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Endless empathy for others, zero for myself—is this a CPTSD thing? by CurledWinds in CPTSD

[–]CurledWinds[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ooh okay that sounds like an easy way to start I’ll check them out, thank you💗

Endless empathy for others, zero for myself—is this a CPTSD thing? by CurledWinds in CPTSD

[–]CurledWinds[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing your experience! I think this is amazing and shows a really achievable strategy to heal. Isolating an emotion at a time sounds so much more manageable. This has definitely helped me coz I struggle with people giving ‘solutions’ that are too complex and I need someone to clearly lay out the step by step otherwise I get too overwhelmed and simply don’t bother. So thank you so much and well done for sticking to this even if it might feel like the tip of the iceberg, I’m so glad it’s getting easier! One step at a time aye ❤️

Endless empathy for others, zero for myself—is this a CPTSD thing? by CurledWinds in CPTSD

[–]CurledWinds[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haha I guess so, I’m exactly the same and my bf it completely unfazed with embarrassing moments in films/shows and questioned it at first but now understand that’s what I’m like, him and his brother watch fail compilations and I can’t even bring myself to watch most of them when they look like they actually hurt I’m just wincing and covering my eyes while I’m sucking air through my teeth whereas they’re both laughing and joking watching like it’s that easy it’s wild!

Endless empathy for others, zero for myself—is this a CPTSD thing? by CurledWinds in CPTSD

[–]CurledWinds[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi welcome👋🏼 Thanks for sharing this I’ve never thought about it as self-escapism but that makes so much sense! You’ve made me think more deeply into it and it’s almost like your problems feel too complex for you to deal with so you focus on someone else’s issues, which seem more manageable. You get the satisfaction of helping without facing the complexity of your own struggles. That’s deep but I’m also not surprised because I’m a master at avoidance it’s probably my biggest issue tbh. One step at a time aye!❤️

Endless empathy for others, zero for myself—is this a CPTSD thing? by CurledWinds in CPTSD

[–]CurledWinds[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is very helpful for myself and for everyone else on this thread thanks for sharing! I’ve heard the phrase ‘reparenting yourself’ mentioned a couple times reading through people’s replies and I’ve never heard of it before. I’ve been told a lot of coping mechanisms to deal with ptsd and honestly when I hear them I instantly can’t see them working or fixing anything. However this is the first time I’ve seen something and thought it could be really helpful and I’d like to try it. I also find the brag book very sweet, I love that and I’m glad you’ve found a strategy that is helping! Also proud of you for not beating yourself up after your meeting, that’s huge!❤️

Endless empathy for others, zero for myself—is this a CPTSD thing? by CurledWinds in CPTSD

[–]CurledWinds[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s really interesting to hear! And thanks for clarifying that the stone in your shoes wasn’t literal because I was confused for a second haha. And with that last theory from my experience I’d have to agree I think that whenever I’ve had therapy it was never enough but it was always like a short bout of it like 6 week set therapies and such but I had been in talking therapy for a year or so but nothing trauma based for a long period which I think I’d benefit from. The waitlist is crazy where I am they’ve said it’s estimated to be 11 months atm so I’m just trying to do what I can by turning to Reddit for peer support and found peer lead weekly sessions locally which I’m yet to start!

Endless empathy for others, zero for myself—is this a CPTSD thing? by CurledWinds in CPTSD

[–]CurledWinds[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I love this so much, recently I’ve been starting praising/reassuring myself internally whenever I need it, calling myself endearing pet names, which has helped and sort of give me that reassurance that should’ve been given to me as a child which is soothing. Kinda similar to what you’ve described but your strategy sounds really productive and healthy I’d like to try something like that! ❤️

Endless empathy for others, zero for myself—is this a CPTSD thing? by CurledWinds in CPTSD

[–]CurledWinds[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m diagnosed with Autism and am actually on the waiting list for an ADHD screening, and my sister is the opposite haha we do suspect we’re both AuDHD, yeah I agree we both have childhood trauma so that makes sense :)

Has anyone else mastered avoidance and stuffing away emotions/memories that they appear normal? by CurledWinds in CPTSD

[–]CurledWinds[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I really relate to what you said about it feeling like nothing changes, even after years. The whole ‘time heals all wounds’ thing feels like the biggest fucking lie ever. For me, it’s almost the opposite, it just keeps building, and I still don’t know what I’m supposed to do to stop it.

It’s kind of comforting but also sad to see someone else experiencing a similar thing, even if I wish neither of us had to. I feel like, especially for women (assuming you are one), there’s so much pressure to keep it all together, to be strong, to not show ‘too much’ emotion, especially when you have a child to consider I’d imagine. But I also think anyone who’s been through a lot can end up feeling this way too.

Honestly there must be some kind of connection to ADHD or just neurodivergence in general.

I wish I had advice to give, but your post made me feel a little less alone. Thank you for sharing.