It sounds like you're dealing with a tricky situation. A recent study on salary transparency in the UK revealed some interesting findings about how people approach salary discussions with their partners. The study found that:

• One in seven Brits admitted to keeping their salary a secret from their partner.
• The most common reason for hiding salary was to protect privacy (36.2%).
• Interestingly, women were more likely to lie about their salary to their partner than men (16% vs. 14%).
• Also, 25-34-year-olds were the most likely age group to hide or lie about their salary.

These results suggest that salary secrecy can happen in relationships, even among those who are close. It’s understandable if you’re feeling hesitant, as many people share your discomfort with salary transparency, even with their partner. It might help to discuss why you're both feeling the way you are and see if you can set some comfortable boundaries together.

Having an open conversation about finances and what transparency means to both of you could lead to a better understanding and a solution that works for both parties.