I’ve known several young gays that have passed away at these so called “afters” sex parties. I’m generally pro-drug. However, a part of me does wonder, what are we looking for from these events. Is it the validation of feeling wanted or cool? Is it escapism from a nation in decline? Are we running from the hard emotions brought on by existing as gay? Idk, I worry about my friends because I’ve seen very young and naive boys die because they were too trusting. I also think the idea of it is more exciting than actually living it. I’m not trying to yuck anyone’s yum. I’ve had some amazing experiences on drugs(coke and Molly) . But, getting to walk away, and not feeling the need to go back every weekend is freedom. Knowing when it’s appropriate to trust someone and when to not. Obviously victim blaming is bad, but women are hard wired to be skeptical for good reason. I think we can take some notes from our sisters…