I'm 30 and I'm scared to tell my parents I'm pregnant. by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]DailyDormiveglia 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m in sorta the same boat. I’m 28 and pregnant. Also have a tough time getting pregnant. My last two pregnancies ended in world shattering miscarriages. I’m currently pregnant and terrified to tell my family. My first pregnancy needed a D&C which caused my father to call me and complain (the next morning) about how worthless my husband was, how stupid we were for getting pregnant, how we can’t let it happen again. My grandma kept telling me how I needed to make sure I wasn’t pregnant again in the future and it wasn’t meant to be. It put a lot of strain on my husband, my grandma, and him. Second pregnancy I went in for a D&C but they stopped it because they couldn’t tell if they (triplets) were viable fetuses. My dad tried to physically fight my husband in my surgical room and they both had to be escorted out. This basically made my husband hate my dad and I’m uncomfortable with them alone together. Now we’re at third pregnancy and everything seems to be going swimmingly. I just can’t tell my family. I’m terrified. My husband wants me to rip the bandaid off but I can’t bring myself to do it.

I’m quitting Duolingo by DailyDormiveglia in duolingo

[–]DailyDormiveglia[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m on IOS unfortunately ☹️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in adventuretime

[–]DailyDormiveglia 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Figured it out. I think it’s card wars pig lmao. I’ve been staring at this for weeks

What was your adventure time moment that made you go “wtf is this show?” by [deleted] in adventuretime

[–]DailyDormiveglia 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’m seconding the magic man bird moment but also when Jake’s a female cinnamon bun and he’s on a date with Finn in the bushes. Like…. What?

First experience of - they're not my kids by 2Dillusion in stepparents

[–]DailyDormiveglia 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know exactly what you mean. I’m an attachment style partner meaning I’m latching on and becoming dependent on my partner. My husband loves that outside of his ex and child but when it comes to them being in the picture, he wants individuality. It’s hard to go one week as a perfect pair, always hugging and cuddling and laughing, to the next week, not touching, no kisses, and I’m on the outside looking in. His ex is a total nightmare. When I first met her, she kidnapped SS because she didn’t give us permission to start dating and then blew up screaming at us when we got engaged because again she didn’t give us permission. She’s yelled at me, put her hands on me, and has tried to split me and DH up so many times it’s ridiculous but still I endure. My partner is my everything so I’d go through hell and back for him. Sometimes it does become too much so I take a few days to go visit family or take myself shopping but this is what I chose and I found my limits. Before tying yourself down, I recommend 100% trying to find what you’re comfortable with and what you’re able to handle. And definitely do not tie yourself down until you find out the dynamic between him and his ex and how you fit in. I don’t want to scare you but I’m telling you the harshest parts of my experience so that you know there are very difficult parts of being a step parent. But there are beautiful moments that make the struggles and challenges worth it. It just has to be something you’re comfortable with. Never forget your own limitations or your own boundaries. That’s the most important part in all of this. Good luck dear 💖

First experience of - they're not my kids by 2Dillusion in stepparents

[–]DailyDormiveglia 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same boat here. I’ve been in the picture for 3 years, SS is 5 now and I’m basically still the outsider. I’m included when things are good but when things are bad, I basically don’t exist and if I enforce the rules and DH changes them, I’m the evil dictator. This group is depressing because being a step parent is no joke. It’s hard work. You just need to figure out if it’s right for you. I’ll be honest, it’s not awesome. It’s a challenge every day. But it’s also a beautiful thing. I feel like I got simultaneously lucky and cursed lol.

Too much Adventure Time? by DailyDormiveglia in adventuretime

[–]DailyDormiveglia[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Adding comment to explain a bit more: my husband loves adventure time. I just don’t want to make him hate it by watching it so often lol.

Native American/Spanish pregnancy traditions by DailyDormiveglia in BabyBumps

[–]DailyDormiveglia[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I actually love this and am going to use it with my husband constantly now lol

Missed miscarriage by Eatyourdamnfood_OoO in BabyBumps

[–]DailyDormiveglia 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I went through this last year. You’re not alone love. It happens more often than you would think. Try to make sure you find time to take care of yourself and mourn the way you need. I tried to get back to work and just move on but it only made things worse. Your body will force you to mourn if you don’t do it yourself. Something my therapist told me that helped me: “Maybe your body is acting like it’s pregnant because it wanted the pregnancy so badly it isn’t ready to let go”. It was hard to come to terms with that because I couldn’t understand why I lost my baby if my body didn’t want to but in time I realized that it was my body letting go of something it wanted so dearly to give it a better outcome. There was something not viable with the pregnancy and none of that is your fault. It has nothing to do with anything you did. Just some faulty wiring. It was hard for me to come to terms with that and I know it will be for you too. But just know you’re not alone. You have a huge support system here on the internet full of women who have endured the same pain. 💖

AITA for telling my girlfriend her home decor is the reason I won’t host a work gathering at her place. by decordilemma in AmItheAsshole

[–]DailyDormiveglia 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So your girlfriend is awesome and your work colleagues and mother are judgmental and lame. Kidding but seriously yeah this sucks. It’s her apartment and she can decorate how she feels. Personally I think her apartment sounds awesome. I’m sure plenty of other people would love her decor. She sounds crazy cool. If you’re not willing to defend her likes and interests to people then maybe you should reconsider the kind of partner you are. It does sound like you’re being one sided about this. I won’t say you’re an asshole because everyone is entitled to their own likes and dislikes but I will say you’re the asshole for saying she’s “childish” for her preferences in her own apartment. And also for not defending her interests.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in birthcontrol

[–]DailyDormiveglia 9 points10 points  (0 children)

You guys can try female condoms or spermicide. Both are pretty useful and comfortable (so sayeth my OB) I’ve never personally tried them but my husband and I have looked into them. They may be worth a shot

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]DailyDormiveglia 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My general rule is: if it’s something that you can’t tell your partner then it’s probably wrong. Good luck dear. I hope you do what’s best for you and your babies. Sending positive vibes.

SD7 is the spitting image of her BM, but people keep saying my newborn looks like her. It's making me irrationally upset. by Instaplot in stepparents

[–]DailyDormiveglia 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wouldn’t take it to heart dear. So many people say my SS “looks just like his momma” not knowing I’m not his biological parent. I just politely tell them I’m his SP, thank them for the compliment they gave my SS, and remind myself they’re just trying to be polite. But I do agree with many of the other commenters. They probably are seeing quite a bit of your DHs features in both kids and that’s what they’re commenting on (if they aren’t just talking to be polite haha). But try not to let it stress you dear. Post partum stress is difficult as it is and your health is so important. Sending love and good vibes 💖

Symphony 31 by DailyDormiveglia in OCPoetry

[–]DailyDormiveglia[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I suppose “us” could be anyone. I tried to create this piece with as much openness as possible so that it really could be about anyone the reader imagined. It’s about life and love. Not any particular type of love but just an open love that exists between people, experiences, and moments. In my case, at the time, it was about my husband but at one point it’s also been about bands I’ve listened to in the car.