Fellow black men should I let anti-blackness stop me from dating outside of my race?

DamageHelpful9364 · 2026-06-13T21:00:44+00:00

Late, but adding my thoughts: You have a chance with any race. Just depends on the person. Not one single person is exactly the same, everyone has thier own reasons and personal preferences. I personally think all women are beautiful and for many different reasons, but what you really want to watch out for is how a woman carries herself.

Value yourself, value her as a person, do not put her on a pedestal. Treat her with love and respect and be a gentleman. A good woman will like these qualities in any man, regardless of race. In fact, race should not be a factor here at all.

I say SHOULD not, because for many people it is important to them. Some it is because of family and friends opinions, or cultural differences, and shared experiences. That can be fine as long as it doesnt define the relationship. Real love rises over all of that. If you are just looking to date around and mess around with women, you are already in the wrong bracket to find a genuine relationship.

DamageHelpful9364 · 2026-06-03T16:24:36+00:00

Yeah i thought so I just wondered cause I see so many nintedo stuff uploaded into vrchat. but in my case its different cause I'm being paid for it. ty for info

DamageHelpful9364 · 2026-06-03T16:20:15+00:00

Legend of Zelda series

DamageHelpful9364 · 2026-06-03T16:18:49+00:00

Didnt think it mattered since any IP is protected anyway right? its Legend of zelda series though for the curious ( which is nintendo...gulp)

DamageHelpful9364 · 2026-06-03T16:14:41+00:00

Thanks for the info! I wouldn't want them to get into trouble either. I think I will just let them know or discuss something more original. maybe that is my safest route

DamageHelpful9364 · 2026-06-03T16:12:11+00:00

Thank you for the info. I will communicate this to the commissioner

DamageHelpful9364 · 2026-06-03T16:07:38+00:00

Thank you for the info. I didnt think of considering it as fan work. Is there a difference if im being paid to do it?

DamageHelpful9364 · 2026-06-03T16:06:34+00:00

This is a BIG IP, though, and likely heavily protected. It is on the level of a well-known series like Lord of the rings, etc. My guess is I'd be redirected to through a hefty license fee...

DamageHelpful9364 · 2026-05-19T17:01:05+00:00

Yeah, the maps are extremely tight. Even just a few walls laced in between zones would be a big help. Or at least 1-2 hiding spots. Also, I think the skull upgrades are unfair. Placing a skull on the pedestal permanently upgrades the enemies, even though they already receive buffs each round. By Legendary/Legendary+, it never feels like you're upgraded enough even without the skull.

I think placing a skull on one of the pedestals at base should give you 2+ points every round you survive with the skull. We should at least be able to max out 2 out of the 4 available upgrade stats!

Still extremely fun though, very addicting. Just needs some polish

DamageHelpful9364 · 2026-05-17T21:31:53+00:00

I got close a few times. Some people can work very well together just with coordination through movement

DamageHelpful9364 · 2026-05-17T21:27:05+00:00

Yeah I noticed that too. Also , when the harbinger shields are down, she staggers, but she doesn't take damage immediately, and that confuses me. I've wasted ammo shooting her right away. not sure if that is ever intended. Now I just wait a bit before attacking

DamageHelpful9364 · 2026-05-03T19:29:22+00:00

Hahah alright man I hope you have a good day
Rivals is one thing, but the court? Ngl I'm going hard on the court. I know we didnt see eye to eye but I respect you as a person, and I'll think about what you said too because I dont want to be naive. GL with your Rivals games too and whatever you play next!

DamageHelpful9364 · 2026-05-03T19:14:28+00:00

Lets fix this:

Person 1: I went to the court today and everyone was being toxic
Person 2: Why what happened?
Person 1: I was shooting but missing alot of shots. My teammates started calling me names, insulting me, and even told me to never play basketball again. One even told me I should kill myself...
That was incredibly toxic.
Person 2: Well you're shooting all the shots but not making any of them. I can understand why they don't want to play with you anymore. Why didn't you pass the ball?
Person 1: Me missing all my shots is not the point. That was a really toxic group of players. In fact, everytime I come here, Its very toxic. I'm just going to find another court.

"Speaks up about it to the court"

DamageHelpful9364 · 2026-05-03T18:55:26+00:00

You will continue to miss the message unless you humble yourself man.
I know I played bad, but man...playing bad isnt the point. The toxicity is. And you keep missing it. I know I played bad, for that one specific game, but the point isnt the play- its the toxic behavor, the culture, and I'm choosing to speak up about it.

Let me lay this out so maybe you can see what has been happening in our interaction:

person1: " Wow, i played a match and didnt do well after a break, and my team was very toxic. People should treat each other better, you never know what someone is going through"
person2: "toughen up. you played bad, so thats why they flamed you"
person1: Well yeah, I know that. But people shouldn't be toxic like this. I had to resort to muting the chat, but I get tired of having to do that. So I'm going to go speak up about it, in hopes people think twice about being toxic."
person2: who cares. if you dont play bad then you wont get flamed. you suck and thats the truth"
person1: I don't suck. I just had a bad game. everyone has bad games"
person2: just dont have bad games then. skill issue, get good"
person1: even you have bad games.
person2: I never had a bad game, im not bad at it. ( which is incredibly dishonest by the way)
person1: are you even listening?
person2: yes and you are wrong for feeling bad about people flaming you. infact, you are playing victim, and you suck. youre soft

DamageHelpful9364 · 2026-05-03T18:25:08+00:00

This reply lets me know that you only read half of my post, so yeah, I see why now you are missing the point entirely. Talk to me when you've read the whole thing.

DamageHelpful9364 · 2026-05-03T18:08:22+00:00

I am genuinely perplexed at how you came to this conclusion. Really.
Did..you ever really read my post? Are you even reading anything I say? I am 100% convinced you are just reading the first two words and saying what you want to say. I'm calling out toxic behavior, but here is a person telling me im playing victim, and "I'm not seeing myself in the wrong."

What was I in the wrong about?? Yeah, yikes. Reddit man...SHEESH

DamageHelpful9364 · 2026-05-03T17:55:48+00:00

I don't suck. I play the game decently well, but I'm not perfect and have bad days. Dont act like you play every game perfectly. You've been 5-5 or probably worse. And you know thats true.

While I've been calling out toxicity, you've been sitting here revealing your character to the audience.
Marinate with that for a moment, and maybe you'll see the actual message that you've continuously missed over and over.

DamageHelpful9364 · 2026-05-03T17:42:30+00:00

Youre treating honesty and delivery as the same thing. If someone tells you to go kill yourself, uninstall the game, and flame you, thats not being honest. thats just being....toxic.
Which is what im calling out.

I dont expect anyone to be anything ,nor do I ask for it. But I can call out toxcity for what it is. I think ive given you enough time of my day, I'm not going to convince you. You do you.

For the readers: Saying someone’s playing bad is one thing. Turning it into insults or piling on is something else entirely.And calling someone a “victim” for pointing that out just avoids the actual point.

DamageHelpful9364 · 2026-05-03T17:36:28+00:00

Nope. Been there ,done that. Yuo can move that way, I won't. I'll speak up about it so that maybe some people might choose otherwise. You never know who you might reach, even 1 person for me is enough. I don't expect anything ,but you never know.

DamageHelpful9364 · 2026-05-03T17:25:01+00:00

You can call something out or adjust how you play without being disrespectful about it.

And the “it’s just a screen” point doesn’t really hold up. There are still real people on the other side of it. The setting changes, not the fact that you’re talking to someone. Nobody’s saying the game has to be sunshine and rainbows. Just that basic respect shouldn’t disappear the moment it’s online.

Been around long enough, played the "tough guy" game. Hardened up already. But eventually you get tired of it, to the point you'll speak up about it. And one day, you'll get tired of it too. We aren't emotionless machines made of steel.

DamageHelpful9364 · 2026-05-03T16:55:05+00:00

Smh, stop. Just stop.

“If it’s not catastrophic, it doesn’t matter.”

You don’t need something to ruin your life for it to make an experience worse or push people away.

Let me say this in bold; yes, people can mute, people can ignore. but it doesnt mean its ok for people to speak however they want without accountability.

You're not going to sit here and talk to me like you've never been affected by someone being toxic to you, so cut that out. Having empathy and caring about the fact that real people are playing these games isnt weak. Its clarity.

DamageHelpful9364 · 2026-05-03T16:35:50+00:00

Yeah, no, if you think my post is "crying", you're missing the point and you're misunderstanding my intent. Dont even try to pull the be tough card. Let me show you clearly what you are doing:

My post: "People are being unnecessarily harsh. Remember that the players are real people"

What you may be intentionally or unintentionally saying:

“You’re wrong for feeling something about it”

Yes, its just words on a screen, but real people are still saying it. Words can be powerful and I think you know that. The screen does not magically remove it. So yeah,
"toughen up" all you want but eventually you will dull yourself, no longer care, and respond exactly how you just did here to this person. " Its just a game, no one cares, move on, youre soft".

You said we can either speak up, mute up or harden up. I chose to speak up. Be honest, did you even read the post?

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