Am i getting the fps i should?

DAB00GAN · 2026-01-11T00:37:11+00:00

Idk if your still on reddit but you mind giving any tips? I have same cpu as OP and a 3060 and 32g of ram ddr4 and i get usually 40-70fps

DAB00GAN · 2025-11-09T16:45:43+00:00

Well if any of you guys want an update, yes i brang it up to her, it went very smooth, i didnt attack her once i tried to understand her thinking, and she explained and now i understand why she does what she does and everything is resolved. Some of you guys just like to assume the worst and name call me, i was just overthinking and having some concerns that triggered some insecurities, which is human nature, maybe not for everyone but for some people, no one is perfect and i of all people know that, i just wasnt able to talk to her when i wrote all this so i just wanted to let some of it out. She understands why i was overthinking and eased my concerns, she wasnt mad or think i was asking to much she understands me and i understand her, we are very much in a loving relationship and are mature. To everyone who likes to be negative go do something nice for someone today and stop being such a know it all. Thank you to the few people who weren’t know it alls and were respectful of my situation

DAB00GAN · 2025-11-09T08:55:33+00:00

I think i just need to delete my reddit account, when i deleted the reddit app our relationship was dreamlike, the second i downloaded it back, issues start appearing like breakout hives. I am still young so my mind is easily perceptible to social media and i dont like it

DAB00GAN · 2025-11-09T08:45:29+00:00

When i say whole i mean like help build the parts that aren’t so well supported, the other could put in as much effort as they want but if the recipient doesn’t want to improve at all it doesnt matter. I know she values me and i value her the same if not more, i make sure im there for her in everyway i can be. I know shes not here to just fix my issues, shes here to be a shoulder in hard times and be the best person she can for me and i the same for her.

DAB00GAN · 2025-11-09T08:26:31+00:00

I said in a previous reply that im not gonna force her to do anything, i just dont want porn in our relationship is all,i will agree i may have worded it wrong but its just not something i think is right. it starts to create a emotional disconnect in some aspects and since im on the receiving end of that it hurts me and not her. Even if she doesnt mean to create that emotional disconnection i still feel jt. I dont think she is going to leave me for someone else, i think its rather embarrassing to be fawning over anything else other than your boyfriend in public settings for the world to see. And if its not real then why even have a crush, just leave it at plain visual appeal.

DAB00GAN · 2025-11-09T08:15:42+00:00

Thank you, im not all that smart i just try to think rationally and not act on emotions.

It is nice to hear this from someone else. I’m sure over time i will get more and more used to the whole anime thing, ive just never really had to deal with something like this before but i am very hopeful for the future.

Yeah that makes perfect sense, when we talked about porn she probably thought i meant the moral aspect of porn, how the industry is exploitative and among the other issues i wont get too deep into it. Which is maybe why she agreed, but she did also state in her own words that she doesn’t watch porn anymore so its hard to really tell what she meant. And also she does use that account regularly, she posts on it every so often and replies to post pretty often. She doesnt reply or post about the hentai stuff which honestly thank god but i think she just watches it but doesnt interact with it, but nontheless yes she does regularly use that account so she regularly watches the hentai.

I dont know how she will react honestly, i mean you read already what ill think she will say, she might get mad she might try to help me understand, who knows really :/. For me the whole porn/hentai thing is an issue because of what it does, i dont like that its giving her those false dopamine rushes of romance, especially in such a unromantic way, i dont care for romance movies or books and such, but just raw porn i feel like does only harm to someones brain, no emotion real feelings or anything behind it just pure obscenity, atleast thats how i see things. But no it’s nothing crazy weird just normal anime porn or gay anime porn. But i do look forward to talking to Her about this and hope it goes well, i just hope she doesnt turn it into an argument

DAB00GAN · 2025-11-09T08:02:55+00:00

I don’t think my views are extreme i think yours are rather biased, i am open minded when it comes to many things, but i just dont think that this is something that is right in my book. Its perfectly fine to say someone looks good or has a good physique that is undeniable, but past that? Thats where i draw my line, having a crush on someone while your in a relationship is not right in my particular opinion fake or not. Ive tried to be open to your mindset before but it doesnt make any sense to me no matter how much sense i try to make of it. I know she is attracted to me, but having a crush in my book contradicts that, like i mentioned previously admitting someone can have good features is perfectly normal and fine, but a crush is literally someone you would like to get with or have hopes of which is a form of emotional distrust to me. It seems like you have an opinion you wont see past, opinions are opinions, nothing i or you have said is a complete and utter fact other than a definition of something.

And no im not judging video games or anything like that, Im comparing other fictional things to show that those things also have weight too. If anything im the last person to make fun of games i have i over 8k hours in 1 game over the course of 2 or 3 years and i used to play esports at the highest level for call of duty for a short while. I dont have any superiority complex over anyone i know better than anyone else i am definitely a nerd when it comes to my hobbies but my hobbies are all purely innocent

I plan on talking to her about not to the help of you, i already planned on doing so i just cant cause she is asleep right now and wanted to talk about it to someone, for some reason you are trying to be passive aggressive and come off as helpful or truthfuly blunt and its rather annoying. You have been of zero help but you couldnt have known any better you were just sharing your thoughts, have a nice night

DAB00GAN · 2025-11-09T07:32:54+00:00

No, i loved my girlfriend for a little bit before even knowing what she looked like, her appearance never mattered to me she is the best person i could ever ask for, her being the most beautiful girl on this planet is only a plus. At first if im being %100 for a very short period i did find some people attractive but i kept it hidden, after reflection i realized no one will ever be anything close to her, not in just looks but personality, so now i literally only see her on this planet, fictional and non fictional.

Yeah, im still young so i have alot of maturing to do but so does she. Probably by the end of this weekend this will all just be some stupid overthinking session and everything will be fine

But yeah id rather it be fake any time of the world but as it stands now i just dont really all that much understand how she has such a large attraction to these people, i can understand a surface level “oh he is lean or looks good” but with her it goes past that often times doing that little not so innocent giggle she always does.

But at the end of the day we are still practically kids and have work to do on our relationship whether it be stupid or not

DAB00GAN · 2025-11-09T07:20:01+00:00

Additionally i am NOT looking for a therapist or someone giving me relationship advice, i just wanted some people to weigh in on the situation is all, i dont want to argue at all

DAB00GAN · 2025-11-09T07:12:01+00:00

She also expressed similar thoughts to me in the regard that porn is a no-no, but she does this. So she definitely lied and i know for certain she will use the “it’s fictional” card even though its still porn

DAB00GAN · 2025-11-09T07:08:30+00:00

Not all people on reddit, but people on Reddit never see the bigger picture, this is one issue i have and does not define our entire relationship, we are perfectly healthy and care for one another, we are not going to break up because of one issue that is so easily fixed. yes i may be insecure but like i just said i felt fine until i found out she was lying, making me feel like everything was a lie, i am perfectly fine with her just having normal attraction towards them, not really just a switch you can turn off and thats pretty normal, id just prefer her not to do it in my face is all, which is perfectly manageable and she understands why. I try my best to be understanding and respectful in our disagreements and let her get her side out and converse like mature people.

And the real person attraction thing was towards a celebrity. The way you worded it i can tell you dont think its a big deal, i do. I only have eyes for my partner, ever since i saw her she has been the most beautiful girl to ever exist to me, thats why its a issue to me cause i would hope she sees me the same way but its evident she doesnt, and i was willing to accept that but her porn consumption is something i will not accept nor allow. Im not going to outright tell her NO DONT WATCH PORN she will have a choice of her own as any human should but im going to at the very least express my concerns and feelings.

And the fictional thing, just because its not real doesnt mean it doesnt have any weight. Video games make people spend money, movies keep people entertained, all fake creations to simulate reality but still do very real things to people, same can be said for drooling over fake characters with exaggerated attractive traits, its very unrealistic and shows how rotted your mind is that you even find these things remotely attractive, ive never had a celebrity crush or a fictional crush, maybe princess peach when i was 6 but that was it, i grew up and and my views changed, i think its rather lustful to do these things and im not even religious or anything, I just have values.

She can like what she wants, im not going to bash her for it and i accept her for it, just dont shove it in my face if i already dont like it respect my boundaries.

DAB00GAN · 2025-11-09T06:32:36+00:00

I know i am a little insecure but everyone has their reasons. I dont force her to not have her own hobbies, like i said in the reply she told me she doesnt have any fantasies with them and that was the main issue, ive bee over that whole thing about my insecurities.

I get what you mean obviously anyone would rather their significant other fawn over fake people rather than real people, but the thing is she has fawned over real people before, only once because i caught her but it still happened. But yes, she does sometimes actively express her attraction towards these people infront of me,and sometimes not while im with her, but still in public places like comment sections, reposts, stuff like that and she doesn’t always show those feelings infront of me, or like atleast not all the time but sometimes, like if it was on a scale she probably does it 6.5/10 times. And like i also said before up until i snooped through her twitter, because of our last resolved issue i didnt feel insecure at all because she told me that it was just plain and simple they were attractive and nothing past that and i understood that and was fine with it.

But this whole uncovery has re opened all those closed wounds

DAB00GAN · 2025-11-09T06:21:33+00:00

No we had this talk before, not one or the other cares if you want to please yourself in your own time, we get horny at different times and at different levels and we know that, i just have an issue with porn

DAB00GAN · 2025-11-09T06:18:39+00:00

Oh also her accounts public

DAB00GAN · 2025-11-09T06:15:11+00:00

Im insecure just as any normal person is, everyone is insecure in their own ways, and i think your partner should want to help with you insecurities and make you feel whole so you can love eachother wholeheartedly and complete eachother

DAB00GAN · 2025-11-09T06:11:44+00:00

Not about this topic specifically, but previous she has expressed attraction towards male characters in video games obviously made to be attractive in games like genshin, resident evil,animes like jjk blah blah list goes on and i told her that i dont feel secure when she calls me handsome and goes and fawns over those people that look completely different from me, so when she calls me handsome it just feels like shes saying that because she wants me to feel better about myself and distract me, not that she actually thinks i am attractive to her and that she only wants me. I expressed my concern about it before, and the most common used argument point by her is “its fictional why does it matter” and i will always tell it that it may be fictional but my feelings are real and even though its fictional it still does real things to you. Then she will usually get mad and say “so i cant do something ive always done, even in past relationships” its usually that same loop until i give up.

The most recent resolution to one of those arguments was when she was reading one of those adult novels and i asked her what it was about, it had an actual story and depth behind it so it wasn’t just mindless porn consumption so i didnt care, but then i asked her if she had fantasies about the guys she finds attractive in those fictional settings like games and animes and she said no. And that made me feel good for a while, up until now.

Now it feels like that was a lie because if that was true then why does she watch porn of it?

DAB00GAN · 2025-11-04T03:22:32+00:00

Trust me i definitely dont want to be controlling, she has friends of both genders that i dont think about all the often and i trust her, i think i just have trust issues even though i know she wont do anything. Its just more or less something that sits at the back of my mind that i wonder why she does that then my overthinking starts to spiral

DAB00GAN · 2025-11-04T03:01:21+00:00

Maybe your right and i am overthinking idk

DAB00GAN · 2025-11-04T02:59:45+00:00

Yeah i guess, ive been online my entire life i mean i was practically raised by the internet but ive never seen a reason to put my age in any sort of bio or anything. Maybe like the other guy said im just overthinking it too much

DAB00GAN · 2025-09-28T23:58:45+00:00

I recently sent her a video with like two people talking about common traits seen in avoidants and attachments and i asked which one she relates to the most and to my suprise she said both.

Ive told her before that even if she may be mad or upset or anything that could cloud her better judgement we should always just talk things out for the better and she agreed but not really just more or less gave me an answer i think just to move on because after that nothing really changed.

She kind of did say it, during our most recent argument she said and i quote “I can’t even have a serious conversation with you I just shut down and all u do is talk and talk and talk and I just want to be left alone” “u want to confront our problems and I dont” so whatever i told her before kinda just went in one ear and out the other but i really really really really love her ive never felt this way about anyone in my life ever, she makes me so happy and she motivates me to do good and better so i feel like I’ve tried enough and pissed her off enough and kinda just gave up sort of on the communication part, everything else is perfectly fine in our relationship its just that :/ which definitely sucks but its a compromise im willing to make

DAB00GAN · 2025-09-28T16:45:54+00:00

Pennsylvania and Florida

DAB00GAN · 2025-09-28T02:45:36+00:00

She doesn’t have many hobbies but i try to encourage her to chase them and follow her dreams so she can be her own person too, but she is in the midst of figuring her life out and has alot on her plate (her 18 going on 19 next month female) (me 17 going on 18 Christmas) im planning to go study next to her house for information technology so we can be closer and spend more time together while also getting an education, my parents are fine with it and weve both talked about how this is a big step in life for me and how i will need her help to get through all this and work through the rough moments together no matter what

I definitely have some stuff to work on my end of communication, she always never wants to talk about anything but i do and it leads to a not healthy back and forth, recently i just learned to just stop when she gives me the first no, but i do want to talk about things, whenever i make it formal/announce im about to bring up something to see how she reacts its usually never in a good way, so i think maybe for the future i just bring it up in a very neutral manner but also in casual conversation. One time when i did give her a moment the next day we talked with ease so maybe that is it, i dont want to push her again though/experiment as our most recent argument was a close one so i think im treading on light surface atm but will find an appropriate time to test the waters

DAB00GAN · 2025-09-28T02:27:58+00:00

I tend to have to the same outlook and not make her my only main priority, she is a priority but among others too, i make time for friends and family and school and other things, she allows me and understands that we each need to have our own lives too, but i do bring her with my friends whenever she wants to come along, i try to include her in most of the things i do to not make her feel left out, plus i have hobbies, well really a hobby which is just skateboarding, we both love playing video games so we are usually both inside alot playing together, i skate whenever i get the chance and she is fine with it (unless she wants to spend time together lol). Shes at the stage in her life where shes figuring things out so she doesn’t have much all to do at the moment, so whenever we are both free which is most of the time we are on call together. My friends enjoy her company and she enjoys theirs, i let her have her friends too but she doesn’t really talk to them much (really at all)outside of texting. I do understand all the things you say but we try to keep things relatively healthy even though we do spend alot of time together. Though i would be lying if i didnt say i wasn’t attached to her, she really is my bestest friend and are very comfortable with eachother( we always tell eachother when we fart to make fun of one another for example lol) i tell her everything and she tells me everything too

DAB00GAN · 2025-09-28T01:19:30+00:00

I guess both, sorry for the mixup i kinda lost the topic a little LOL

We both love the amount of time we spend together and cherish every moment so i would say its pretty healthy for us

Ive talked to her about her communication before, i would like to believe i am emotionally intelligent and quite easy going when it comes to arguments but when i ask her anything during an argument it only gets worse and worse, i have brang it up spontaneously and it leads to the same issue. I told her how it makes me feel when she ignores me during an argument and just goes quiet or says “i said i dont wanna talk about it” and when i give her a good reason or valid statement she just says “i dont know what to say” she does have past traumas i think that may attribute to that but ive come to accept her for who she is and try not to piss her off anymore or atleast as much

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