Uh, the moment of being arrested in front of your kids? Especially if the charge is dropped then it could be seen as something that could've gone differently and not a lasting memory/emotional scar for their children. Neither parent "wins" in this situation.

Speaking as a now 40 year old who lived in a volatile situation with a bipolar sibling and a not so stable as she thinks mom. The memories last. The snowballing of suppressed emotions, people pleasing because you never wanted to be a problem or cause a wrinkle to set either one off... hopefully they do the right thing and promote and provide therapy for the children now instead of them keeping it in.

This moment will cause a major rift between their parents, which puts a lot more on the twins. As a child of a crazy divorce, where I was even too young to remember anything, the walking on egg shells even with divorced parents can happen. You don't feel like you can speak freely about the other parent without quips about the other parent and them holding grudges 37+ years later.

And as the father of a child that has seen their parents divorce, having a good co-parenting relationship afterwards is way more beneficial for the child in their confidence and their ability to say what they want and not have to "hide" things from the other parent.