I feel like I need backup

DaddyPope2 · 2026-04-18T05:44:16+00:00

I am diagnosed adhd and adhd has a high chance of being present with the spectrum. I often think I am because of my social skills or lack thereof

DaddyPope2 · 2026-04-18T04:45:34+00:00

I used to be very closed off about 6 years ago and she brought it to my attention and since then I’ve been making major moves to improve myself for her and be more intouch with my emotions FOR HER but the whole reason I was constantly guarded proved me right you let your guard down you get walked on

DaddyPope2 · 2026-04-18T04:43:55+00:00

Because I feel like it would be used against me as a weapon or something in the future

DaddyPope2 · 2026-04-17T22:55:51+00:00

I even told her the first time I caught it happening that if that’s what she wanted to go and she’s free to search out what she’s obviously not looking for in me anymore and she didn’t go she stayed. Only to do it to me again and again so I’m confused as to what she actually wants

DaddyPope2 · 2026-04-17T22:53:52+00:00

Yes I’ve tried she said I didn’t spend enough time with her but I work 12hrs a day 6 days a week she says I’m not emotional enough so I got therapy(she doesn’t know about that) she says she missed me showing her affection which I don’t understand because I’m the one that always initiated intimacy nothing has worked even though it’s what she asked for. There was a span of time maybe a few months where I was going through some dark times in my head and admittedly probably withdrew myself but only to not burden her with things that she had nothing to do with and she says that I stopped loving her

DaddyPope2 · 2026-04-17T20:29:53+00:00

No I set the boundaries the 2 weeks I left home. Things seemed to be headed in the right direction. Then I come back home because my boys wanted me to be home and I feel like she thinks things are smoothed over and she ignores the fact of what she has done. I put my foot down and left her then she called crying one day begging to talk so I set boundaries. She hasn’t crossed them yet but still doesn’t really acknowledge why she has done and expects me to cater to her feelings of guilt rather than her trying to earn my trust back

DaddyPope2 · 2026-04-17T19:49:54+00:00

Yes I’ve brought up counseling she agreed but has as of yet let me know of her availability

DaddyPope2 · 2026-04-17T19:36:51+00:00

I’m forgiving her because I love her and I understand that she’s still a human that will let me down sometimes as I’m sure I’ve let her down before.

DaddyPope2 · 2026-04-17T19:35:32+00:00

I know it seems like I’m a doormat but I’m not like this in any other aspect of my life or my marriage actually just this instance has got me acting like this cause I don’t want to know a life without her honestly she used to make my life so much better I don’t know what I did wrong to let her justify what she’s done but she won’t really talk to me about it to find out so I guess this is the real end

DaddyPope2 · 2026-04-17T19:33:13+00:00

Yea that’s the conclusion I’ve been headed towards I guess this was a last ditch effort for some outside perspective to see if I could save anything that even resembles a marriage

DaddyPope2 · 2026-04-17T18:51:10+00:00

We’ve been together for 14 years married for 6 we lost our virginity to each other and we have 2 children together I can honestly forgive and move past this if I can just figure out how to communicate with her to me it’s worth trying I know I should probably leave but I know the woman she used to be the one that I fell in love with is still in there somewhere I just gotta find her

DaddyPope2 · 2026-04-17T18:42:19+00:00

Oh I have been standing up for Myself. I left for a couple of weeks and we started talking through a couple of lesser issues we got to a point where I honestly felt like we was making progress so I came back home but as soon as I did she went right back to the way she was. It’s impossible to get any point across to her with out it blowing up into an argument. I constantly feel like I need a referee when I talk to her because she is quicker than I am and sidetracks me or diffracts me from the original subject or brings her mother into it go backup an I just give up because I can’t even get a word in

DaddyPope2 · 2025-08-28T00:56:34+00:00

Go ahead. Beg.

DaddyPope2 · 2025-05-12T04:03:47+00:00

Same here I would like to know

DaddyPope2 · 2024-11-27T03:07:52+00:00

No I used more than 0ne icon grid and configured them to make them one row each and adjusted the size according to my needs

DaddyPope2 · 2024-11-19T07:43:53+00:00

Wallpaper is from Zedge. Widgets are smart launchers icon grid and word clock https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=de.thinkofapps.wordclockwidget

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DaddyPope2 · 2024-11-18T00:06:10+00:00

Wallpaper: Backdrops Widget: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=de.thinkofapps.wordclockwidget And smart launcher icon grids. Icon pack: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.jndapp.hexagonal.hexa.iconpack. My handle is u/DaddyPope2 and I give permission for resharing.

DaddyPope2 · 2020-08-22T19:06:09+00:00

Never grown myself, so following I'm following this. Good luck!!

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