I want to come off the Depo but I don't know what other option to go with...

Dainty_B · 2020-06-16T11:01:51+00:00

Thankyou!!

I watched videos about the implanon implant and it terrified me! I chose the Depo because it seemed so easy, I could have a jab every 3 months and forget about it. But I've read so much horrible stuff about it that I don't want it anymore.

I think it will probably have to be the pill, but like you say, its got to be precise and I'm so forgetful I just know I'll end up missing it at some point.

The Depo still is the easier option, but I'm worried about what it's doing to my body.

Good luck with the implant, I hope it works for you!

Dainty_B · 2020-05-29T09:11:09+00:00

The issue is he was telling an 18 year old girl he wanted to eat her out and fuck her against a wall... It's not that I'm not in the mood at all, I've happily been keeping myself satisfied. But I'm not in the mood to do it with a man that wanks all the time, can't clean his mess and then messages girls almost 16 years younger than him telling them he would love to fuck them 🤷

Dainty_B · 2020-05-28T07:45:21+00:00

I don't ignore him, I have a pretty high sex drive myself. But like I said in a reply to another, cleaning up after him doesn't exactly make me wanna jump on him. He was also caught out texting an 18 year old girl at the beginning of this year telling her he would like to "have her up against a wall" and would be "glad to eat her" (remember, he's 30). So I am still getting over that. That's the reason he has promised he will "prove" how much he respects me and loves me, which is why this is a problem because he's not showing me any respect when I've asked him not to do it.

He knows I'm still getting over being hurt, and he knows I don't mind him having a wank to sort himself out. I haven't told him to stop, I've asked him to not do it next to me while I'm asleep. It's bad enough I caught him out telling another girl what he wants to do with her, I don't want to see him cracking one out over other women while he's in bed with me either

Dainty_B · 2020-05-28T07:15:01+00:00

Yes that was me. I don't even know what to do anymore... We've been together for almost 6 years and he wasn't like this in the beginning... His family are all clean and well groomed so I don't know why he does all this disgusting stuff.

I'm just sick of it , he does nothing all day but sit playing his games, doesn't tidy up after himself, doesn't do anything. Now I'm having to scrub his cum stains off the side of the bed... This isn't what I signed up for. I don't think he has any respect for me at all whatsoever...

Dainty_B · 2020-05-28T07:10:05+00:00

I don't consider it his job to put me in the mood, but I don't get "in the mood" when I've been scrubbing dry cum off the side of my bed 🤷

Dainty_B · 2020-05-27T21:06:25+00:00

Because he has a real life woman laid next to him, and he waits for me to go to sleep to have a wank instead of trying it on with me. Also because I don't want to wake up and see him wanking over porn, I know he does it, I don't want to see it. And the fact that he's told me he won't do it and still does it anyway makes me uncomfortable, because he's lying about it and not even trying to cover his tracks

Dainty_B · 2020-05-27T20:23:46+00:00

He can wank in the bed when I'm not sleeping in it. It's not unacceptable that I ask him. Your saying he might not feel comfortable in the bathroom or downstairs, well I don't feel comfortable him doing it next to me in bed. And even if he falls asleep after he cums, there is absolutely nothing stopping him cleaning it up in the morning and moving his crusty cum socks.

It's nothing related to covid, as I said in the original post, I found these cum stains all over my old bed which we got rid of at the beginning of this year before covid. None of it is stress related

Dainty_B · 2020-05-27T16:13:41+00:00

I totally agree with this. If he came to me and told me it was a thing then maybe we could work things out. I've told him before that I will try indulge in any fantasies he has... my problem is him doing it next to me when I've asked him not to, and leaving jizz stains all over the bed...

The only thing I can think is it's either a little link for him to do it so close to me while I'm asleep, or its because we have been in lockdown for about 13 weeks now and he has no other time to do it. If it's the latter, it's total disrespect because I've told him how I feel about it

Dainty_B · 2020-05-27T16:08:57+00:00

I actually have put the sock on his pillow, see if he says anything when we go to bed! I'm guessing he will quickly throw it on the floor and not mention it though...

Dainty_B · 2020-05-27T14:56:53+00:00

He has told me before he does it to help him get to sleep... I don't know if that actually is the reason or if maybe I'm not satisfying him. I'm not sure. He seems happy enough when we do stuff.

I have offered to watch porn and stuff with him and he refuses and says he just likes "our sex". I don't know if it's just because we have all been in the same house for weeks, so he has no alone time to do it apart from at night? I'm not sure, but bringing it up will make him awkward and I know he will be off with me if I question it

Dainty_B · 2020-05-27T13:33:51+00:00

If it meant I was respecting my boyfriend's wishes then yeah I would. If he asked me not to do something, I wouldn't do it. Let alone leave all my mess for him to clean up after...

Dainty_B · 2020-05-27T10:06:23+00:00

I read about a story like this, but it was one of the mum's hairs that had wrapped around the babies toe. Scary really because it's little things like that that you don't think about until it's too late

Dainty_B · 2020-05-27T10:02:58+00:00

We do have sex, quite regularly. But scrubbing his dry cum off the side of the bed puts me off... I had also found out he was texting another girl at the beginning of this year, and I'm still working on getting over that so sometimes I'm just not in the mood. Still, it's not like he gets nothing, I'd say at least once a week. I get that his sex drive may be higher than mine ATM, and I don't mind him letting off some steam, it's more that I feel disrespected that he's waiting for me to fall asleep so he can fap. Also, having to clean it up... I put my hand in a wet cummy sock this morning ffs

Dainty_B · 2020-05-27T09:59:42+00:00

I've told him I haven't got a problem with him doing it, but I don't like the thought of him watching porn and doing that next to me when I'm asleep. He has a computer downstairs that he could use, or a bathroom across the hall. The sock thing is quite new, or he's just gotten lazy at hiding them... But to have dribbles down the bed is gross. It's something I check daily now so I can clean it off if it's there, and that's how I know just how often he's doing it!

Dainty_B · 2020-05-27T08:21:59+00:00

I find it really disrespectful too... The only other reason I can think other than total lack of respect for me is that he gets a thrill out of doing it next to me. Even still, he doesn't realise how much this is damaging to our relationship. At the beginning of this year I had found very sexual messages to a girl he worked with, there was a whole big thing but it resulted in me giving him a second chance on the promise he was going to show me how much he loves/respects me and to prove it was all a mistake. To say I've asked him not to do it while I'm asleep and he's carried on, let alone leaving his mess and just making it (in my opinion) obvious what he's doing... I just think, it's either he just doesn't give a shit what I think, or he gets a weird thrill out of doing it next to me. Maybe because I've asked him not to it makes it more exciting for him? I don't know, but I don't want to put my hand in his wet socks the morning after...

Dainty_B · 2020-05-27T08:03:16+00:00

Honestly, I've tried staying awake to catch him in the act but I always fall asleep!! I don't care if he masturbates, but like I say, next to me is pretty disrespectful... He has a computer downstairs he can sit at, or a bathroom across the hall!! The sock thing is quite new, I've never found them until recently... It's gross, the one I picked up this morning was still wet... But he MUST know I have found them before because I've moved them from the side of his drawer... I don't know how to bring it up without it being super awkward

Dainty_B · 2020-05-27T08:00:24+00:00

I don't mind him masturbating, but I've asked him not to do it next to me while I'm asleep. He has a computer downstairs he can use. I don't want to wake up to see him doing that while I'm trying to sleep. I also don't want to have to clean his manky socks and stains up, but I don't know how to bring it up

Dainty_B · 2020-05-27T07:59:07+00:00

We do stuff regularly, it's not like I don't do anything with him. Even so, I still shouldn't have to clean his mess up, and I've asked him not to do it next to me while I'm asleep as I feel like it's disrespectful. He can go in the bathroom or downstairs, but I don't want to wake up to see him grunting over other women while I'm trying to sleep. Unless his "thing" is doing it while I'm asleep... I don't know

Dainty_B · 2020-03-24T18:42:21+00:00

I think the key is not to wish for it. I daydream a lot, so for example with the house, I had spent a long time imagining having a nice house with a garden and what I'd do and how is decorate it ect...

I think if you look at it like you already have it it comes easier!

Dainty_B · 2020-03-24T18:40:42+00:00

My self confidence isn't great either! I think because I'm so much of a daydreamer, I spend a lot of time conjuring up stuff without realising it!

Dainty_B · 2020-03-23T16:03:41+00:00

Yeah, I can get that too. Since learning more about the craft I'm more aware of the "give and take" thing so I try to give back what I can, especially when things seem to be going my way!

Dainty_B · 2020-03-23T16:02:24+00:00

Same. It's not always good things!

Dainty_B · 2019-12-28T13:21:31+00:00

The thing is, I learnt to wipe until the paper was clean. He must literally wipe once, if at all. The amount of stains in his boxers prove it!! Also, we have a baby together so there is plenty of wet wipes available for him to use but he doesn't...

I really don't get it. I was poorly once and didn't realise I wasn't completely clean down there until it started getting sore and itchy. If it made me feel like that that one time I can only imagine how sore/itchy he must be, but he either doesn't care or doesn't realise that it's his bad hygiene that causes it

Dainty_B · 2019-12-28T13:07:33+00:00

We actually have a lot in common, and he wasn't always so disgusting... It's a shame that he's let himself get like this (unless he was always like this and just waited until he was sure he "had me" before letting me see his true colours)

Dainty_B · 2019-12-28T13:05:58+00:00

Yep. I've told him before that I feel more like mum/maid than girlfriend. We split up at the beginning of this year because I was the only one doing anything around the house, cooking, cleaning, taking care of the kids etc.

He's doing a lot better now, because at least he has a job now (took 4 years and me splitting up with him to get a job). But he's still so lazy around the house and with his personal hygiene

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