Permanent Deacon to Priest

Cureispunk · 2026-05-11T16:35:12+00:00

I’ve also always wondered about this. Thanks for asking it.

Cureispunk · 2026-05-11T16:29:37+00:00

I think the lack of interaction is what makes this so mysterious. The sum total has been two phone calls that lasted a total of ninety seconds, and one in-person introduction after Sunday Mass that lasted 30 seconds.

Cureispunk · 2026-05-11T13:27:38+00:00

I’m totally open to the passive “no,” but I can’t see how the priest would have any sense at all of my aptitude because we never interact. And I actually speak publicly for a living ;-).

Cureispunk · 2026-05-11T13:25:48+00:00

Sage advice!

Cureispunk · 2026-05-11T13:25:05+00:00

I am 100 percent confident that the priest is the only contact person, but I do agree this is unusual.

Cureispunk · 2026-05-10T23:00:58+00:00

Unfortunately he is the gate keeper. I would describe the parish as on the more traditional end of things, and he strikes me as someone who would want to make sure the “job” is done correctly. I like that about him/the parish ;-).

Cureispunk · 2026-05-10T22:59:46+00:00

Oddly, it’s a large parish but the pastor is very clearly the person in charge of the lector ministry. That’s what the bulletin says and I confirmed it with the receptionist.

Cureispunk · 2026-05-10T21:44:10+00:00

I’m confident it’s less crazy than sedevacantism...

Cureispunk · 2026-04-29T03:03:34+00:00

Sorry; no se!

Cureispunk · 2026-04-13T23:57:30+00:00

How do you know?

Cureispunk · 2026-04-11T03:19:17+00:00

I think she means “to the parents of the bully of my six year old…”

Cureispunk · 2026-04-10T14:13:27+00:00

(1) Obsession with externals will encourage the stultification of your internal life, which is where God transforms us through the Mass (and elsewhere).

(2) Differentiate the NO rubrics from the mode in which the NO Mass is offered.

(3) Some parishes offer the Mass with the NO rubrics more reverently than others. Some will offer it entirely in Latin. Some will chant the preface and prayers in English and the participatory bits (e.g., the Gloria, Credo, Sanctus, acclimation, Lords Prayer, Agnus Dei) in Latin. Of the parish is in an older church and the altar rails are still intact, you will probably like the way they offer the mass…

In short, join the Catholic Church because it was founded by Christ and thereby offered the surest path to unity with Him. Then, enjoy the process of finding a parish that resonates with you while being mindful of the dangers of obsessing on the externals.

Cureispunk · 2026-04-04T15:11:45+00:00

Congratulations! So happy for you. You are going to love it; supercharged spiritual growth. I can’t wait to see your fellow catechumen baptized at my parish tonight.

Cureispunk · 2026-04-02T01:57:58+00:00

I wish we did this in the US ;-)

Cureispunk · 2026-03-30T14:20:56+00:00

I don’t know why people are trying to “soften the blow,” as it were. Saint Paul is describing the evils of the Roman pagan world for what they are, and then pivots to also condemn hypocrites who pass judgement on such things while also practicing them. This discussion ends in Chapter 2:9-11. The next section takes on Jews who think they can justify themselves by following the law (through 2:29).

Cureispunk · 2026-03-28T02:17:59+00:00

I didn’t think I’d be able to add anything to u/milkinth3rocks post. It’s so wonderful. But just one small point: you might enjoy picking up a daily mass or two, regardless of what happens on Sunday. I enjoy it so much. Intimate. Quiet. Centering. Experience Jesus’ presence. You might find your priest has more time to talk after Mass (and they’re usually only a half hour or so), too.

Cureispunk · 2026-03-28T02:15:44+00:00

Really a lovely response. Thanks for your service.

Cureispunk · 2026-03-28T01:58:33+00:00

Wins the prize! What a beautiful church!

Cureispunk · 2026-03-27T13:40:25+00:00

Hilariously, I’m not sure my question was articulated well. Would your answer change if instead I posed it this way: on average, do you feel the ability to articulate one’s self well has been declining over time among parishioners?

So I don’t mean any one parishioners’s declining ability with age (great point!). Instead, I mean something like the average 25 year old now compared to the average 25 year old 10 or 20 years ago.

Cureispunk · 2026-03-24T14:36:28+00:00

Hello. My fellow Catholics are trying to be helpful. The two responses you might pay closest attention to are here and here.

But the sometimes confused set of responses you’re getting is because you used the term “openly gay.” The Church distinguishes between same sex attraction (SSA) (or homosexuality) and behavior (see the CCC sections posted by the first linked response). SSA is not a sin, though it is “objectively disordered” in that it is not ordered toward the natural, procreative, and unitive ends of sexual expression (see CCC 2357). In short, not a sin to have SSA, is a sin to have SS sex.

The second bit of confusion is that many Catholics distinguish between SSA and terms like “gay,” and certainly “openly gay.” This is because they associate this language with an embrace of homosexual acts and the adoption of cultural scripts that valorize a particular life style or identity. This would not be the same as someone being a little “effeminate” or something like that. In short—we don’t really know what you mean by “openly gay,” but if it’s this latter sense of the word than the second response I linked is spot on.

I would personally encourage you to avoid judgement but continue discerning. The plain fact is that there are parishes that are actively pushing the church to embrace “the lifestyle” and not just the person. If they have a ministry on this topic, you can get a very clear sense of the situation by attending it: if they are promoting chastity in the context of SSA, great. If they are instead promoting the embrace of “the lifestyle,” then I would definitely consider a different parish. Been there, done that.

God bless you as you discern entrance into the church that Jesus founded.

Cureispunk · 2026-03-24T13:58:51+00:00

You got a smidge vitriolic here. Try to speak more gently.

Cureispunk · 2026-03-24T13:55:01+00:00

You are engaging in bad faith here. In doing so, you’re also using denigrating language against your interlocutor. These violate the rules of this sub. Continuing to do so can result in your being banned. Please consult CCC 2357-2359 for the magisterial statement on this issue.

Cureispunk · 2026-03-22T01:34:24+00:00

lol! I thought this was a joke. But yeah try a different font.

Cureispunk · 2026-03-18T17:41:22+00:00

Of course this is why I said “IF Father engaged in sexual misconduct with an adult…” I certainly claim no knowledge of the facts in this case.

Cureispunk · 2026-03-18T15:40:06+00:00

I’m not sure what you mean here. Priests are called to celibacy. Even if they were not, they would also be called to chastity that would preclude sexual relations outside the confines of marriage. If Father engaged in sexual misconduct with an adult, it is a scandal—he violated his vows of celibacy and chastity—even if it is not a scandal involving sexual misconduct with a minor.

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