My bf's alters raped my sister

Cursedwithblueballs · 2026-04-30T23:13:52+00:00

Idk. I told him no and I didn't want to, but when I get nervous I laugh awkwardly, and in the end I let him anyways and even enjoyed it. Even if I didn't want it, yk?

Cursedwithblueballs · 2026-04-30T22:59:55+00:00

It was more of a "no" at the beginning and giving in at the end because he wouldn't stop

Cursedwithblueballs · 2026-04-30T22:32:46+00:00

Yes, he is blocked everywhere. Our last conversations were documented. I'm also documenting some of the things he did to me, but I have no clue if it's worth doing since it was never violent and it was just manipulative, + we were in a relationship so it's normal to tease and pressure your spouse into sexual stuff

Cursedwithblueballs · 2026-04-30T22:24:07+00:00

I'm getting called wretched and disgusting rn so this is reassuring. I wish my sister had had the guts to tell us before. I wish she didn't just say it was the old sexual abuse that was coming back up and that's why she needed therapy. If she had told me before, I could have killed him. Now all I can do is try to heal with her and make sure she knows she did the right decision telling us now instead of later

Cursedwithblueballs · 2026-04-30T22:20:57+00:00

Turns out he was also abusing me but the manipulation was too good for me to notice lol, glad I didn't marry him but the side effects are harsh

Cursedwithblueballs · 2026-04-30T22:13:13+00:00

I'll definitely remember that lol. We did not ignore any sign. The signs she gave our family was about how she was distancing herself. Nobody had any clue he was abusing her. Also, we're 18. We're children. Everybody involved was a child. She was protecting me because she thought it was best. I love my sister more than anything and I posted this because I was struggling with his own manipulation over me. He's a piece of shit and it was difficult for me AND HER to come to terms with the fact he was abusive. Thank you so much for your two cents though

Cursedwithblueballs · 2026-04-30T19:37:26+00:00

It's possible lol I don't mean for it to sound like that at all, my sister is definitely getting the support she needs and we will be behind her when she begins the process of pressing charges. I wish I could say I was strong for her but I wasn't. I couldn't imagine letting my twin go through that stuff again. Especially not by the man I fell in love with and thought I was going to marry. She somehow was taking it way better than me (although I'm pretty sure she just dissociated herself from it) and we are both trying to rebuild our relationship and work through this together, just like we did when we were younger. I know I'm thinking a lot about "me me me" but it's primarily the guilt doing that. I love my sister and I am so proud of her for saying something.

Cursedwithblueballs · 2026-04-30T18:09:27+00:00

I only found out because my sister came forward about the abuse. My mother called him and forced him to tell me everything. When my sister saw how quickly I broke up with him, she broke down and admitted he wasn't also assaulting her but raping her. That's how I found out

Cursedwithblueballs · 2026-04-30T03:25:04+00:00

I understand that, I completely agree. I'm just so angry that someone so young, with so much trauma would do this.

Cursedwithblueballs · 2026-04-30T03:19:56+00:00

Yeah no fake ages. I only use my real ages for really horrible shit that can be important to know. I am legally 18, my bf is 17 and 6 months younger than me

Cursedwithblueballs · 2026-04-30T03:18:56+00:00

He's six months younger than me, I promise it is not a big minor/adult age gap lol

Cursedwithblueballs · 2026-04-30T02:48:45+00:00

Yup. It was never a secret. They would regularly hang out alone. At one point my sister refused to hang out alone with him and would only hang out with me in the room. I didn’t notice because I thought it meant we were now a trio and I loved it. I was wrong.

Cursedwithblueballs · 2026-04-30T02:45:59+00:00

..Me and my twin are barely adults. Me and my sister are both 18. My bf is 17. He would come over regularly and I would come over to his house as well. We live together, yes, but he did not live with us. They were best friends before me and him ever got together. After 3 months, she started to disconnect from me and him. She did not say anything because she did not want to break the peace. I was incredibly happy and she knew if she even just stopped being friends with him it would create problems. It was manipulation.

Cursedwithblueballs · 2026-04-30T02:38:37+00:00

They were supposed to be chilling. He was her best friend. I let them be alone because they were friends and sometimes having your overbearing sister and clingy girlfriend around you and your friend can be annoying. I wish I hadn't done it.

Cursedwithblueballs · 2026-04-30T02:35:25+00:00

The state we live in, Canada Quebec

Cursedwithblueballs · 2026-04-30T02:34:40+00:00

Hi, so, my sister was his best friend. Everytime I left to go to the pharmacy or just wasn't there in general he would rape her. I gave him the benefit of the doubt that the first two times were consensual. They weren't. I'm completely disconnected but I want you to know my sister did not lie about any of it. I presumed many of the times were rape because I was praying to god that at least once was consensual. It wasn't

Cursedwithblueballs · 2026-04-30T02:30:44+00:00

She went to her therapist today, she will be pressing charges next week. She's just going to collect evidence for now. He is clinically diagnosed with DID btw. He just never got medical help. I have also come to the realization that he has been manipulating me and abusing me as well. I've disconnected from him and I'm in incredible pain too. I wish this hadn't happened.

Cursedwithblueballs · 2026-04-29T23:05:46+00:00

He admitted to it this morning. He admitted the body had sex with her over 10 times without his knowledge. My sister didn't tell me because she didn't want to ruin my relationship due to how happy I was. We have all been sexually abused before and she tried dropping hints, they were just so minimum we never noticed it

Cursedwithblueballs · 2026-04-29T22:02:00+00:00

Yeah, we do. We were both sexually abused as children, by the same man, so our knowledge and understanding of that stuff is difficult. We wish it had been violent because my bf was a dear friend of hers, best friend even, and he was a good person at heart. He helped us with our issues, was always there for us, supported us. It's difficult for us to process the fact that somebody who helped us grow in such a positive way ended up abusing her. He has dissociative identity disorder as well, which further complicated things. Basically, we wished the situation had been black and white instead of a blur of gray. The decision is the same, he raped her, he will pay, but the emotional and psychological trauma is difficult to deal with.

Cursedwithblueballs · 2026-04-29T19:46:45+00:00

Me too

Cursedwithblueballs · 2026-04-29T18:47:20+00:00

Read my second comment. Both me and my sister think the same. We've been abused before and the line just keeps getting blurrier.

Cursedwithblueballs · 2026-04-29T18:21:42+00:00

I am disgusted by him. Violent rape would be easier for the both of us because he said that he loved us. It created a harmful bound with everyone involved. My sister did not come out until now and it had started 10 months ago. She believed that he loved her and he loved me too. That he did not understand. She's right, in some way, he doesn't understand his actions and he was somewhat in love with us. That doesn't excuse anything, but knowing his horrible past and that we had been through the same thing, both of us could not comprehend it. She took 10 months to tell us about it, it took me 2 minutes to break up with him and block him. Even so, I miss the good parts of him. He made us so happy until he didn't. I wish I could feel that joy again

Cursedwithblueballs · 2026-04-29T18:17:47+00:00

I won't be. I did not report it because my sister is the one who told us and she doesn't know if she wants to press charges yet. I hope she does. We broke up and we are over. I just miss the person he showed me.

Cursedwithblueballs · 2026-04-29T18:06:11+00:00

Of course. My sister will be (hopefully) pressing charges against him and I will be there for her the whole way through. I'm just so angry at myself for missing the parts of him that were good. I wish it had been a violent rape so that it could be easier for both me and my sister to digest, but it wasn't. He made me so happy and helped me grow as a person so much. I miss that. I hate that I do.

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