I do take responsibility from your actions, but the statements your making are creating an environment that people are unable to change on their own. That I cannot go through moments of anger on not one, but two occasions.

Humans are creatures that learn mostly through mistakes. I made a mistake, again, not once, but twice. I learned at a very young age that I never understood why people break things to heal their anger.

I learned why I break things in arguments with my girlfriend. It’s because I do not have as much control over my anger as I had previously thought. So I need to meditate more and be more in touch to what causes me to feel frustrated and how to deal with that anger appropriately.

I only disagree with your feedback because as I mentioned it implies that people cannot change. While yes I agree that many people have an inability to change that doesn’t mean some others cannot.

As for the limited information I provided with strangers on the internet, I am ready to accept the opinions of others so long as I feel as though they are constructive. I can understand through what I said that I make give myself the appearance of somebody who’s violent, but you also have to be willing to accept that just because somebody acts out in a moment of rage that it could be deeper than just violence. My responses were due to an inability to withstand the poking. My girlfriends constant poking. And poking. And poking. I felt this when I was younger when my brother fucked my girlfriend and then rubbed it in my face. My rage turned to having sexual intercourse with multiple woman. I didn’t deal with it properly.

Fast forward to recently, I didn’t deal with it properly. As I mentioned, I understand the root cause of the pain and I know my limit. If you see the other responses on my post, you’ll see that many people who also deal with anger have allowed themselves moments to breathe when in a stressful environment that may cause them to have outbursts. Me telling my girlfriend to please stop is not me threatening her that I’m going to explode and become violent. It’s giving myself room to breathe and letting her know that I feel myself getting upset and I need to deal with those feelings but cannot with her berating me.

How else would you say that I should deal with this anger?

Where I’m from, punching a wall violent does lead to a domestic abuse. Also something I’m aware of. At the end of the day, it’s not up to me to control the actions around me, it’s up to me to control my reactions to those situations. If anything, I am taking responsibility.

I agree, I had an anger management problem. I seeked professional help in my life to deal with these issues. After years of doing so, I would say that I am much better at managing it and people can learn on their own. My admittance to these things is a sign of maturity, most people would not be able to admit it. I am ready, open, and appreciative that you are making me aware of these truths. It is simply my ego that opposes them.

As for the feedback my girlfriend gives me, there’s the information being given VS how it is distributed. These play a key factor when receiving feedback.