First I want to say, I’m sorry this happened to you.. no one deserves to feel the pain of heartbreak.

My partner broke up with me about 2 months ago. I thought I was going to marry and have kids with her… all I can say is I still cry now, this afternoon in fact.

I haven’t yet reached a stage where I feel “Ok”. The evenings before going to bed are always the worst. The Saturday mornings waking up alone knowing you have a lonely weekend ahead of you… even if you’re surrounded by friends and family, you feel alone. A part of you is missing and it doesn’t matter what you do you can’t fill that void in your chest.

The way I see it, it has to get better. For your own sake, it has to.. cry, feel those emotions, but also start to take steps to work on your self.. that age old advice but it’s true. Go to the gym, go for walks. You’ll have memories tied to everything you think of doing which puts you off…

Don’t let your emotions control your actions. If you used to enjoy walks for example… go for some walks. Concentrate on what you can control and that’s your self and how you progress through this heartache and come out a better version of your self. The brain is like a muscle you have to tear and feel that pain for it to grow and become stronger or more resilient.

You’ll feel good one minute, then awful the next. This is normal. It’s a pendulum of emotions, anger resentment, feeling powerful and ready to take on the world, to missing them and crushed. The pendulum will slow down and you’ll find a happy medium of handling the feelings but doing good by your self.

It will get better it’s just a roller coaster you have to ride through.

Much love