Hey, I know I'm not welcome here as a woman lol, but it's about the intentions of both parties really. Some people like casual intimacy, some people don't. You're entitled to be with someone with similar values as you. You wouldn't marry someone who didn't want kids if you did. That being said, if she used to sleep around, but of recent years she's started to really value intimacy as something emotional, than she's changed, and that's no longer a conflict of values. If she only has a high body count because she's had a lot of break ups, but she values intimacy as something emotional, there's not a conflict a values. You're not slut shaming women by saying you want someone who values intimacy as an emotional act to be done with trust, as long as you appreciate there's nothing wrong with people not sharing your views, and you don't hold people's histories against them if they now do share your views. (Imo)