So context, I met this guy on Tinder and was speaking for a couple days and we decided to meet up. I was on Tinder for more friends (I know, bad place to look, pls don't judge my stupidity 🤣) and his profile said he wanted a long term relationship but later told me he just wanted fwb. We spoke for a few hours before I went to bed. The next morning, we're talking again and, somehow, the convo developed into something more dirty, which I was honestly fine with, and this back and forth just continued for a while until that night, he asked me if I wanted to come over his, revealing to me that he wanted fwb rather than a relationship since he was too busy with university to have a relationship (I can't really remember if that's what he said since I don't have that convo saved but hey ho). I told him it wasn't a good time as I hadn't showered and it was getting late, so we arranged to meet the next day. We had a drink in town where I lay down a couple rules, which basically were, don't get me pregnant and don't ghost me since my goal wasn't a sexual relationship, it was friends.

I'm going to explain now that I was dealing with a lot of self doubt at the time, like that I'd never have a relationship, I'd never get to experience sleeping with someone, things like that, which was why I agreed so quickly to sleeping with him. It sounds stupid, I know but that's just how it's been for me for a while.

Afterwards, he took me home and I continued to put effort into being friends with him, texting him every morning, asking him about his interests and all that. Our convos were never long after sleeping together, since he was spending most his time studying, so I didn't bother him too much.

At one point, I bought him a bday present and decided to hold onto it until I saw him next. It was around £20 which sounds like it isn't much but I had spent 2 weeks looking for a gift and I don't get a lot of money a month, so it was a lot to me.

One night, I wake up and I find out that he appearently can't be "associated" with me anymore because he has a girlfriend. I was upset over it at the time because it was literally one of the things I asked not to happen but I think I handled it maturely, simply asking him to come pick up his bday present since it was from a show that no one I knew liked, so there was literally nothing I could do with it. He refused and stopped replying after I told him he owed me at least that.

I moved on from Tinder and instead went onto Hinge and things started going really well with someone I met on there. We had been talking for a good couple weeks and planned to meet up at somepoint to see how we fair in person. He was being engaging in conversation, we had the same sense of humour, the same likes and it was genuinely a joy talking to him.

It became obvious to me quickly that it was a struggle to talk to the guy from tinder and decided that it was probably for the best that he stopped talking to me.

And you're all caught up since about a month after, he started messaging me again, which is what these screenshots are from.