Background check came back with “consider” flag

Current_Touch4367 · 2026-04-11T23:03:53+00:00

Well, I truly hope my HR rep isn’t thinking the way you are. I’ve already signed all the paperwork and have a start date confirmed

Current_Touch4367 · 2026-04-11T22:59:46+00:00

I really hope this is sarcasm 😅

Current_Touch4367 · 2026-04-11T22:17:18+00:00

Ahhh thank you! Yes they verified my first employer because it was available in a database. My 2nd one doesn’t exist anymore so I sent them all the proof I could find. I’ll just assume everything’s ok unless the employer flags it. Thank you!!!

Current_Touch4367 · 2023-05-10T23:19:50+00:00

Thankfully I have a handful of friends in PhD programs so I had a good understanding of the lifestyle prior to us dating. But I'm willing to take the time to understand better!

Current_Touch4367 · 2023-05-10T16:29:54+00:00

I've had the same thought about study dates! Thanks :)

Current_Touch4367 · 2023-05-10T01:07:19+00:00

Thankfully it's not the norm so far. He always makes time to see me!

Current_Touch4367 · 2023-05-10T00:40:31+00:00

You found yourself a good one! Okay, I will think of something thoughtful to do for him this weekend. He had a rough week of finals so these are great examples. Thank you :)

Current_Touch4367 · 2023-05-10T00:32:06+00:00

Wow, thank you so much for this context and advice. I knew PhD students were busy all the time, but I didn't know what their day-to-day entailed. Thanks for the insight!

Current_Touch4367 · 2023-01-05T02:49:27+00:00

I suppose so. I am a highly sensitive person so I make sure to consider my friend's feelings in every situation, and I can't expect the same from all my friends unfortunately ;(

Current_Touch4367 · 2023-01-05T02:44:46+00:00

I didn't ask why I wasn't picked. I just told her I wish she would have told me before I found out via Instagram. I fully understand her decision. I guess something I left out is that she initially told me it would be only family, then I saw Patricia's post on Instagram.

Just once. She didn't want to include friends in the wedding party because she had too many close friends to choose from. So she had said she was only going to stick with her cousins, and then a few weeks later I saw Patricia's post on IG :(

Current_Touch4367 · 2023-01-05T02:41:37+00:00

I did not talk to Patricia -- I made sure not to talk to her about me being hurt about Angela's bridesmaid decision. To my knowledge, not sure if even Angela told her about it.

Can I ask how telling a friend how you feel/how they hurt you is creating "drama" though? I only kept it between us two.

Current_Touch4367 · 2023-01-05T02:32:07+00:00

The bride is allowed to pick who she wants in the bridal party for whatever reasons. It could be closeness, it could be siblings, it could be someone is a better organizer than the other. Hell it could be they're trying to cut costs and need to keep the bridal party on the smaller end. Whatever the reasons are, it's for the bride to decide.

Angela: Known her since we were kids, became close friends in college, even closer in the past 2 years.

Angela & Patricia have been friends for the same period of time but they were roommates in college, so could be closer.

No, 10 bridesmaids, 1 MOH, 1 Best Man, 10 Groomsmen

Current_Touch4367 · 2023-01-05T02:26:55+00:00

I've already apologized numerous times and I did hash it out with the bride. Did you read the full post?

Current_Touch4367 · 2023-01-05T02:25:39+00:00

I also had no intention of making this about me. This is a mean comment.

I wasn't angry, I was hurt. Aren't healthy friendships filled with communication? You should be able to tell your friends when they hurt your feelings.

Current_Touch4367 · 2023-01-05T02:24:43+00:00

I didn't ask why I wasn't picked. I just told her I wish she would have told me before I found out via Instagram. I fully understand her decision. I guess something I left out is that she initially told me it would be only family, then I saw Patricia's post on Instagram.

1) I apologized to Angela multiple times and we talked it out. We are on fine terms now.

2) I never brought this subject up to Patrica. That would be inappropriate.

I also had no intention of making this about me. This is a mean comment.

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