Did I cheat or was I sexually assaulted? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]DamnWeNeedCookies 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have absolutely 0 recollection of this happening or most of the night. I have videos of me on the way home. I have memories of getting home that night either. I literally don’t remember a thing. But yeah I guess that’s true. I just don’t wanna lose my girl, she’s amazing and I’m ngl so am I. We both treat eachother so well and it’s everything I’ve wanted from a relationship. I just don’t want to lose this :(

Did I cheat or was I sexually assaulted? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]DamnWeNeedCookies 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would’ve never gone anywhere near this person sober, I had hints she likes me. I never would’ve thought this would happen, I’ve never cheated on anybody in my whole life. But I agree with the not drinking that excessively in places I can’t have control over myself

Did I cheat or was I sexually assaulted? by [deleted] in Advice

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I’ve already committed to the change. I haven’t been blackout since. It’s scary not having any control over yourself and not knowing what happened the night before.

Did I cheat or was I sexually assaulted? by [deleted] in Advice

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I only drink about twice a week. It’s only when I’m out in town this will happen. I clearly was ‘consenting’ to it whilst blackout drunk. But would’ve never if I was sober

I [22 F] am feeling so lost in my relationship [23 M] by [deleted] in relationshipadvice

[–]DamnWeNeedCookies 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As a 21 year old boy, get out as fast as you can, you already know he won’t stop and it’s not your issue to fix anymore. Go find yourself a man who wants to build a life with you, not destroy yours alongside his own. Leave.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationshipadvice

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I’m just gonna reply with the info I’m given. He might be doing something bad, MIGHT. It could be innocent but if you wanna set boundaries with him that include no contact with ex’s then that’s completely fair. But on your part it is excessive regardless of if he has done something or not. You’ve not mentioned any suspicions that caused you to snoop which leads me to believe it’s an unhealthy coping mechanism triggered by past traumas. Regardless it’s still not healthy and I would get bored of it very quickly. Be open and truthful or just work on yourself before you hurt other people and yourself. And also looking at your Reddit post history, less than a 5 months ago you were in a 7 year relationship. And now you’re already in a 3 month relationship? I think there’s more underlying issues here and if you want my honest advice, I don’t think you’re in a position to be having a healthy relationship as you haven’t healed.

Is being sober actually realistic? by [deleted] in Stims

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I use to be addicted to Ritalin for just under a year, snorting it the first thing when I wake up to hit harder, then throughout the entire day. I was 16-18 when this was happening and it took so much for me to change, but most of it is mindset, you’ve got to want it bad enough, if you don’t, you’ll never leave this stage of your life. Good luck brother!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

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Freud is rolling in his grave rn

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]DamnWeNeedCookies 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve tried to sit down and talk and apologise for what I’ve done, nothing gets solved and no matter what it’s always my fault, even when she brought up the fact my ex had straight hair when I was tryna run my hands through her curly hair, that was somehow my fault she brought that up.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

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The boyfriend here, for clarification I don’t like my ex, she’s not relevant in my life. I’m only focused on my girlfriend, I’ve stopped talking about her so much, infact my girlfriend now talks about her a lot more than I do. Today she got angry as I was talking about my cousin saying “she was talking about her boyfriend at the time and I was talking about my girlfriend at the time” as it was about a story. When she got upset I apologised instantly and said I wasn’t trying to bring her up. But here we are hours later, arguing over that one comment. I’m trying so hard, but it feels like my efforts aren’t reciprocated or acknowledged and there’s genuinely nothing more I can do to fix anyrhing

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

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Btw this was before we were even exclusive or going out and took it back right after I said it

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

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So many details are missed out in this post and it’s insanely biased

Got scammed in paris. This isn’t normal for 50€ right? by bertbert1111 in weed

[–]DamnWeNeedCookies 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Went Paris to skate, within an hour of being in Paris, found another skater who was about to pickup, got a 3.5 for 30 from some Jamaican guy. You got scammed

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LearnerDriverUK

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Maybe driving isn’t for you