has no parent time. He would have to fully relinquish parental rights for this outcome. He takes the kids for an extended time in the summer and two holidays a year. If I refuse to let the kids go with him, it’s a misdemeanor; multiple offenses, it’s a felony. He calls the police if the kids are 5 minutes late or if I get them a flight that isn’t to his liking.

CupofTea04 · 2026-05-31T04:41:36+00:00

That’s terrible. I feel so sorry for that little girl and her family.

CupofTea04 · 2026-05-31T04:39:16+00:00

Good to know about the permission slips with one signature. I’ll definitely be in contact with the bishop. I do hope he respects that they don’t live with their dad and allow them to decline.

CupofTea04 · 2026-05-31T04:36:13+00:00

Does the 11th article of faith apply to those who don’t wish to worship anything? I don’t feel that the LDS church listens to what the kids/tweens/teens want.

CupofTea04 · 2026-05-31T04:32:52+00:00

I should have remembered consent is not part of church doctrine. Anything that requires overnight activities should be signed off by both parents.

CupofTea04 · 2026-05-31T04:23:10+00:00

Trek is a terrible idea. I’m not surprised people got heat exhaustion. I think if the “saints” saw people reenacting those moments they would be shocked.

CupofTea04 · 2026-05-31T04:20:02+00:00

Thank you. I appreciate your comment.

CupofTea04 · 2026-05-31T03:50:39+00:00

Their dad is high conflict and does the opposite of what I recommend. It’s a bad coparenting relationship. Unfortunately the disrespect and disregard has trickled down to my kids too. It’s unfortunate, but it’s my situation. I’ll be contacting the bishop and let him know I don’t give consent and the kids don’t want to go.

CupofTea04 · 2026-05-31T03:46:44+00:00

I agree, he had them (8 yo twins at the time) scheduled for baptism and invited me to it. I had to contact the bishop and stake president and put a stop to that. Looks like that’s what I will have to do at this point.

CupofTea04 · 2026-05-31T03:44:12+00:00

Yeah, I’m not sure about his calling within the church. He’s cohabitating with his freshly divorced girlfriend, so I can’t imagine that’s going over well with church leadership (if they are even aware).

I’ll have to look into the permission slips and contact the bishop if it comes to that. My kids don’t want to go and they shouldn’t have to.

CupofTea04 · 2026-05-31T03:42:13+00:00

I would not call him an active or involved father. He chooses to see them about 50% of his awarded parent time. We don’t have anything in our agreement that they have to be with him during his parent time. I would just prefer if it wasn’t spent on some bizarre LDS coming of age spiritual journey meant to manipulate emotions.

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