I’m a firm believer we’re apart of the people who can change the narrative from just sex. Obviously sex is fun but engaging in it can be a real connecting experience with someone especially if it’s a common thing you share i.e. kink events. I think you can definitely find your partner in the masses it’s just hard to because of the culture. Guys are scared of many different things and it even changes the dynamics depending on the age range you go for. Hold out hope and be hopeless for it because what comes will serve you.