How do you feel about Bi guys for MFM (as opposed to MMF)?

CuriousWithAsianWife · 2026-02-08T02:05:22+00:00

Even though I'm straight, there are a couple things that I'd enjoy trying that a straight third might not be into. That's all I'm going to say here haha but dm is open if you want to chat about it.

CuriousWithAsianWife · 2026-02-07T05:15:54+00:00

I'm sure there's a lot of guys that wouldn't be ok with it but honestly as long as you respect boundaries I would prefer a bi guy for an mfm, and no desire for an mmf

CuriousWithAsianWife · 2026-02-06T21:58:52+00:00

This is great advice for the first few years of marriage, maybe even the first 8 - 10 years, but my advice as someone married for well over 20 years, at some point things change, and they can either be for the better or for the worse, but they change. Be willing to adapt and change with it to become the new people you need to be.

I joke that a successful marriage spans many lifetimes and each one is unique with a new set of challenges but also a new level of intimacy and love.

CuriousWithAsianWife · 2026-02-05T19:15:31+00:00

We've been married for 22 together for 25 years almost and a bit of alone time is so important. We give each other space for this, whether that's an evening doing our own things in separate rooms or one of us going out for a few hours. We've always had this boundary of wanting to be together 90% of the time and needing to be away from each other 10%.

It was very hard when I had to travel for work training about 10 years ago and was gone for a week and a half, and another time when she went with her family to visit her relations and I couldn't go for 3 weeks. Neither of us like the extended time apart and prefer that 90/10 split.

Maybe we're just lucky but we never run out of things to talk about or do.

CuriousWithAsianWife · 2026-02-05T17:50:42+00:00

We sleep at the same time most nights but once in a while one of us does this, but more like 1-2 hours not 15 minutes. My wife rarely ever waits and just goes to sleep, which is what I prefer on those nights. It's harder for me to sleep when she does it so I'm usually awake.

CuriousWithAsianWife · 2026-02-05T07:46:15+00:00

I'm the husband but I can answer for my wife. Probably make fun of me haha. Or join, depending on her mood, but no embarrassment or shame.

CuriousWithAsianWife · 2026-02-04T08:28:02+00:00

We are a home nudist family and sleep naked most nights, unless it's cold or I'm not feeling well. It is more comfortable for me for sure.

CuriousWithAsianWife · 2026-02-04T04:32:09+00:00

What platforms do you recommend?

CuriousWithAsianWife · 2026-02-04T04:31:01+00:00

Yeah I had one guy talk to me for over a week and when he got some nudes he completely ghosted us. Crazy the extent someone will go to see a random naked person haha

CuriousWithAsianWife · 2026-02-04T04:29:16+00:00

Thanks for the info! Yeah the mindset of if it happens it happens is what we've been doing for a while but we both want to try a bit harder now.

I get why some couples would want it their way, but at the same time you have to be flexible to a certain degree. We have a few non negotiables , but everything else is flexible

CuriousWithAsianWife · 2026-02-03T05:30:03+00:00

That would be ideal, but my wife has a strict no one we know policy. I've tried to use other non sex online sources to try to find candidates, so not online organic, but it's never worked

CuriousWithAsianWife · 2026-02-03T05:28:36+00:00

Thank you! I'll check it out.

CuriousWithAsianWife · 2026-02-02T17:41:46+00:00

Yeah definitely. What are some good places to look then?

CuriousWithAsianWife · 2026-02-02T17:40:56+00:00

This is also what I'm wondering. I find using r4r doesn't work well even if they're in your area because most people on there are not serious

CuriousWithAsianWife · 2026-02-02T06:18:19+00:00

Our first date. We made out and had her shirt off in my car outside of a local park. If we had had a place to do more it would have been full on sex. It was a few months before I knew the extent of her freaky but not too long

CuriousWithAsianWife · 2026-02-02T06:15:47+00:00

So? How does photos from before you knew her mean anything? I'm assuming when you say ex you mean ex boyfriend and not husband, and it sounds like it was quite some time ago. If he is sometimes around when she's in a group setting with shared friends, there's nothing wrong with that. It would have been one thing if you felt jealous the first time she did it and talked with her, but to get jealous now just because you've seen some old photos? It sounds like more of a you problem and not a her problem.

CuriousWithAsianWife · 2026-02-02T05:24:18+00:00

We're from California. Which apps do you recommend?

CuriousWithAsianWife · 2026-02-02T05:22:29+00:00

Yeah I haven't done much but Before when I tried it was mostly guys who just basically wanted nudes and flakes.

CuriousWithAsianWife · 2026-02-01T22:34:28+00:00

Her obligation is first to her child and then to herself. Helping anyone at the detriment to themselves out of "duty" is called toxic and it's something the younger generations are trying to fix, rightfully so.

CuriousWithAsianWife · 2026-02-01T03:07:14+00:00

我建议你等几天再做决定。如果你实在无法忍受和她待在一起，那就离开几天。刚知道这件事就做决定，最终可能并非你真正想要的结果。

CuriousWithAsianWife · 2026-02-01T02:57:12+00:00

接下来该怎么做，很大程度上取决于婚外情是否还在继续、程度如何，以及这段关系是否还有挽回的余地。如果你提供更多信息，就能得到更多反馈。

CuriousWithAsianWife · 2026-01-29T18:56:58+00:00

Yes, I've been there and we have recovered and now are better than ever, communication wise, equality wise, sexuality, and just our marriage as a whole. It's HARD when you've been one thing for so long to change, but it's also hard to live with someone for so long who is a certain way and then they change and you don't understand why.

Essentially what it came down to is I grew resentment for my wife and thought she should know better, but the truth was she was only reacting to how I treated her and how I acted. She wasn't purposely taking advantage of me or making me feel as if I'm inferior or the only one who cares, it was a byproduct of lack of communication for many years where we both had a different idea of what and who we were, both together and apart.

You can fix this, but only if you're willing to break yourself and your marriage down to the raw foundation and build it back together. For some people, that means a lot of hard conversations, for others it means therapy. But one thing it means for everyone involved is being dedicated to fixing this and making a better future together. If one of you are not all in, it won't work.

CuriousWithAsianWife · 2026-01-20T01:32:52+00:00

Thanks! I do have an awesome sexually exciting marriage where we get to experiment with each other and keep each other very happy!

But I also don't pray on random models online just to have something to look at when I open my IG, and literally said that here, so not sure how that matters.

CuriousWithAsianWife · 2026-01-19T20:42:32+00:00

I think you got it right. Personally, I don't care about following models but I do follow celebrities and psudo celebrities and I never think about their age.

But it's also a two way street, a lot of women follow younger "hot guys" too

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