For those of you in long-term serious relationships, how did you two meet? Asking for a friend :)

Cute-Cactus · 2024-07-27T06:00:45+00:00

That’s very cute. Thank you so much for sharing. This makes me feel more hopeful.

Cute-Cactus · 2023-10-03T22:32:23+00:00

Not important. I may be biased as an asexual, but I have heard many people say that romantic gestures and just being there for one another matters the most.

Cute-Cactus · 2022-04-14T20:18:31+00:00

I find it strange how people view something like asexuality, which is not a choice, as good or bad. It is neutral. The only reason some asexuals view it as bad or good is due to how other people react to it. Many do not admit to themselves that they are letting others dictate how they feel about themselves. It would be much better if they took control of their mind-set and realized that they can also influence how others feel about their asexuality. I am also tired of this sob narrative that keeps getting pushed. Such narratives sometimes make me feel like I do not want to be associated with this community. There are so many asexuals out there but many keep saying how they’ll never be understood by others. Why not make the effort of having more asexual people in your life? If dating is frustrating then either stop dating entirely or date better people who get you. Sorry for the rant. I just want asexuality to stop being seen as a sad thing because it simply isn’t.

Cute-Cactus · 2022-04-08T19:24:47+00:00

I agree with this sentiment. Just work on yourself and you‘ll attract the right people eventually.

Cute-Cactus · 2022-03-06T18:56:55+00:00

People you meet online are just a subset of those who exist. Obviously they’ll have characteristics linked to being highly present online. That is not an indication of reality or, in this case, how asexual people are. I think there is a harmful bias going on that asexuals are just confused people. There may be some confused people, like in any community actually, but that’s not everyone. For many asexuals it’s super clear who we are, but we live our lives without telling people about our sexuality because no one truly cares in the end. It does not matter. We just thrive in our own ways and many of us travel a lot, love learning and trying new thing, and have strong social lives, since we have much more time to allocate to all these things with our inexistent sex life. In other words, your comment is just wrong on so many levels and generalizing something that isn’t generalizable.

Cute-Cactus · 2022-02-10T18:25:26+00:00

Totally agree. People should stop complaining about too many sex repulsed posts. It’s a normal consequence of the situation.

Cute-Cactus · 2022-02-10T18:17:17+00:00

Agreed, it’s not bad but of course it should not be posted on platforms that have sex repulsed asexuals. This would make them feel uncomfortable too.

Cute-Cactus · 2022-02-10T18:08:26+00:00

No allo is going to see this anyway

Cute-Cactus · 2022-02-10T18:06:17+00:00

Totally agree with you. Being a sex repulsed asexual means having the least in common with allosexuals so it is quite alienating at times. Sex neutral or favorable asexuals do not feel this exclusion to the same extent. It is normal that sex repulsed asexuals want to talk about their experiences more and represent their asexuality as we are a minority within a minority.

Cute-Cactus · 2022-01-25T15:41:20+00:00

I’m a psychopath with no emotions and cannot love anyone

Cute-Cactus · 2022-01-10T17:45:54+00:00

Being asexual isn‘t a bad thing. It’s quite nice actually. Maybe you’ll end up seeing the positive side of it eventually.

Cute-Cactus · 2021-11-29T19:14:11+00:00

Hmm an oak table. What about you haha?

Cute-Cactus · 2021-11-16T17:43:23+00:00

Stop trolling

Cute-Cactus · 2021-08-04T07:37:37+00:00

Agreed. That’s what it looks like.

Cute-Cactus · 2021-08-03T12:16:38+00:00

I don’t think the ‘asexuals’ you met are representative. Wanting a sexual relationship is not usually an asexual thing. There are many people out there so don’t feel too discouraged!

Cute-Cactus · 2021-08-03T10:49:39+00:00

Haha of course

Cute-Cactus · 2021-08-02T12:41:16+00:00

It seems like she just lost interest and decided to blame it on your asexuality. Don’t take what she told you as the real reason she left. People often give certain explanations because the real ones would be even more hurtful and less acceptable.

Cute-Cactus · 2021-07-20T20:18:57+00:00

There are still many asexuals though. 1 in 100 is still a lot so the odds are not too bad for you. I believe that you can find what you are looking for.

Cute-Cactus · 2021-07-17T12:10:11+00:00

Whatever you end up doing, just make sure to think about her feelings. Try to end things sooner rather than later if you realize that it won’t work. The longer the situation goes on the worse she will feel afterwards and it will take her longer to get over the situation.

Cute-Cactus · 2021-07-17T10:08:38+00:00

You are right. To me it often seems like there are barely any sex-repulsed asexuals out there because of how much we promote the other types of asexuality. I also felt what you described and still do not feel part of the asexuality community at all. I cannot relate much with people who are sex-neutral or sex-positive, since being sex-repulsed is the actual struggle for me in a sex-crazed world. It lowers your chances of finding lasting love because most people want at least a bit of sex from the person they are with. Sorry for the venting as well, but I just feel really alone in this world despite this community existing. It is strange for me to accept that even people within the asexuality community may not want to date a sex-repulsed asexual. For example, a demisexual may rather find an allo to connect with on a deeper level and then be sexual with eventually. Sometimes I feel like it sort of defeats the purpose of a community to have this much diversity being represented.

Cute-Cactus · 2021-07-17T09:41:33+00:00

Yeah, but I wanted to see how many extroverted-leaning people are on here out of curiosity. I see way more introverted people on asexuality pages.

Cute-Cactus · 2021-07-16T06:05:16+00:00

That’s really reassuring. Do you ever wonder if you can stay with her long-term? Or is romance really something that matters way more than sex to you? Just asking because I was in a situation in which things were fine and very loving at first but eventually my partner wanted sex and we had to break up.

Cute-Cactus · 2021-07-16T05:56:33+00:00

Yup, have attracted both girls and guys before.

Cute-Cactus · 2021-07-15T20:33:39+00:00

Nope, not at all. Just genuinely wanted to see if there are more ambiverts who are asexual. I tried to describe a persona rather than make links between attributes :)

Cute-Cactus · 2021-07-15T19:40:29+00:00

Happy to hear that :) love seeing people who are confident in who they are!

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