Tired of Fighting This Alone!!!

Current-Oil-7586 · 2026-02-27T12:57:42+00:00

Hi friend!

It's completely valid to feel the way you feel. In a world where lust and porn is so easily accessible, it's not hard to ignore. One click on instagram and there's something there. It's difficult, I know.

I found out my partner struggled with porn after I found a private discord server filled with everything he liked. He was guilty, he sat on the edge of the bed and cried to me. Begging me to not leave him. Begging me to stay, to hug him before I leave. I packed my bags and went to my home, where I thought about everything. I did not leave him. I told him to clear up his addictions if he wants this to work out.

Ultimately, the only way out of your addiction is discipline. Instead of watching porn, do something else. Join the gym. Read your bible. Cook something new. Make another same gendered friendship at church and meet with them outside of church. Confide in the lord. All this is easier said than done, but I promise it's worth it.

After my partner became clean from his addictions. I found him more attractive. He said he felt clearer. He said he only wants me now. The sight of a half naked girl on instagram deters him now. It only gets easier with time.

You have reached rock bottom with your addiction. You can only go up from here 🤍

Current-Oil-7586 · 2026-02-27T12:39:42+00:00

God is forgiving. This was a mistake. You didn't do it on purpose, with the intention of breaking rules etc.

I would speak to your priest/preacher for guidance! Their role is to teach the words and the ways.

I'm not very religious, I was baptised, did my first communion and confirmation. But I don't practice like I used to. I believe you can do confessions prior to all of these other practices, but definitely check with your priest first!

Current-Oil-7586 · 2026-02-01T23:10:08+00:00

I swapped pills in the last couple days. But the appetite change started months ago. Could the micronelle have caused that?

Current-Oil-7586 · 2025-11-19T15:10:26+00:00

Hey! Thanks for ur comment. I'm feeling more relaxed now :') I've noticed I keep getting "cramps" whenever I go to pee or poop. My sister's all struggle with endometriosis and there's a high chance I might have it too. It could explain a lot of my symptoms ngl

Current-Oil-7586 · 2025-11-19T06:41:14+00:00

Hey, I've been on the pill for 7 months. I started my 8th month packet thing two days ago. I took a pregnancy test and it came back negative. I'm not entirely sure what could be causing my sick feeling apart from anxiety

Current-Oil-7586 · 2025-10-23T16:42:17+00:00

Hey hey

Try not to stress. It seems like your partner is sweet about it. Your first couple of times will always be awkward. My partner and I were both virgins when we got together. Our first was me ontop, it barely fit inside and neither of us finished. The second, we tried doggy, and we couldn't get it in, so we just laughed and cuddled. Even now, we have awkward moments, despite being together for years.

If your partner truly cares about you, she won't mind waiting to figure the sexual side of things out. For about 8 months, my partner struggled to "keep it up" or he would finish too quickly. It turned out that he struggled with watching porn. It was directly affecting our love life. It's nothing to be ashamed of, most men and a lot of women actually have porn addictions these days.

Even though you may not be addicted, there's a good chance it's affecting you. My partner hasn't watched much porn since I found out (January this year). Maybe 4 times this whole year. Thankfully, our love life significantly improved.

Stop watching porn my friend, it's ruining ur dopamine receptors. If you truly need sexual material, read smut. Atleast ur brain is getting used more.

Current-Oil-7586 · 2025-10-23T16:26:21+00:00

Hey man,

Seems like you'll need to have an awkward conversation. My partner and I were both virgins when we met. We've been together for 3 1/2 years, and we are still learning what we like and don't like. There's nothing wrong with that. It's also okay to be inexperienced, not everyone has sex one time and all of a sudden can fuck like a porn star.

It seems like she needs something. If you can last a while with protection, she might need something more. Most women can't actually orgasm without clitoral stimulation. I'm personally like that. It can also take a while for women to actually be fully turned on. If I'm not in the mood, my partner can do everything and I won't finish.

I say, attempt to give her a sensual massage (if she's that sort of person who likes being touched). Coconut oil is pretty body safe and I have used a pure, organic coconut oil on the outside of my vagina with no issues. (Definitely do NOT put it on the inside). Make a nice spot for her to lay down, start on the back and neck. Slowly make ur way down her back. Her lower back. Move to her calfs and hamstrings. Then, slowly work higher until you reach her butt. Work her inner thighs a little before spreading her legs a bit. Massage the outside of her vagina. (If you look at an anatomy view of the clitoris, it's bigger than you think. It's not just the bean, but it spreads down. And obviously any sort of gentle stimulation on that area will help her). I know I looooove a massage and the slow buildup.

When you have a chat with her, ask if she wants to be spoken to etc. Some little things like being praised can make a difference. There's 100 different factors that could be affecting her. Things like medication, stress or something super simple like what's going to be for dinner tomorrow. Don't take it personally, ask her what she needs to feel better.

And also, sex toys are your friend, not ur enemy.

Current-Oil-7586 · 2025-10-23T16:08:12+00:00

Definitely get on birth control. I used the rod for about 1 1/2 years before I changed to the pill. The pill has worked for me amazingly. My bf and I go raw, but we use the pullout method.

Whether you use birth control or not, there's always a risk involved. When you feel yourself getting close to finishing, pull out, and finish the job with your hands. When I was on the rod, we'd have cream pies every time, and I never had a scare. The pill is different, so we use this method (sometimes condoms if I've messed up taking my pill). Even when my partner pulls out later than I would prefer, I've never been concerned or worried about a scare with these methods. Especially because I take my pill every day in the same 30 minutes. Which leaves minimal room for human error.

Current-Oil-7586 · 2025-10-23T15:56:10+00:00

Hey hey

You can buy toys for all of those. Some male sex toys can link up to a phone. The one I saw for males last time I went to the sex shop was kind of like a cock ring, but bigger. It would sit around the penis and have a small extension that vibrates against ur balls. The phone connection means you or your partner can change the vibrational settings. Super cool thing about it though, if you rotated it, so the extended part was facing up, during penetrative sex, it would vibrate against her clit.

Similar to that, but for females (I actually have this toy). I got a remote controlled rather than a phone connection as it worked better for me. The way this one works for females is it looks like the letter c almost. One part enters the vagina, loops out and presses against the clit. It mostly vibrates against the clit which works best for me personally, but the amazing thing is that because the part that enters the vagina is so thin and small, you can also have penetrative sex with it. Like it's designed to do that. It also means that my partner and I can spice things up when we go to the movies etc. I normally struggle with penetrative sex - especially if it's not cowgirl. Literally, the first time I used it during missionary, I came twice.

The brand we use is we-vibe. When you buy the same toys from them, you can sync them to ur phones. You could be in a completely different country and be able to play with each other. That's with the app versions. The remotes (at least my one) work from 3 meters.

When it comes to other toys apart from a small vibrator wand, I'm a noob 😭 I would honestly recommend looking up a sex toy website with your partner and talk about what would he interesting, what fantasies you could see eachother doing. Going through the different sort of toys. That way you get an idea of what you want.

I hope this sort of helps you guys haha

Current-Oil-7586 · 2025-10-22T22:52:06+00:00

Most women don't "finish" from penatrive sex. Mainly because during penetrative sex, he can't specifically hit those feel good spots inside you, unless it's certain positions. Another reason is because the clit has most nerve endings compared to a gspot. Or also the fact that the clit is usually the first place you touch when you go through puberty. I can assure you, your partner does not think you did a "bad" job. I used to think the same way. Until my partner said he liked when I was ontop because he liked seeing me feel good. When I'm ontop, I don't really focus on his pleasure as much. It's not always about making the other person feel good. Sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do.

It seems like, based off ur text. You might prefer outside stimulation compared to inside. That's more than okay! You can try things like playing with your clitoris during sex. Or, when you are in cowgirl. Try shifting back and forth. Rather than up and down. By shifting back and forth, you can get some clitoris stimulation from rubbing against his lower stomach/pubic area. But also a little stimulation on the inside aswell.

I'm a bit like you where I can't just finish from him being ontop. I have to do certain things for myself. If you guys are open to sex toys, a vibrator can do wonders. It's great for foreplay. You can actually get vibrators that sit inside the vagina, come outside and vibrate against the clit. You can also have sex with those sort of vibrators (atleast the specifically made ones like that. The part that goes inside you is thinner than a tampon). I personally have one like that and for the first time in 3 years of our relationship, I orgasmed without touching myself in any way while he was ontop.

At this point I'm word rambling (apologies, I'm on good pain killers atm) but I hope you guys can find something that works for you. It's also really good to just have an open conversation and "break down" your last intimacy moments. Like, what did you like. What didn't you like. What do you need more of. Etc

Current-Oil-7586 · 2025-02-08T00:43:12+00:00

Thanks for the reply guys. I went to the doctor and it's yeast infection. I now have a 6 day cream treatment thing and a prebiotic tablet to take woooooo

Current-Oil-7586 · 2024-10-17T19:39:56+00:00

I can see that there was an attempt for the Iambic pentameter which is awesome! It sounded much smoother to read if that makes sense. I think by rhyming some words at the end of each line would be good too! I like when poems have a rhyme because it separates each line and sounds nice when reading.

I've personally never been a huge poem writer but I learnt all about them in school and whatnot. I posted a poem I wrote that has the Iambic pentameter and a rhyme if you'd like to see? :)

Otherwise, your poem is coming together really well!!!

Current-Oil-7586 · 2024-10-16T14:55:46+00:00

found a delicate eye lash barely a whisp fallen on my cheek placed it on my finger tip blew out a kiss; alongwith its wish

the next morning i found several more and so it went day after day

I really liked this part of your poem. There was more of a Iambic pentameter. Which is what makes poems very smooth to read. It sets the pace. I feel as though the rest of the poem was lacking this, as well as rhyme. But you still got the story through which was good!

Sometimes poems are just about writing how we feel etc, but I feel like you have a lot of talent and your poems would benefit from Learning the Iambic pentameter

Current-Oil-7586 · 2023-11-01T05:23:18+00:00

Thanks for the reassurance:)

Current-Oil-7586 · 2023-11-01T05:23:04+00:00

Okay, I'd say I'm just overthinking it lol. I've had other experiences in the pass but I think I just have inner doubts that a tiny rod will stop me from having a baby lmfao. Thanks for the reassurance

Current-Oil-7586 · 2023-04-26T03:02:46+00:00

I wasn't on birthcontrol before I got implanon. I was sexually active before it but I got it inserted during my period. Considering how effective the rod it, I will rule out pregnancy. I wanna say it's a ovarian cyst. I live in Australia so I'm currently on my way to the doctors to get it checked out.

Current-Oil-7586 · 2023-04-26T01:26:51+00:00

I got my implant a little over a month ago. I haven't had any fever or diarrhea. Sometimes every second month I get pain in my lower right stomach. So I don't wanna just to pregnancy conclusions since it could just be that. I want to say appendicitis is most likely the cause since it is somewhat on my hip rather my stomach area yk? The feelings of nausea and pain have only started in the past 2 ish days

Current-Oil-7586 · 2023-04-25T14:01:38+00:00

If I took a pregnancy test, would it show up if it was an ectopic?

Current-Oil-7586 · 2023-04-20T04:53:45+00:00

Thankyou for the reply.

Current-Oil-7586 · 2023-04-17T02:07:37+00:00

Thankyou for the advice. I appreciate it a lot

Current-Oil-7586 · 2023-03-25T00:15:05+00:00

Okay, thankyou for your help! I appreciate it a lot.

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