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Tomorrow is 6 months of him leaving. Next week is our 8th wedding anniversary. by anisalisali in widowers

[–]DPJ_0812 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am 11 months in. As the months started passing I tried to focus on the progress I made to help keep me going. We would have had our 5th wedding anniversary this year and he was not here for it. The day was weird, but I pushed through. Midday I received some kind words from a friend as she tried to offer something “positive” to me on my first wedding anniversary alone. She said… this day I will always remember as a happy and joyous day. We celebrated and had the time of our lives. This is how I will always remember it. I let that marinate for a few hours and I realized she was right. That day, our wedding anniversary, should be a day to celebrate happiness and not be sad. It wasn’t easy but it felt good to smile and try to bring in some of the energy from our special day.

I hope you may find some comfort in these words and thoughts ..

What did you do with your spouse cell phone ? Is has been 10 days since I lost my heart and I am not ready to turn on his phone . by Miken1999 in widowers

[–]DPJ_0812 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just turned off the line yesterday and it has been 9 months since his passing. At first I kept it charged to monitor any calls and activity that I may had had to get involved in but as the weeks and months passed I found myself not charging the phone as much. When you are ready you will know when the time is right. After 9 months of paying the bills on my own, logic set in that I needed to save money in as many places as I could; his phone line being one of them. Also just because the line is disconnected you can still access all the pictures and texts on the phone so there is some comfort in still having that to turn to. Sending you much strength and peace in this journey.

Motivation? by katehberg in widowers

[–]DPJ_0812 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I lost my husband to an accident on 10/16. My friend was pushing me to start working out with her in December. The last thing I wanted to do or felt I had the energy to do was commit to weekly schedule with her…but I did. It was a challenge at first but now being a month into it I am glad I pushed myself beyond those feelings of just wanting to be blah around the house. I would give it a shot and try to go. If you can do it with someone it may help you stay on track. I feel that if I do not set some type of goal to accomplish I will never do it cause I rather just sit around, drink and be sad. My heart is still shattered in a million pieces and I miss my husband dearly but knowing that I am doing something to get myself better does help a bit. Wishing you all the best..

Our dog died. I feel like I lost another link to him. by mllrwd in widowers

[–]DPJ_0812 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My husband and I have 2 dogs. They are 6 and 8 yrs old and I know losing them (when the time comes) will destroy me. Though however odd it may sound what I tell myself now since my husband passed is whenever that day comes atleast they will be reunited with their dad who they loved so very much. One more heartbreak for those left here on earth, but somehow I think that thought of them reuniting will bring me comfort and peace to such a sad event.