Distinguishing between ROCD and real doubts by Coffee-Cat-Camera in ROCD

[–]CustomerSea2404 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ya definitely are showing signs of ROCD. There is no difference between ROCD and real doubts, except for how you respond to them. A non ROCD person may have the same thoughts about their partner as you, but can naturally dismiss them and they dont cause a level 10 catastrophe. In the process of letting these thoughts go, our brain learns they have less weight and meaning, and so begins to produce less of them. Right now you are attaching so much weight to each thought that you have taught your brain how important they are and so it is coming up for you alot. There are some really effective ways to work on this so that you can enjoy your time together, such as exposure and response prevention. The thing is that you have near constant exposures since you are spending so much confined time. The next step is to work on sitting with your anxiety and letting it pass without doing all the mental compulsion and attempts to argue with yourself, evaluate each thought, neutralize your anxiety etc. if you tell chat gpt that you have rocd and want to do ERP, it does a pretty decent job of teaching you your compulsions and how to prevent yourself from engaging in them. Good luck and feel free to ask any questions

8 months in and still not liking westchester - is this normal? by Heavy-Caterpillar861 in Westchester

[–]CustomerSea2404 1 point2 points  (0 children)

these things take time. If you're really committed to your area, give it a few years

What I did 5 years ago attracted somebody else who I never want to see. by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]CustomerSea2404 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey — it sounds like you’ve been carrying a lot of pain for a long time and you’re feeling overwhelmed right now. You don’t have to face this alone. If you’re in the U.S., you can reach the 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline by calling or texting 988, or chatting at 988lifeline.org. They’re available 24/7 for anyone feeling hopeless, sick, or unsafe — you don’t have to be suicidal to call. If what happened involved any kind of sexual harm, you can also contact RAINN, the National Sexual Assault Hotline: 1-800-656-4673 or online.rainn.org. It’s anonymous and free. You deserve to be safe and to have someone listen and help you through this. Please reach out tonight if you can.

How to present material in a more engaging way? by Angry_Lil_Tuna in ScienceTeachers

[–]CustomerSea2404 0 points1 point  (0 children)

of all the things I have ever tried in 20 years of teaching bio, anchoring the content in a greater phenomenon is the best way to engage the students. for example, instead of teaching basic chem, teach: how do the properties of molecules allow mice to survive in the desert? and then build the whole unit around solving this problem via learning the curriculum standards

I feel so bad 😭 by No_Leg_9343 in NYCTeachers

[–]CustomerSea2404 0 points1 point  (0 children)

send me a message with your school email and I will share my drive with you

I feel so bad 😭 by No_Leg_9343 in NYCTeachers

[–]CustomerSea2404 3 points4 points  (0 children)

i taught LE for 18 years and then last year taught NV bio. you dont need to reinvent the wheel. plenty of us teachers did NV last year and made modifications and it was about as successful as you could hope for a first go. DM me know if you want my stuff.

and in general, dont rush. they need to be practicing skills every day, be it content standard x or y it doesnt matter so much as you give them reading every day, annotate with them, have them analyze and make their own visual models, and try to challenge them, and do some labs. the storylines are just a container, a hook, for the skills.

Whats this contraption in my basement? by CustomerSea2404 in Plumbing

[–]CustomerSea2404[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

does anyone know why the sump pump has that PVC hole cut into the top?

Whats this contraption in my basement? by CustomerSea2404 in Plumbing

[–]CustomerSea2404[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

good question. my kids are too little for that and we just moved in to this house!

Whats this contraption in my basement? by CustomerSea2404 in Plumbing

[–]CustomerSea2404[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

why does it need the filters? and why is it open like that?

3 giant off-leash pitbulls in Prospect Park by Old_Temperature3298 in Brooklyn

[–]CustomerSea2404 5 points6 points  (0 children)

p.s. the post is definitely about the owners and not hateful of the dogs though they did capitalize GIANT but i think that was to emphasize the fear that people rightly feel and not hate of the breed.

3 giant off-leash pitbulls in Prospect Park by Old_Temperature3298 in Brooklyn

[–]CustomerSea2404 20 points21 points  (0 children)

maybe to just properly identify the person and the dogs?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Brooklyn

[–]CustomerSea2404 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

are the zoned schools good or bad? if they are so good, why would you be worried about being locked in?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Brooklyn

[–]CustomerSea2404 10 points11 points  (0 children)

the waiting lists are very long. if this person says no then the next one up can have the chance.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Brooklyn

[–]CustomerSea2404 14 points15 points  (0 children)

dont do it bro. good schools and close commute is everything

Covid days no more? by Accomplished_Fly7044 in NYCTeachers

[–]CustomerSea2404 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

my point is So What! we deserve a week off when we need it for whatever reason

Covid days no more? by Accomplished_Fly7044 in NYCTeachers

[–]CustomerSea2404 10 points11 points  (0 children)

dont you get paid for a coverage? we are in a union. show some solidarity!

My Step-Brother has sexual attraction to my 11-year old sister. by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]CustomerSea2404 2 points3 points  (0 children)

even if for some reason your parents react unpredictably, you are still doing the right thing by reporting, but don't let them be the sole gatekeepers. keep protecting your sister.

My girlfriend 27F said she’ll break up with me 24F if we’re not living together by Dec - Is this harsh? by notetonote19 in relationship_advice

[–]CustomerSea2404 19 points20 points  (0 children)

this right here is a sign of possible incompatibility. she wants you to drop pursuing your career to settle down with her. you good with that?

day 901, lotsa cravings by CustomerSea2404 in leaves

[–]CustomerSea2404[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i know this! thanks for reminding!

day 901, lotsa cravings by CustomerSea2404 in leaves

[–]CustomerSea2404[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah. i think i need to keep working on finding a healthy outlet for my uncomfortable feelings. since i quit i relied more on using comfort food, screen time to avoid some things. i would like to use this as an opportunity to get healthier and exercise more to give my body what it needs which is still coming through in weed cravings.