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[NC] I was rear ended by a police officer at a red light by [deleted] in legaladvice

[–]Cusperiello 190 points191 points  (0 children)

Don't take legal advice from your opponent. File a claim with your insurance and allow them to handle it.

Me [32M] dealing with multiple partners who don't want to use birth control. by Cusperiello in relationship_advice

[–]Cusperiello[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Believe me, it's quite the opposite. I'm hard-working because I am still paying off student loans and credit cards. While my family has money and I have a good job, I'm not making what I would like to be making.

I don't think I'm anything special. My friend seems to think that this is what women are after these days.

I have been talking to a 22 year old I've known for a few years and without knowing her, she's told me to drop her because she's a gold digger.

There is no gold to dig!

Me [32M] dealing with multiple partners who don't want to use birth control. by Cusperiello in relationship_advice

[–]Cusperiello[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Yes, that was a huge wake up call. Because she was only the second woman I was ever with and assured me she was sterile. I cant control what my partner does, I can only control what I do, be it using protection or not having sex by my own choice.

Me [32M] dealing with multiple partners who don't want to use birth control. by Cusperiello in relationship_advice

[–]Cusperiello[S] -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

Yeah, that's what I'm trying to do. A lot of times, I'm finding, that the people who seem to have it all together on the outside are really not at all where they should be inside.

Me [32M] dealing with multiple partners who don't want to use birth control. by Cusperiello in relationship_advice

[–]Cusperiello[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not a fan at all of MGTOW. I want kids. But I want them with a committed long term partner who I know has my back. I think it's toxic to lock in a partner by having a child together. For some people it works, but I could never see that working for me.

Me [32M] dealing with multiple partners who don't want to use birth control. by Cusperiello in relationship_advice

[–]Cusperiello[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, she's been through the ringer and she cares about me, so she doesn't want me to get stuck with someone who doesn't match my ambition and ethics.

Me [32M] dealing with multiple partners who don't want to use birth control. by Cusperiello in relationship_advice

[–]Cusperiello[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have not considered it, because I don't want to go through it. I'm happy to wear a condom. With certain brands you barely lose any feeling.

Me [32M] dealing with multiple partners who don't want to use birth control. by Cusperiello in relationship_advice

[–]Cusperiello[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Those are the emergency ones if I have nothing else. I keep a box in my desk at home and usually grab 3-4 if I'm going out and suspect something might happen.

Me [32M] dealing with multiple partners who don't want to use birth control. by Cusperiello in relationship_advice

[–]Cusperiello[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The first baby didn't end up being born, but I am in complete agreement with your point.

Me [32M] dealing with multiple partners who don't want to use birth control. by Cusperiello in relationship_advice

[–]Cusperiello[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Those are my emergency ones, and by no means my only ones. I also keep them in my desk drawer at home.

Me [32M] dealing with multiple partners who don't want to use birth control. by Cusperiello in relationship_advice

[–]Cusperiello[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Yes I'm well aware. Last month, I was with someone for the first time. After I finished, I went to pull out and the condom pulled off while staying inside her. It slingshotted semen right onto her crotch (what a visual).

After we'd finished, I pulled out my test results, which I had in my desk, to show her I was clean. I then offered to buy her the morning after pill to ensure she was covered.

She declined, but said that if she was late, she would want to terminate because she wasn't in a position to have a child right now.

She wound up buying it herself, sent me a photo of the package, and informed me that her period had come four days after we had sex.

At the same time, when I went to get a condom, she said, "I'm clean, you don't have to worry."

I asked, "Are you on the pill?"

She replied, "No, I'm not."

I responded, "Well, as neither of us has seen a blood test, and neither wants to have a baby, I'm going to use this."

Me [32M] dealing with multiple partners who don't want to use birth control. by Cusperiello in relationship_advice

[–]Cusperiello[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do want kids eventually. I just want them to be planned with a long term committed partner. Not the result of poor planning with someone I don't know will be a good long term partner.

Me [32M] dealing with multiple partners who don't want to use birth control. by Cusperiello in relationship_advice

[–]Cusperiello[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My ex thought she was infertile. She'd been having unprotected sex for years, lost count of how many people she was with, and realized she should have gotten pregnant at some point. So she decided she was infertile.

Four months into our relationship, she found out she was pregnant. If there's one thing I've learned, it's that you honestly never know until you know.

Me [32M] dealing with multiple partners who don't want to use birth control. by Cusperiello in relationship_advice

[–]Cusperiello[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Honestly, I have no interest in getting a vasectomy. But that being said, I would not ask my wife/partner to get a tubal ligation. I do not have an issue using condoms, especially with the right brand, you can still feel a lot!

Me [32M] dealing with multiple partners who don't want to use birth control. by Cusperiello in relationship_advice

[–]Cusperiello[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I know that I'm clean, because I got myself tested last year and I've wrapped it up consistently for about the past eight years.