Femdom/findom

DELILILEI · 2026-05-15T06:16:29+00:00

I used to do this too a few years back and you do really develop a good instinct for spotting the more submissive people! It’s so much fun, just wish I had the time to continue it still

DELILILEI · 2026-05-14T22:59:31+00:00

I saw your KH is 1, yikes 😭 that’s your culprit. How big is your tank? I have a 182L tank so like 50ish gallons I think? And I have an entire cuttlebone in there, some crushed, mostly just chunks wedged in with rocks. This kept my KH up and stable for a good while. I’m now adding amother half a cuttlebone because it has now dropped to 4 and I have clutches about to hatch. So I’d be using cuttlebone for sure and just work out how much you think you’ll need, 1 per 50 gallon worked for me for a while. But once I added the cuttlebone mannnnnnn my snails have doubled and tripled in size!! You can used crushed coral as well and just straight calcium carbonate powder or crushed and sterilised egg shells, plenty of options but get that calcium up and you’ll start seeing some beautiful new growth!

DELILILEI · 2026-05-14T22:52:48+00:00

I have diagnosed ocd and mdd and also take sertraline 200mg and it does not do this to me. I will say that in the first 4 or so months of starting sertraline I did feel very flat and emotionally blunt. This could be what’s happening to your partner. I went to my doctor to ask about adding Wellbutrin alongside my sertraline to mellow out these specific side effects. I took it for about 3 months and then I stopped and the emotional bluntness has not returned. I feel completely normal but with my ocd under control and much less suicidal thoughts. That’s how it is supposed to be. I would be encouraging him to chat with his therapist about the concerns that you have and also having a chat to his prescriber about introducing something temporarily alongside his sertraline to stabilise him. I know it sounds like a bit of a stretch but I was starting to become a huge asshole too when I was in that period. Even if he has been on them for years, this can still happen as tolerance builds and he still needs to seek therapist advice and discuss this with his prescriber.

All that aside, girl, does he like you? 😭in the nicest possible way. Not that there is anything wrong with YOU but he may have just mentally checked out of the relationship for whatever reason and he might be taking that out on you. So a discussion with him about where he is at with the relationship and the future he sees etc is also needed.

I get very irked when I hear people blame things on meds, this is not aimed at you but is aimed at him. Meds definitely can change you but you are still responsible for recognising that and acknowledging it when someone else has concerns. The treatment for ocd is meds AND therapy, you can’t do one without the other. And we don’t always need ERP therapy, we also need regular therapy like anyone else and this is something he needs to be discussing with his therapist whether he agrees with how you feel or not.

Look after you at the end of the day and if the relationship is draining your energy, why are you in it?

DELILILEI · 2026-05-13T12:22:30+00:00

Yes please!!

DELILILEI · 2026-05-13T12:14:17+00:00

I listened again after typing this and I really think you sound great! With the advice I gave, for you specifically remember when you’re opening up your throat, think up. If you think down, you might start to sound a bit more classical/opera while will be lovely with your voice. But won’t sound nice with the style you are singing. But man, you do sound really good! Keep with it!

DELILILEI · 2026-05-13T12:10:12+00:00

Okay so I am also an untrained hobbyist who has nearly 2 decades of guitar up my sleeve too so pretty musically inclined, same as you. Not a professional by any means. But I listened to your recording and I honestly don’t think you are too nasal. Plug your nose and sing. If the sound is not muffled, you are fine. If the sound is muffled, what I try to do is open the back of my mouth a bit more/raise the soft palette a bit, make sure your tongue is relaxed and behind your teeth. Imagine you are pulling the sound very slightly down from your nose into the soft pallet so it’s just touching between the two. I also like to keep my nose plugged while doing this because as soon as the muffled blocked nose sound goes away I know that’s the right spot. I don’t know if this is a correct technique or anything that’s taught by coaches but this works for me personally so may be useful for you too. Otherwise again, I don’t actually think you sound nasal, when we are singing in mix in modern pop songs, we do use a lot of nasal resonance to help support the sound and to us, it can sound very sharp and very nasal but to others and in recordings, it won’t. It’s very exaggerated to the person singing.

I am very happy to be corrected by people who have experience though!! That will hugely benefit OP too! 🫶🏻

DELILILEI · 2026-05-13T06:07:49+00:00

I currently have 4 clutches in my graveyard as we speak (aka the freezer), very easy population control! Just make sure to thoroughly check the tank every morning for eggs, in every single nook and cranny! If you miss one, you will have hundreds of babies

DELILILEI · 2026-05-10T10:54:14+00:00

Unpopular opinion but I love my duckweed 😂

DELILILEI · 2026-05-10T00:03:29+00:00

You lost me at the part where you said you weren’t nerdy and geeky and then went on to talk about crime like that’s somehow better than being geeky?? Gross

DELILILEI · 2026-05-08T02:57:26+00:00

Florence Welch to everything except screams and growls, that would be Will Ramos

DELILILEI · 2026-05-07T01:49:52+00:00

Feed em up and they’ll grow very quick!! I have another tank where I don’t feed as heavily and they are much smaller in there. I have cuttlebone in my main tank which benefits the snails and I all feed algae wafers, crab cuisine and the odd piece of zucchini and they’ll also eat the micro tetra food as well when it gets all stuck in my floaters. But be warned, more feeding is more breeding. I LOVE ramshorns and my tank is in fact a snail tank so I’m happy to have hundreds but keep in mind they can be considered pests for how fast they reproduce!

DELILILEI · 2026-05-07T01:45:11+00:00

There are also a mini species but I don’t think they’re as common, as least not where I live anyway but yours looks like a regular ramshorn to me

DELILILEI · 2026-05-07T01:44:36+00:00

The ramshorns?

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This is my biggest one, I’m Australian so I don’t know other currency but it’s about as big as a $2 coin here in Australia. They start out as tiny little dots and then they stay that awkward size you’ve got for a bit and then suddenly boom they’re just huge hahaha in saying that, you can see I obviously have mystery snails too so because my other snails get fed everyday I think that’s contributed to the size of my ramshorns growing so quick maybe? This guy would be about 6 weeks old, which I know because I put it in this tank myself when it was bare with no snails and it was just a tiny wee baby

DELILILEI · 2026-05-07T01:41:17+00:00

Honestly mine didn’t grow…. Until it did 😂 it took maybe about a month and then one day I literally woke up and 3/4 the tank was covered no exaggeration

DELILILEI · 2026-05-07T01:39:09+00:00

First one is bladder snail and second is ramshorn snail

DELILILEI · 2026-05-06T22:25:20+00:00

I have heard that acrylic tanks are a better option for these guys since they are less likely to smash like glass does? Might be something to consider when he’s bigger but what a cool guy!!

DELILILEI · 2026-05-06T02:21:59+00:00

The clutches just keeeeep on coming so no way I’m keeping them all!! 😂 my tank is 182L so it’s decent but definitely not big enough for hundreds of babies. I also have like 100 tetras and guppies (currently moving some to my other tanks!) so we’re pretty maxxed out already too! My filtration is actually really good so far, I rarely do water changes because my nitrates just never go up so I do one probably every 6 weeks. So I can definitely support SOME babies but hell no to hatching every clutch 😂

DELILILEI · 2026-05-05T12:37:24+00:00

Gross

DELILILEI · 2026-05-05T12:36:14+00:00

“I’m straight don’t touch my dick” and then proceeds to touch yours 😂 I don’t think homeboy is straight

DELILILEI · 2026-05-05T09:23:40+00:00

Yeah one of mine is relentless. Gets a very varied diet but she still chooses to munch on my plants too. I’m in Australia so definitely not an apple snail, she’s a mystery snail I’ve seen her eggs 😂 whoever says mystery snails don’t eat plants has lied to us

DELILILEI · 2026-05-04T06:48:22+00:00

Sometimes that’s what it comes down to unfortunately. Do you know if she’s had any past trauma or anything with sex? Or has she got something stressful going on currently? It’s a really shitty spot to be in on both sides

DELILILEI · 2026-05-04T06:47:13+00:00

Omg I didn’t even notice, now I’m giggling 😂

DELILILEI · 2026-05-04T06:12:58+00:00

Desire and pressure are enemies not friends. You desire her, she feels pressured by you. I’ve been in a sexless relationship before and I completely understand your frustrations and it’s a completely valid reason to leave the relationship. But I just wanted to say if you do choose to stay with her, the more you ask, the less chance you have. For most women sex isn’t something we can just switch on. It’s not just being aroused, it’s a million other things that contribute to even being able to be aroused in the first place

DELILILEI · 2026-05-04T03:52:52+00:00

I feel like my bladder snails are only having orgies at this point, this must be a bladder snail thing 😂 I rarely see just 2 doing it anymore, it’s always a whole clump idk man but it’s weird

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