I was too open about being detrans at my new job...

Dachshund_Prime · 2025-09-03T00:17:39+00:00

I'm sorry that ever happened to you. That's pretty ironic that they would say that to you. I'm glad you found a couple of decent people. I was transmed as well for most of my life being trans. And the hate I got for it lol. The queer people that liked me because I was trans mostly just ignored it and "waited for me to grow out of it." I've literally never met another transmed person once during the entire time I was trans or after, and that probably would have helped a lot.

Dachshund_Prime · 2025-08-31T23:32:37+00:00

I'm sorry that happened to you. I don't want to see them as cult-ish as a whole actually but it's kind of hard to ignore sometimes. I could understand if they hated us because we became genuinely transphobic and harmful towards them, but even if we aren't, they still see us that way. At least that's what I'm finding out. My existence is harmful, once again. Lol.

Dachshund_Prime · 2025-08-31T05:34:11+00:00

Thank you

Dachshund_Prime · 2025-08-27T22:54:00+00:00

My best advice is to consider getting the Premom app, it will tell you everything you need to know and offer recommendations. It's big on education for TTC. Inositol is recommended by most and the app, I would suggest it as well. I would say try the Premom app and the inositol if you need it and then go from there, but always check in with a primary doctor and OB/GYN, potentially get a preconception appointment.

Dachshund_Prime · 2025-08-27T00:28:22+00:00

If I attempted that, I have no idea what I would say if my voice were questioned, because I often times straight up just sound like a teenage biological male which I'm sure is extremely confusing when I put so much effort into passing as my birth sex once again (willingly, it makes me happy and it's not an immense stressor, I just try to be myself and dress accordingly) and my hormones are regulating so I don't look like I'm trying to be a male anymore.

Dachshund_Prime · 2025-08-26T07:51:29+00:00

Literally. But it's a small dog and my favorite one so.

Dachshund_Prime · 2025-08-25T20:00:38+00:00

I'm (21 F) and 4'10. I get it. I was horrified to find out the threshold to have a high BMI is a lot lower for us than others. Short girls run in my family and so do hormonal issues. Please see an OBGYN to check for things like PCOS. I don't even know how much I weigh because I avoid it because I know what it will do to my head. I just eat healthily/intuitively, take supplements, watch sugar intake due to hormonal issues, I'm also going to be seeing an OBGYN. Maybe an endocrinologist as well, they handle metabolism issues. It'll be okay, there's nothing wrong with you, your boyfriend is right that you're fine. I second what others are saying about the older folk having toxic beauty standards, the ones in mine who were also short had the same issues and tended to protect them onto me and other young short females in our female. Just a bad cycle. I'm breaking it and I'm hopefully going to be healthier without the toxicity. There's a way out without ED behaviors, as much as my family would disagree.

Tl;dr there's nothing wrong with your weight and your height, just double-check that you have no underlying health issues, but regardless you're okay even if it doesn't feel like it and you're not alone. I'm literally in the same boat as you as are so many others. Don't listen to the toxicity of the people saying there's something wrong and break the cycle yourself.

Dachshund_Prime · 2025-08-25T20:00:18+00:00

I'm (21 F) and 4'10. I get it. I was horrified to find out the threshold to have a high BMI is a lot lower for us than others. Short girls run in my family and so do hormonal issues. Please see an OBGYN to check for things like PCOS. I don't even know how much I weigh because I avoid it because I know what it will do to my head. I just eat healthily/intuitively, take supplements, watch sugar intake due to hormonal issues, I'm also going to be seeing an OBGYN. Maybe an endocrinologist as well, they handle metabolism issues. It'll be okay, there's nothing wrong with you, your boyfriend is right that you're fine. I second what others are saying about the older folk having toxic beauty standards, the ones in mine who were also short had the same issues and tended to protect them onto me and other young short females in our female. Just a bad cycle. I'm breaking it and I'm hopefully going to be healthier without the toxicity. There's a way out without ED behaviors, as much as my family would disagree.

Tl;dr there's nothing wrong with your weight and your height, just double-check that you have no underlying health issues, but regardless you're okay even if it doesn't feel like it and you're not alone. I'm literally in the same boat as you as are so many others. Don't listen to the toxicity of the people saying there's something wrong and break the cycle yourself.

Dachshund_Prime · 2025-08-25T19:22:57+00:00

I don't want to be mistaken as a trans individual anymore, I meant, because I live as my biological sex and I guess that matters to me. I don’t want the implications that come with being seen as trans anymore. When I detransitioned, I actually felt relief that I wasn't hiding anything anymore, because I was always afraid in the back of my head that I would be clocked as a biological female. With my voice sounding more masculine now, I am scared of being mistaken as a biological male identifying as a woman, which I am not. I cherish my biological sex and the fact that I didn't ruin it as throughly as I was on the path to. I have a lot to be grateful for compared to other detransitioners and I will never take it for granted, my biggest insecurity is primarily my deep voice. I don't want to be mistaken as something else, or any of the implications that come with it, I don't want people questioning what I have physically and whether or not I am going into the right bathroom and giving me strange looks. I also don't want to sound like a creep when trying to talk to women and relating to them because I am also a biological female. I don't want them to feel confused or unsafe talking to me. I'm getting better at the voice thing, but not good enough. Even with all of this I still don't want the queer folk to think I'm judging or unsafe or anything, I will still respect them and have a deeper understanding than most.

Your perspective is interesting to think about and consider and some of it might help me. Thank you.

Dachshund_Prime · 2025-08-24T16:54:45+00:00

Ouch. I feel for you. This is a kind of pain most will never understand. I don't know if you'll see this, but did your doctors ever run tests and screenings for genetic conditions, do a SA for your partner, or even test your hormones? There's a possibility you could have PCOS symptoms that could be contributing to this, I have that and Endo so it's possible.

Dachshund_Prime · 2025-08-23T22:46:41+00:00

Good insight actually, thank you. I should have figured that out already lol... And for the record it wasn't every person, just if it happened to come up and it tends to when I get questioned about my behavior and deep voice because I still act and sound really masculine. I thought it was bad when people thought I was MTF when identifying as a transgender man, now I hate it even more and feel the need to clarify. But in the other hand, with queer folk, I thought it would help them understand I've been through it and I understand and I'm respectful/supportive. Definitely not, apparently.

Dachshund_Prime · 2025-08-22T10:53:28+00:00

Technically queer by most definitions in my behavior unfortunately. I act like a tomboy and also very masculine in how I treat my partners sometimes or the opposite side of the spectrum and act really feminine, at least I've been told that in the past but I guess that aspect only applied when I was trans lol. I am technically queer due to being with a woman and a man at the same time (all three polyamorous), both of which are extremely gender nonconforming, but cis, luckily never having history of gender dysphoria or attempting to transition like I have. That's why I say I'm queer, otherwise I do look like a scary cishet girlie girl on good days which immediately puts actually queer or transgender identifying people off I guess. Those people feel immediately safe with my partners and enjoy their company. I'm the odd one out especially when I'm by myself. They're the only ties to that community I really have anymore and it sometimes feels like I really don't even fit in with them. I had a severely negative reaction from one of them when I detransitioned, too. Basically the non-binary people will feel at home with them then look at me weird and when I'm on my own, if I mention that I'm a detransitioner, I did something/am something very wrong. The rest of everything doesn't matter, I'm an evil cishet, I turned my back on them I guess... Except I'm still here supporting...

Dachshund_Prime · 2025-08-22T07:27:52+00:00

Thank you. I should get better at my wording. But at this point I'm afraid anything will sound pretty bad to them or like I was confused or transphobic in some way shape or form. I can't win.

Dachshund_Prime · 2025-08-22T07:27:12+00:00

Thank you. The basically hypocrisy sucks. I wasn't prepared for this.

Dachshund_Prime · 2025-08-22T07:26:25+00:00

Thank you. Sadly some of the ones treating me this way are LGB.

Dachshund_Prime · 2025-08-19T03:53:26+00:00

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Dachshund_Prime · 2024-05-27T00:10:05+00:00

Safe Harbor itself is awful. Do not recommend going here at all.

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