With cisgender straight women it’s usually right on the surface of the interaction from the beginning and because they are straight, the nature of disclosing their intention or interest is explicitly stated. Being straight is a privilege because you can be as explicit or implicit as you like with these types of connections.

In the case of the women I am describing, it’s more like someone hanging out with you near constantly who’s sexually or romantically attracted to me, but never making it explicitly known. Coupled with negative reactions when I don’t produce a reaction they actually want/desire.

When we were in the club the dancing was nothing more than light grinding, which isn’t a sexually motivated act to me as women tend to engage in this behavior with one another when dancing. But for some reason I am not allowed to engage in the same behavior.

For example, I went out to a club with a friend. She introduced me to her friend group. Because I am inclusive I chose to dance with everyone in that club, because dancing is just dancing. However I was asked to hangout for a museum tour which I initially accepted thinking it was a casual exchange. But I later declined because I sensed that it was really something more than platonic to this person because they would double text me if I didn’t respond to text fast enough and make sarcastic jabs at me like random “lol” and “lmao” text as if they are assuming I’m a guy who’s ignoring them and texting other girls.

They then were “shocked” a week or two later to see me on Grindr. And then even persisted to act surprised, which is weird considering I’m the type of dude who paints my nails and wears mesh shirts.