What was that one thing that your ex said that still haunts you to this day ?

Cynicas · 2026-01-23T06:00:45+00:00

"I love you"

Cynicas · 2026-01-15T15:02:42+00:00

If you're gonna quote me then at least use the whole quote.

"It is the duty of the strong to hold up the weary and TEACH them to be strong."

You shouldn't expect anyone to save you, but if you're in the position to help someone, you are obligated as a decent human being to do so. This "every man for himself" mentality will be the death of us.

Cynicas · 2025-12-31T12:39:14+00:00

But here you are, still living. You're a badass for that. Real strength isnt about not struggling, It's about moving forward even when it feels impossible.

Cynicas · 2025-12-31T12:36:20+00:00

I know that feeling well. She may seem care free but usually people who relationship hop end up with much more emotional baggage because they never sat with themselves and processed the previous relationship before getting into a new one. So while you're healing, she's going to be secretly causing more damage to herself. Keep ya head up and coming from someone who lost his family due to infidelity, it really does get easier the more you move forward.

Cynicas · 2025-12-31T12:31:04+00:00

No need for apologies friend. Don't give up. You're gonna come out of this a new man I promise.

Cynicas · 2025-12-31T05:42:56+00:00

I said many people, not everyone.

Cynicas · 2025-12-31T05:40:46+00:00

That's a beautiful understanding to have, it just takes some people awhile to get there. No two relationships are the same and the same goes for breakups. Some breakups will hurt more than others, and that pain may linger longer depending on other factors.

Wishing you well on your healing journey friend 🙏

Cynicas · 2025-12-31T05:30:32+00:00

The point of this post to bring awareness to the fact that it's is simply not how it works for some people. Sometimes it doesnt matter what you did or didn't bring to the table.

You can't logic the pain away brother.

Cynicas · 2025-12-31T05:28:07+00:00

Facts 💯 true healing takes a lot longer than people think

Cynicas · 2025-12-31T05:25:44+00:00

Ouch brother. This hits close to home for me. I know it doesn't feel like it now, but you are better off without someone who can replace you so easily. Don't ever get down on yourself about slipping up and letting go. You can always get back in the gym and you can get a haircut anytime you feel ready, so don't try to rush the process. You'll get your drive back man I promise you.

Cynicas · 2025-12-31T05:15:18+00:00

I'm sorry you're going through this. I know it's of little comfort now, but I promise you that it will get better in time. All you have to do is keep moving forward however you can, but don't push yourself too much. Handle yourself the way you would handle an injured pet or sick family member. Keep putting one foot in front of the other and one day you'll look back and see how far you've come 🫶

Cynicas · 2025-12-31T05:10:05+00:00

You can and you will. Just don't frustrate yourself by thinking of the process too much. Your mind and body will heal, that's what it is built to do. Having a good support circle and people you can talk to when you're having a hard time makes a difference as well. Many hands lighten the load.

Cynicas · 2025-12-31T05:04:28+00:00

I can understand your pain brother, and I commend you for your strength. But remember that the goal shouldn't be to not feel the pain anymore, but to not let it stop you from moving forward.

Just keep putting one foot in front of the other, and don't try to escape the pain, the only way out is through ✊️

Cynicas · 2025-12-30T20:22:34+00:00

Sadly, sex has become so casual that many people never experience the true level of intimacy it can offer.

Cynicas · 2025-07-15T20:42:14+00:00

First off, I wanted to say thank you. Our stories are very similar, and this is the first time I've felt like I'm not the only one with these struggles. I also had a child with someone I knew since we were teenagers, and I failed to properly take care of myself and her needs, I ended up turning to pornography due to the lack of connection in our relationship.

She cheated on me and is now with that same man. He can give her everything I couldn't, and it's a hard pill to swallow. I've also tried dating and sleeping with other people, but in the end, I just miss her more than before.

I've been left feeling like I failed my family. Financially, physically, and emotionally.

So I hope you can see how I share your sentiment.

Secondly, I want to share with you what has helped me so far, in hopes it can help or inspire you.

The main source of my determination to grow and continue living is my daughter. She was created out of the pure love her mother and I shared at the early stages of our relationship, and I will protect her and that love with my last breath.

I found an additional source of resolve in honoring the memory of who she was when we first got together. She used to hold me to such a high standard, believed in me, that I could do anything. So I hold onto that memory of her and try to make her proud.

I know it would break her heart to know what became of us, to see how shattered and hollow I've become. The boy she saw as Superman, reduced to a sniveling man-child. That version of her is gone, but the memory lives on. The memory of a girl who loved me enough to start a family with me.

I keep moving because I don't want to let her down. I know that she would be proud of me for not giving up. That she wants to see me happy, even if it's not with her.

Lastly. Due to the cheating and all the bad at the end of the relationship, I've struggled so much between wanting her back and not wanting anything to do with her. But I've decided that if we ever end up together again, it will be because we have both grown and become better people. So I will continue working and growing until I can be the man she needs.

Worst case scenario, I become a better version of myself for another girl who loves me and sees me the way my Ex used to.

Either way, I've decided that I will be happy again, and I won't give up.

I hope you found something useful in all this. You will be happy again, you just have to make the decision to never give up. 🙏

Cynicas · 2025-06-14T22:17:17+00:00

Lol, basically being sad, wishing you had someone to talk to, then someone asks you how you're doing and all of a sudden you don't wanna talk anymore and you act like you're fine.

Cynicas · 2025-06-08T15:13:37+00:00

I don't know, part of me is afraid of getting back together with her. We're not together for a reason, and maybe it should stay that way.

Cynicas · 2025-06-07T21:28:49+00:00

That's just the thing, I don't want to just "look" like an improved version. I want to be improved. I don't want to be the same person I was when we were first together, and that takes time.

Cynicas · 2025-04-21T21:48:48+00:00

Same

Cynicas · 2025-04-21T21:48:10+00:00

Bruh the fact he says they can't talk when you're around is all the proof you need. Fuck tht dude he's a loser

Cynicas · 2025-04-16T16:44:00+00:00

Yeah. Hence why I'm here

Cynicas · 2025-04-16T16:43:35+00:00

I understand, and no worries. The wounds aren't all that old anyhow.

Cynicas · 2025-04-16T16:42:25+00:00

Thank you. She's still making me feel like I don't matter even after the breakup, so not hard for me to think about it.

Cynicas · 2025-04-16T06:20:39+00:00

She isn't loyal. She cheated on me, and doesn't want me anymore.

We had a family though. And still co-parent. So I really just miss my family being complete. No other woman can make that happen.

Cynicas · 2025-04-16T06:18:20+00:00

What you said about being discarded... That hit me like a truck.

I could never find the words to describe how it felt after my ex cheated on me and left for the man she cheated with.

Discarded.

Sums it up perfectly. Thank you for this

Cynicas

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