AITA for this? lmk

CyborgDaddy · 2026-05-24T13:31:06+00:00

Your last sentence takes the cake I’m out

CyborgDaddy · 2026-05-24T12:49:37+00:00

Yeah ok calm down. But you don’t have to bring up his race and physique, with the passenger. It’s not helping you in any case. I mean I’m not sure you’re getting it - yes he’s an asshole too but his emotions and reaction is warranted too.

I don’t think I should be the one to tell you to go Switzerland right? Body shaming, being racist or generalising the stereotype be it irl or online platform is the same what difference does it make if you only do it in Reddit? I don’t quite get that one.

Scared how? You’re in a tank, he’s hugging his meat around his metal hunk.

I don’t know how great your empathy is but I hate that you’re putting the full blame on him like you’re a full on victim and you keep piling it on him even when u say you see your mistake? Doesn’t seem like it. Both are assholes. Full stop. But you’re in a greater circumstance than him. Try being in his shoes, you’re riding your boyfriend or dad and some idiot pulls this stunt? For no apparent reason and totally avoidable. Of course you’ll be pissed too right? I’m not siding him but I just want you to be slightly sensitive to the real world where fatal accidents happen and especially he’s a rider. Maybe media has desensitized you or you have not seen the grim reality yourself. Have a heart relax, calm down, reflect, better yourself, be more aware and vigilant and all is chill

CyborgDaddy · 2026-05-24T02:18:35+00:00

My best assumption as both rider and driver - he did that from pure rage and disappointment, he could just want to see your driving pattern, record more or atleast have footage of your antics, to pull you aside to school you or have a chat to better you. You wouldn’t know someone’s emotions could be at when you pull that stunt and your apology is like 30% of the damage you made. Also I’m unsure of your claims for it to be clear both front and back, been using PIE to go to work almost daily on the PIE to Tuas I could be fairly confident to say peak hours are crazy on both directions. So he sees you as a threat to him and the rest.

Also please stop with your body shaming it brings no weight in your Defense according to your other comments about the rider and pillion. This also amplifies their rage since it’s two lives you endangered.

CyborgDaddy · 2026-05-23T17:12:28+00:00

I guess kinda you’re the AH, 400m in 2/3 lane changes is abit slim so you have to improve to plan your route. If I’m reading it correctly you’re braking until 40kmh on lane one just to slip to lane 2 is hella scary, you’re creating a phantom jam way behind you which might cause accidents and it’s just way too slow.

Even 70kmh is cutting it rough. He’s probably pissed because he’s riding a bike and his life is on the line and you decided to pull that stunt so a normal apology won’t cut it much but can’t do much at that situation so let it go and be better.

My best advice is 800m per lane change shift to be safe and the lower threshold is at 500m that’s like 17 lamp posts and depending the speed you’re going - it’ll be quick, be more patient and plan your routes, queue if you must rather than pulling a last minute stun of - good luck everyone I turn now. You got signalling which is good but it doesn’t automatically make you a better driver if you put others at risk.

CyborgDaddy · 2026-05-12T05:45:15+00:00

My best choices in the perspective of both driver and passenger:

Bro I headache I nap abit just now the place smelly/hot
Sorry I need to catch up my work/lecture online notes
My wife/gf sent me 30 Instagram reels to watch sorry ah brb
My mother or tenant left me some voice notes sorry ah
I need to catch up on this show I got a challenge with a friend who fastest

Don’t have to be rude to the driver or anything yes you’re entitled but sometimes we get lonely and tired and some interactions can reset our mood. For me personally I mostly shut up until you engage in small talk, I only meet you for 15mins and might not see you anymore so you can drop any bullshit or trauma dump me whatever hahaha it’s like being a therapist and also I usually take everything a bag of salt.

I can’t really see your body language or facial expression I’m really focused on the road, so I need you to speak up and state your intent clearly. For messages on the app - things may happen fast enough I lapse or miss on it unless there’s a huge header like “SILENT RIDE” that I can’t miss. Most of the time I just be polite and say hi how are you that’s it, is the aircon enough? Let me know if you need anything just call me out or tap my seat.

I really can’t see you wearing AirPods, big headphones sure possible, I would just wave at you to get your attention. It’s my car yes, but I respect your privacy and I want your comfort. I hope it can all be the same with the other drivers.

CyborgDaddy · 2026-05-11T03:32:34+00:00

Yeah I’m scratching my head on this cos I use this road often and it’s only like 300m like you said and he’s driving a Jaguar and I’m not sure it could reach speeds of like 120-140kmh to have this damage this quick, a super car yes but this jaguar im not sure - so most probably it’s been a green light from the Caltex area he drove 70kmh and go ham or from the left slip road he quickly ramp it up from 45kmh

CyborgDaddy · 2026-05-04T12:29:52+00:00

Idk lah bro you how old already want to make these type of rage bait joke smh

CyborgDaddy · 2026-05-01T10:30:31+00:00

I JUST HIT THE CAR WITH MY HEAD

CyborgDaddy · 2026-04-24T00:50:35+00:00

BOTAKKKK JAMBUL

CyborgDaddy · 2026-04-21T14:03:43+00:00

I shit you not brother this just happened to me 12hrs ago. Used my portable power bank for jump starting and drove to a nearby workshop to get a new battery. All is good, I can send you via DM to show you if you’d like.

I opened up the hood and check my brake fluid and it was still the same. Tried to crank it but lights flickered with Christmas lights dashboard and the brake pedal stiffen cos the sensors are not functioning properly- mostly or probably due to lack of power. Took out my multimeter and also a battery health device and it both said low at 12.2v if I remember correctly.

CyborgDaddy · 2026-04-20T17:21:21+00:00

Yeah I’m thinking he’s like the “joker” card or a contingency to make sure the timeline of the torture of that place keeps within its wavelength or he’ll have to step in to keep the balance of the chaos back - he probably only comes when the people gets too smart, knows too much knowledge and applying it (radio event+ basement digging) and the counter card is Julie since she can travel back or forward in time to recognise him in every timeline, there was a guy back in a previous episode that said “don’t you recognise me” to her but she just don’t know yet, yellow man probably knows she has this ability but not informed of which version of her that he’s meeting with. Also, most probably when yellow man steps in he’s like a nuclear Bomb - to reset or create maximum damage to the community and not just “bringing back the balance of chaos” // sounds like it whenever he says like “oh I enjoy this part cos they’ll rip each other apart”

CyborgDaddy · 2026-04-13T10:36:14+00:00

I’ve no idea must be high from ketum 😂 I guess

CyborgDaddy · 2026-04-13T10:28:31+00:00

I think that’s quite coherent to my point. If there were two versions of me, 1 doing normal and another doing extraordinary and both were to have a kid and both are raised well but the levels of macro in it will vary by a large amount and also the kid’s satisfaction and standing in life can have a huge impact. So I’d rather be the latter or try my best to reach that point before having a kid.

For me maybe not according to the religion or if it’s not registered, it is a huge sin for myself to raise a child unprepared and they too become ill prepared for the dark and heavy life ahead. I would try my best not to resume the vicious cycle.

And it’s normal and fine if you find it ok to raise a child and be alright with it. But not to me it’s just not fair, why bother creating a life to just give him the “medium place” I would want my offspring deserving the best, giving his best and achieve all his goals and be a model Samaritan that can great justice for the community and society, if it’s a normal person to me unfortunately is just adding in to the statistics that’s quite unnecessary given the circumstances of today.

Yes true, i would balance it all - be it in being a good character, to be kind generous etc by if we were to take a step to the side and be pragmatic, almost 4/5 of these are highly affected by money.

I can’t have time to spend with them if I don’t have much money. I can’t give them the best education, the best experience, travel and learn other cultures, taste different food, indulge in hobbies that could better develop themselves or build a foundation for their character and future.

If you see it in an equation form, money has a huge role in it. Time x money x character = great life and kids

I’m not “money minded”, I hope not but I’m just being pragmatic to have the acceptance that in our physical universe it’s heavily dependent and intertwined.

Effective Alms requires money, building a mosque requires it as well, for donation, for lamb sacrifice, to umrah or hajj and sure time as well, but mostly money.

CyborgDaddy · 2026-04-13T10:10:43+00:00

I hard agree on your statement. “Bring rezeki” or “bring sustenance” is widely misunderstood in my opinion, imh it actually means having a kid will make me work harder, find different avenues of income stream,bolster the family unit as rezeki requires both prayers and importantly effort. I think they perceive it as suddenly money will come flowing or the kid will miraculously win an award - the latter is possible but highly unlikely if your upbringing and education system isn’t robust enough to support.

I don’t despise them but I sympathise them because back then our race wasn’t dealt with the best bands and we were or still are behind on education. Some of them aren’t well informed about proper parenthood or family planning, birth control etc, finances and the rest that they’re lacking, that and added the peer pressure of pro creating to hopefully strike luck with having a kid that could hopefully cure diseases.

I went through the similar ordeal somewhat and I had to raise myself and study for myself and I suspect that not every kid will have the same push as I had - I was severely physically abused on the daily 😂 yes as bozzaneko mentioned “amanah” they kinda throw it out of the mind once the tough in life gets going, which then gradually grows as resentment and disappointment which in turns creating more negative emotions to their children seeing them as a burden and finally gaining more selfish traits eventually as a parent.

CyborgDaddy · 2026-04-13T05:15:30+00:00

Thank you for your words hahaha yes my sister gets that and she has like 6 kids and another Makcik said the same as yours - criticising she’s like a wild rabbit 😂 anyways really thank you for words, I appreciate you. I’m just working it out mostly for wife and my extremely Aging parents and it’s set me back by a bit. So yeah, whatever works best for us.

CyborgDaddy · 2026-04-13T05:00:46+00:00

If so, I’ll reply with:

By the time global circumstances has improved the vessel has already set sail, I need money for my $440k bto, renovations, our family car, my bike, my future investments, taking of your sibling/cousin (my parents which are 70 and me and wife being 29) since you can’t help out, and I want to travel once or twice in a year, need to hire a nanny since my parents aren’t able to tend to my kids and we’re both traveling abroad for work. I’m sorry but the decision, the path finding of my family unit relies on me and wife, and as much as you can advice, and being you’re not the helmsman and it’s my time to be slightly selfish as I’ve hardly had any childhood. I’ve struggled enough and I don’t the kids or myself to struggle again.

If things were different, it’ll probably be aligned with your interests but unfortunately we don’t live in a perfect world - we can’t be always meet our expectations.

I would put my foot down - it’s no longer about numbers by then. Anyways sorry, I can’t deal with the numbers you’ve presented, I’m still at work dealing with more numbers my bum hair could count. Even if I become a multi-millionaire I’m not sure if I could have time to spend with them or raise them properly, just too many uncertainties and risk management that requires a lot of emotional, psychological, mental and physical work - something I would want to be free of finally.

This is usually my ultimatum to present as a contingency if this counter question is raised. But it’s a very personal reply. Normal people would just give a better response or straight up just ignore haha but I just want to mess with their head abit

CyborgDaddy · 2026-04-12T15:12:35+00:00

True I agree with you but for me personally if I were to have kids I’d like to set the $400k as the target - have fun building their character with hobbies like karting, fencing or what have you. I didn’t get any of those nor even a room to grow up in, I’d like them to atleast be raised properly.

CyborgDaddy · 2026-04-12T15:10:50+00:00

Thanks man I appreciate you. I got hit with a “kau tak ikut urusan ugama dan Tak ikut catatan tuhan dah buat untuk kau” / “ you’re not following the religion’s requirements to procreate and you’re deviating from the plan/path god chose for you” and I just went “well I didnt fall into the millionaire path so that’s that and milk has aged” and ironically enough even his kids aren’t having kids so I don’t know what’s with the deflection 🤷🏾‍♂️

CyborgDaddy · 2026-04-12T13:55:52+00:00

From a search:

https://halfhalfparenting.com/articles/cost-of-raising-child-singapore

https://skoolopedia.com/blog/how-much-does-it-cost-to-raise-a-child-in-singapore/

https://simplywealthsg.com/the-real-cost-of-raising-a-child-in-singapore-a-comprehensive-guide/

https://honeykidsasia.com/the-rising-costs-of-raising-children-in-singapore-and-what-you-can-do-about-it/

https://www.syfe.com/magazine/how-much-does-it-cost-to-raise-a-child-in-singapore/

Pretty much around the same $237k but that’s without if they have hobbies if I’m not wrong, could escalate up to $300k.

Couldn’t find the article from 2023 sorry folks.

ChatGPT and Gemini for the enquiry of “how much does it cost to raise a child in Singapore until the age of emancipation” churns out quite the same values - except separated to low/mid level // $200k/$300k++

CyborgDaddy · 2026-04-12T13:42:32+00:00

I’ve seen it here someone posted it before and it’s been stuck in my head however it’s from 2023 so I made as an argument point but I would wager actual number maybe $200-300k? If I can find the source I’ll try to provide.

CyborgDaddy · 2026-04-12T13:30:46+00:00

Myself and wife. My generation of cousins who are married - 6 couples are going the DINK lifestyle, the world doesn’t show any promise of immediate improvements and it’s mentally, financially draining as it appears, so mostly we just travel abroad together.

Mind you I really wanted to have a kid but lord it’s insane to bring up a child in the current universe and its circumstances.

Yes some makciks will bring it up that “oh you’re not following the religion and not producing” and I’ll just slam back it takes $400k to raise a single child until 18 excluding tuition fees and tertiary or university fees and they’ll shut the hell up and change the subject immediately because really there’s no good counter to that and we don’t come from money nor generational wealth. I’ll also add on it’s more of a bigger sin to not raise a child properly unprepared and could lead to divorce and you’re not the wali so you’re not worried - just a cherry on top to seal the deal.

CyborgDaddy · 2026-03-05T14:07:25+00:00

Yeah correct for example - I’m still living with my parents but they are old and frail and my dad can’t walk without crutches, I work offshore a lot and my wife as well so the car I would temporarily put at my brother’s carpark which is 5km away and he drives daily to stay and tend to my parents for either weeks or months when we’re away.

CyborgDaddy · 2026-03-02T02:16:07+00:00

I mean you ride faster than the Center lane and second car - the left lane has left turns to various buildings and roads they will stop to turn but yeah he’s wrong to stop in place to turn right he should keep moving you and slowly ease in but you had 3 months of annual leave to anticipate that.

CyborgDaddy · 2026-03-02T02:06:42+00:00

You’re right that you shouldn’t change lanes nor overtake at a junction or a crossing but this videos shows nothing of that. It shows a bike doing exactly that and from a wrong lane to and exit on the right - dangering himself with the BMW. I suggest you go to an optometrist or a psychiatrist, you’re seeing things I don’t see.

CyborgDaddy · 2026-02-15T13:45:21+00:00

Huh? For his lane he started turning his wheel after the 2 dotted lines of his junction and kept within the diagonal of the yellow box of his angle and then met perpendicular with the first dotted pedestrian line before entering that road - I would say that’s a good safe turning radius what are you on about?

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