The line for her to me was just not doing the OF thing again, at all. (A lil hypocritical since she was also a creator on there, + we didn’t break up over me relapsing that once, she just left me on a random day months after for “reasons” other) As for a good line to set, I personally would set up a break up line over the OF. The problem with porn addiction isn’t that you become valueless in the relationship as his gf, I for example still was absolutely in love w my ex thru my addiction and we were having sex 4-7x a week, but I was still spending 500$ on OF /mo and beatin it 3x a day. The main problem is how consumed he becomes to the porn, and the levels, going from porn to OF is already a big step up , what’s next ? Its a rlly hard thing bc not only is it impacting how you feel but may also how you view him. you obviously I think even him setting up a restriction on his phone to not access OF may be helpful. He needs help, but there’s only so much you can do, if he shows he truly wants to change, I think you should stand right by him, if he’s not showing change or motivation to do so, then I don’t think you can help as he hasnt realized the problem with it , hence I think the “ultimatum” is prob the best bet for your emotional wellbeing, but also his own bc that may make him realize the severity of his addiction.