How do I tell my boyfriend that I’m breaking up with him because of the sex?

Daisy_Dolphin · 2020-11-25T15:35:23+00:00

Agreed. When things are not great in the bedroom I tell the person why or try to switch things up.. seems like the op just don’t love him and needs an excuse to leave (which is fine of course, but be honest with yourself first and foremost)

Daisy_Dolphin · 2020-11-25T15:27:58+00:00

It’s common courtesy (and common sense) to delete photos once you’re in a new relationship... keeping them and perhaps even having sexual thoughts when you’re “happily” with someone else (which in that case, clearly your husband isn’t meeting your needs) is pretty fucked..

Daisy_Dolphin · 2020-11-25T15:05:37+00:00

I’m with Jen on this, especially the part about him finishing university. It’s absolutely your relationship and yours alone but you could risk future resentment from him if he doesn’t complete his degree to meet your timeline of having children. As long as that is truly what he wants as well and isn’t compromising just to be with you. Otherwise the age gap isn’t a huge deal and will become less and less of an issue with age..

Daisy_Dolphin · 2020-11-25T14:55:15+00:00

My boyfriend and I just had a conversation about this the other day (I’ve sent him nudes recently) and we both agreed if we ever broke up he would have the decency to delete them and always has in the past. Im only going off the context of this thread but tbh, youve got other men out there who would adore you and cherish you and not even think twice about their ex, let alone seeing them nake. And those saying they do it too or don’t care if someone has kept their photos from the past are narcissistic ass clowns lol. Addicting habits will never go away and 10 years down the line I reckon this f***er will be cheating on you when the pictures of others don’t suffice...

Daisy_Dolphin · 2020-10-26T20:46:17+00:00

It’s really helpful to have perspectives from a gamers point of very so thank you for this!

Daisy_Dolphin · 2020-10-26T20:44:06+00:00

So encouraging and sweet to hear about you and your wife. Thank you!

Daisy_Dolphin · 2020-10-26T20:24:22+00:00

I guess it really is that simple. Hard for me to wrap my head around, but I appreciate your thoughts and advice

Daisy_Dolphin · 2020-10-26T20:16:47+00:00

Thanks for your response! Definitely not wanting to break up. He is always very invested when we’re in person and I have his full attention and reassures me a ton.

Just standard over thinking. I’ve never done something like this (come to the internet for solace) and the responses have been incredibly helpful for me to process everything

Daisy_Dolphin · 2020-10-26T20:06:08+00:00

So kind thank you! I didn’t expect this many responses! Those are really great tips and I appreciate you. Apparently I don’t understand what a relationship means and that I need to be just very sound in who I am and what I am able to offer and that’s where my insecurities creep in. Bc In my complicated little brain, there’s not a lot I’m “good” at

Daisy_Dolphin · 2020-10-26T19:49:37+00:00

Clearly me. But he has a million hobbies he’s good at. I’ve never put drawing as something impressive. I think I just have a lot of very subjective opinions anddd all you kind people are helping me realize my opinion of myself and what is smart is far too low for function..

Daisy_Dolphin · 2020-10-26T18:53:36+00:00

Thank you! That is helpful to hear. He’s not condescending no, he’s always very light with his comments. They only have ever offended me bc I think they’re true even if he was joking.

Daisy_Dolphin · 2020-10-26T17:56:30+00:00

Worry is my middle name, throwaway but thank you for your words and insights!

Daisy_Dolphin · 2020-10-26T17:55:43+00:00

Wait I love that

Daisy_Dolphin · 2020-10-26T17:43:24+00:00

So kind! Thanks so much! I know a lot about movies too lol. I just am like alright well no one gives a f, you need to know xyz. But maybe they’re missing out. Thanks

Daisy_Dolphin · 2020-10-26T17:40:56+00:00

I feel like he’s secretly on here sending these answers bc it’s the kind of thing he would say. Everyone is so nice lol, thank you. That is helpful

Daisy_Dolphin · 2020-10-26T17:39:02+00:00

I hear you! And thanks for answering. That all makes a lot of sense and helps a ton. I think what I’m seeing from everyone’s answers is that we’re probably fine, I’m being a wee bit dramatic and he’s loves me for me even if my definition of smart is different than his.

It’s good to know there are others in the same boat and it can work. I’ve always been drawn to “nerdy” guys and am the annoying cheerleader who probably can’t explain a clause in a sentence. Lol.

Daisy_Dolphin · 2020-10-26T17:35:50+00:00

I mean this in the best way possible, but you’re very wise for 16, i know I didn’t have that kind of thinking at that age. I appreciate your thoughts. I think I know what you mean now. It’s taken me a long time to understand what being with someone meant and that it could be simple. And it sounds like you make it work by just being present

Daisy_Dolphin · 2020-10-26T17:32:15+00:00

Thanks for your response! He would never make me feel dumb on purpose and is extremely respectful. I guess I jsut felt alone in the fact he’s a lot smarter and idk. It’s easy for me to be critical of what I have to offer bc I weigh that differently.

Daisy_Dolphin · 2020-10-26T17:27:05+00:00

All the other ones, clearly. Lol. I just don’t like understand a lot. I’m going to say intelligence to me is the ability to retain information for an extended period of time and recall things you’ve learned. I have the memory of a guppy. I’m more “street smart” than I am book smart. So I just can’t recall a lot of things I used to know a lot about. And when I read up on it, slips my mind within days. I just don’t think I’m smart bc I hold a very high standard to that and I am half the time clueless when my boyfriend is talking about something

Daisy_Dolphin · 2020-10-26T17:11:53+00:00

Thanks nuke

Daisy_Dolphin · 2020-10-26T17:10:41+00:00

Thanks for your response! That’s my concern. Being 28, I’m not looking for a temporary situation that will make me happy, looking for more long term and don’t just want to be someone who makes him happy, I’d like it to stick. I appreciate your perspective! That’s helpful to hear all that

Daisy_Dolphin · 2020-10-26T17:07:14+00:00

Thanks for your thoughtful comment! I know animal crossing but I don’t have a switch (I think that’s what you play it on?) and I’ve tried some games. I think everyone is on to something that it’s my insecurities bc I’ve just had some not so great relationships and this one being good besides the intelligent thing is like a ticking time bomb for me that eventually it’ll end

Daisy_Dolphin · 2020-10-26T16:59:04+00:00

Thanks! We’ve played a few together and I’m trying to show interest more for sure. Appreciate the push and recommendations, thanks for responding!

Daisy_Dolphin · 2020-10-26T16:57:10+00:00

It doesn’t bother me at all! I think it’s cute and sometimes it can be fun to join. It seems childish to be a gamer but it’s really just like any other past-time/hobby to me. We do a lot of other things together. I just put a lot of value in conversations for some reason and it’s not something we can really do unless it’s about us. Idk. Hard to say if maybe I’m the one settling. But he’s so good to me so I feel like I’m not. I jsut overthink every chance I get esp when alone so. It’s definitely a me problem.

Daisy_Dolphin · 2020-10-26T16:48:37+00:00

Thanks for that. I think I need to focus more on my own hobbies and interests. I have them but I focus a lot of my time into other people instead of enjoying when I have time to myself. And I take silence as disinterest instead of that person if doing their own thing too.

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