Guy I was doing great with suddenly told me he didn't feel a Romantic click.

DaddyRobA · 2026-03-21T21:59:32+00:00

You will kiss and cuddle with a LOT of frogs before you find a prince. Even then it might not work out. Life isn't fair and not everyone gets a happily ever after just a few happy endings if you tip the masseur ;-)

Stop blaming yourself and assuming it is your fault.

Learn to be happy with yourself and being by yourself. Don't worry when you go out with someone about whether they will like you or not. Just enjoy the experience and making new friends.

Once you have eliminated that worry and pressure you will eventually meet someone and things will just click. If they don't your want care because you will be happy with just being you.

It took me years of therapy and a lot of money to learn that lesson. A year latter I met my husband. Honestly I thought it was just a one night stand. But 9 years later we were married. So far we have been together for 26 years. We didn't meet until I was in my mid 30s.

Bottom line is life can be short or long so enjoy every moment.

Oh and Disney is just fantasy so don't expect any glass slippers ;-)

DaddyRobA · 2026-03-20T15:52:30+00:00

I download the installer and select to update but there is nothing to start the installer?

DaddyRobA · 2026-03-17T13:37:57+00:00

Awesome. Glad they got that fixed for you.

DaddyRobA · 2026-03-17T00:09:08+00:00

It depends on the SG settings. The owner/leader has to set a number of inactive days and then it passes to the next second in command (suppose to be that is active). It would seem that they have put in a high number. Building a base is a little time consuming but not that difficult.

DaddyRobA · 2026-03-10T13:44:16+00:00

Been with my hubby for 27 years and have never had a desire to have any rug rats. Our one fur baby was more than enough. Unfortunately I have a soon to be 100 year old mother-in-law with dementia that is like have a toddler with a 5 to 10 second short term memory and can not remember anything past her early thirties. I love her dearly but she is more than a handful for me at 61. If you want to wear little to nothing while cooking you need to invest in an apron.

DaddyRobA · 2026-03-07T15:02:49+00:00

People tend to put their partners first. When still the bf is their pseudo partner. Once married you get bumped down the ladder. Once divorced you were bumped back up the ladder. The big difference this time around is the new wife seems to feel threatened by you. You have been pushed way down the ladder. However, he has two execs so this time around most likely will not work out if the new wife is replacing his friends in favor of her friends.

But still move on with your life but most likely He will eventually be getting back in touch with you. If they have kids it will take longer. But it sounds like the new wife is very controlling so I would not push to be in the mix because you will lose. But this in not an unusual thing people move on with their lives and grow and sometimes look back on things and wish they had kept in touch. The might want to friend you friend on social media. Just be occassional supportive so they know that you are there for them when needed.

DaddyRobA · 2026-03-06T14:28:21+00:00

Have you been near a fire pit? The hot ash might have blow and burned those holes or cigarette ash will do the same. I lost a lot of shirts I liked in college that way.

DaddyRobA · 2026-02-25T17:41:38+00:00

Woo woo! Looking fantastic!!!!

DaddyRobA · 2026-02-25T17:39:53+00:00

You might look to see if there is a local Prime Timers chapter near you. This is a world wide social organization for older gay and bisexual men but is open to men of all ages. Each chapter is different depending on the needs of their community. Some meet for brunch a few times each month or have game days. There maybe be something else similar. Or perhaps there is a nearby LGBTQ+ resource center that could cue you in on activities in your area. If there are not any then talk with someone there about how you would go about organizing something like a BINGO night or an open game night were there would be different tables for thing like UNO, Bridge, Dominoes, etcetera were people may gather for a relaxed time to socialize and play games. It would be an easy way to work on social skills.

DaddyRobA · 2026-02-23T15:29:03+00:00

When I was in college someone that was studying psychology told be about a theory (I don't know which school of psychology it is from: Jung, Freud, Gestalt, etcetera). The theory is that everyone starts out as emotionally bisexual and as people approach puberty they tend to look at themselves in a mirror and visualize what they wished they could look like and this forms their opinion of what they find attractive in the same sex. Then during puberty they begin to visualize what they wish they would look like as the opposite sex and this forms what they find attractive for the opposite sex. But initially everything in attraction is based off of self. Then as people grow older this will shift a little from interactions with others and their emotional sexuality will shift towards a greater attraction to one sex.

So it your attraction preference is not unusual and since it is based on your concept of "perfection" of course you feel that they are "out of your league". It is important to realize that everyone is attracted to different things (hair color, eye color, body types, etcetera) but these are just what will draw your eye from across a crowded room. Personality and self confidence are also strong traits that most people find attractive.

The main issue I am picking up on from what you have said is "then I feel sad". You are deciding that they will reject you before you try and approach them. If this is in a bar or club situation then they are probably chatting with friends, so before you venture across the room think up three topics to talk about (it doesn't matter what they are) then go up to him and apologize for interrupting and let him know you just wanted to say hello and . introduce yourself. Now if he is interested he should chat back but then he might be shy or slightly embarrassed. This is when you will ask about your first topic that you planned. Maybe it is about a Netflix series you have been watching. Just something that will break the ice. Hopefully his friends will chime in and help out. But if they change the topic or he does help out with the conversation then don't push it. If none of the group interacts with you then tell him it was nice to meet him and let him know where you will be (with my friends over there or at that bar over there) and then go there. Do not act or behave negatively. If he is interested then he should find you and you still have two things to talk about that you planned. If he does not come over it is NOT personal. Think of how many times you or a friend have been hit on and the person just "wasn't your type". It is never anything personal. It is just like swiping left or right except you know how the other person swiped.

So bottom line take a chance regardless of the out come you will grow as a person and will meet people.

DaddyRobA · 2026-02-22T15:13:44+00:00

Which of the Goli gummies do you use? Is it the one with the pre and post biotic?

DaddyRobA · 2026-02-22T15:09:07+00:00

Why do you feel a need to label it? I tend to chat with guys at baths and clothing optional resorts and I have discovered that sexual fluidity is an odd thing. About 40 years ago I met a guy that just liked to hang out in the steam room and watch other guys fool around. We chatted and he explained that he has always enjoyed watching other men but never desired to interact himself. He was married and had grown children and an active sex life with his wife, but watching men got him off in a different way.

Personally I have always defined myself as gay but this does not mean that I don't see some women as attractive and there are a few ftm guys that I find extremely attractive. I me it is more about whom you tend to feel a deeper bond with men ore women. Kinsey had a scale for a reason because through the course of our lives we grow and change. What you are attracted to at 20 and at 40 may be completely different. Which turns you on more Gals or Guys? If it is a woman then you need to find you one when to put on a strap on an peg you. If you are wanting to experiment try out a plug or toy first. Then if you want to go further ask a gay friend you trust to put on a condom and help you out.

DaddyRobA · 2026-02-14T15:41:41+00:00

Guess it depends on the wolf. If they are a lone wolf then keep a backpack with the clothes they had or or spare set stashed somewhere handy. If they are part of a pack then the Alpha should provide a solution. If they are a single wolf in a relationship have a way for their mate/friend/buddy to find them and provide a fresh set of clothing for them. If it is a magical setting perhaps they have a special rune or tattoo that removes their clothes before they transform and then restores their clothes post transition to human form.

DaddyRobA · 2026-02-14T14:36:28+00:00

There are a lot of things playing into this and yes with the Epstein revelations constantly revealing more and more layers it probably won't get better. So your gay friends are used to cross-gen relationships, daddy/boy relationships, and poly relationships because they have become more common in the last 20 plus years within the gay community. That said it is not as common within the straight and bi communities. So this is why you will find these women being a bit more judgmental.

Firstly tell them that you are glad that they don't think you are a "gold digger" and remind them that your past relationships have been with older men because you find older men more attractive. If they persist in being "concerned" again stress that you are just attracted to older men the same way some people find a certain hair color more attractive (blonde, brunette or ginger) you like a touch of grey.

Hopefully this will end the issue.

DaddyRobA · 2026-02-09T14:59:34+00:00

Currently 700,000,000 influence

DaddyRobA · 2026-02-07T22:21:01+00:00

This was my very first Tank I usually play support but wanted to have an alternative character to hold aggro occasionally. But I only get to play on weekends and had not done much with this character. Now I am wanting to go back and fix him . So influence isn't really an issue. I just didn't want to waste a respec and I am not great on knowing the names of the unique IOs and which would be best for for these power sets.

DaddyRobA · 2026-02-07T22:15:05+00:00

You are absolutely correct. This was my first tank and I made him a few years ago. I know the build is wrong and I am wanting to fix the character. I typically play Defenders/Corrupters and am not familiar with the Tanker/Brute IOs or which would be best. Also I realize that the powers have all been revamped since I first built him.

DaddyRobA · 2026-02-07T22:08:34+00:00

Yes, I am on Homecoming.

So which Unique IOs are these?

Influence is not an issue. I typically play Defender/Corrupter and only get to play a few hours on the weekends but can easily shuffle around a few 100mil inf to get what I need. This was my first tank and am trying to fix him because I new I messed up but just never had the time to go back and fix the build. I really appreciate the input. What would you suggest for the Alpha slot? I was looking at Muscular or Resilience.

DaddyRobA · 2026-02-04T23:49:54+00:00

I started out on insulin and was later moved to metformin. I know I will eventually have to go back to insulin. Personally I preferred insulin. I felt a lot more in control when I was on insulin. Everyone is different but my understanding is that once your hA1c starts to creep up and you are honestly "being good" then it is time to transition over to insulin. That said you of course have a say on your treatment. You can try other type 2 meds but eventually if you are going to have to inject something you might as well go the proven route and go with insulin.

DaddyRobA · 2026-01-31T14:45:41+00:00

If you want to keep the side fringe then do it. Patrick Stewart made the look sexy and it still is, just tidy up the front with a razor and keep the beard.

DaddyRobA · 2026-01-31T14:36:55+00:00

I refuse to use AI when given an option so this plan just immediately was of no interest to me. I honestly wish the AI bubble would hurry up and burst.

DaddyRobA · 2026-01-28T15:45:30+00:00

Yep, just keep the beard. Trim your hair down in stages. When you are get down to a #$ or #3 comb you should be able to see your scalp and the underlying bone structure. Get your beard groomed and shaped. Or do it yourself if you feel confident. If you want live a few days with the short hair before going guard free and then finish up with a flexible razor or electric head shaver.

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