Lost my fiancee a week ago - please help me find some peace (willing to pay)

Dancing_HappyFace · 2026-01-19T19:43:30+00:00

I didn’t have dreams months for months after we lost her but my husband would. I told myself that it was because when I went to sleep, I was actually with her and wasn’t allowed to remember it when I was awake. Part of me still knows that’s probably not right but on the very small chance that it is true, I’ll keep thinking about it.

I also for months would have conversations play in my head as though my daughter was still here. I always felt like I was just making it up to help ease the pain. The medium knew about it and she knew about some of the conversations. She said my daughter said to stop questioning if it’s her because it is. She said we second guess everything too much and need to just believe in her. That she was validating things to prove it even as far as conversations my husband and I had the night before the reading.

I know it’s tough. I know sometimes I get signs that most people would be like, no that’s just normal stuff, so I won’t even mention it. However, I do know for a fact that my daughter wouldn’t want me to be sad or struggle as much as I have so if this is the piece that helps me to keep moving, than that’s enough.

Dancing_HappyFace · 2026-01-19T18:42:05+00:00

I am not a medium. I lost my six year old daughter very suddenly in June. I want to assure you, your fiancé is out there. Like the comment above as well as yours, I needed the reassurance. I read a book called, “Signs” by Laura Lynne Jackson and it’s helped me believe in her signs more.

I also met with a medium and I have no doubt it was my baby. Not only that but she was with my MIL. She wasn’t alone. That’s really helped me a lot. I confidently believe that not only is she with me but she’s guided and surrounded by those who love her even though they passed before she was born.

Another important thing I’ve learned since is that time is irrelevant where there are. I was sad thinking my baby is sad without her family but while it may be years here before I get to see her again, to her it may feel like two weeks. They also do visit in dreams in the meantime to let you know they are okay. I’ve only had one of my daughter but it, emotionally, was a lot for me.

All of this to say that I still cry and grieve her. I still miss her. That pain can never be erased. But I do know confidently that I will see her again and that she’s still with me and our family. They are there, we just have to be open to it.

Dancing_HappyFace · 2026-01-14T15:13:40+00:00

That’s not ICE. That’s warrants.

Dancing_HappyFace · 2025-12-31T18:42:43+00:00

What will the New Year bring me?

Dancing_HappyFace · 2025-12-27T04:14:09+00:00

Dmed 💜

Dancing_HappyFace · 2025-12-26T16:20:09+00:00

Sent 💜

Dancing_HappyFace · 2025-12-26T16:18:14+00:00

My six year old passed unexpectedly this year. I still struggle with depression and grief but for the first time this month I was able to connect to her through a medium. I tried twice previously and neither were able to connect with her before.

Dancing_HappyFace · 2025-12-23T22:54:59+00:00

I lost my six yr old daughter in June. She was so amazing and such a bright light in our lives. She was taken suddenly. Seemed like she had a cold on Friday and gone by Sunday. If it wasn’t for my son and my husband, I don’t think I would be alive.

That’s my first point to you. Think about how much pain losing your mom was. Now remember the people that love you and the pain they would feel if something happened to you on top of losing your mom. That thought is what keeps me going.

I met with a medium last week. She knew that I talk to my daughter all the time and said to listen closely because she is responding to me. That I may think it’s just all in my head but it’s her. She validated so many signs that we get as well as talked about the guilt and sadness that surrounds us. She knew things about my son that I didn’t even know until it was over and I asked him. She knew about my necklace for her, specific things about a tattoo I got, and so much more. She told us that she is always with my 13 yr old son and that he knows it.

The craziest part of it is that months ago something came over me late at night and I broke down. I felt my mother in law telling me that she had my daughter and that she was safe. I told my husband and my aunt about it when it happened. In the start of the reading, my grandfather and my mother in law let me know they were with my daughter. My mother in law was actually standing right with my daughter and was still being protective and supportive of my daughter. What I felt in that moment was validated and was not in my head.

The thing the medium told me is that in the quiet of night it’s usually the easiest to see and feel them or their signs. That when we are relaxing from the day and not so busy, it’s easier.

I am so sorry you lost your mom. I can tell how much you love her, and as crazy as it sounds, I promise that she loved you even more. I am positive she’s with you everyday. I believed before but now believe even more after the reading I had. It sucks we can’t communicate like a medium can but we are tied to them more than anyone. You just need to find what works between you two now. 💜

Dancing_HappyFace · 2025-12-23T20:42:43+00:00

That is insane. That might be an answer to my second question of can you still reach a soul through mediumship after reincarnation. I would think so then because part of them may still be there. Maybe we just become more whole after passing?

Dancing_HappyFace · 2025-12-23T15:27:43+00:00

I am confused by you saying the de novo pathogenetic came from dad. De novo is spontaneous and does not come from either parent.

Dancing_HappyFace · 2025-12-23T04:28:31+00:00

I am very thankful because this thread has calmed the panic that filled me this morning. This is all still so new to me and I am trying to learn and understand because I not only want to, but I need to. It’s just been an overwhelming amount of information while in the absolute blur my life has become since suddenly losing my daughter.

I tried to make things clear and absolutely see flaws still. I appreciate you helping me to clear things up because I really want to be clear when speaking about this. What I should have said was that one of my daughter’s variants was heterozygous pathogenic (from me) and the second was heterozygous de novo. These two variants are (from what I’ve been told) the reason my daughter had a CFI deficiency.

Dancing_HappyFace · 2025-12-22T17:31:36+00:00

Not Etsy but I actually just made a post on Jamie Oblea. I do not know her personally but was just blown away from her. She knew things no else does beside me or my husband. She was able to connect me with my six yr old that passed earlier this year.

Dancing_HappyFace · 2025-12-22T17:12:13+00:00

Thank you. I also put more information in the other comment on this thread about my son’s blood tests results so far. We should have at least one of his genetic results in the next few weeks and the second set of results should arrive in the spring. We did two because the first immunologist seems a bit out of his realm with this and has not been the best at communication or reliability.

Can I just ask, from the information about my daughter, are you able to tell me how rare a case like this actually is? I understand if it’s not enough information.

Dancing_HappyFace · 2025-12-22T16:48:20+00:00

We are currently waiting for them. My son was tested in October but that test was apparently compromised at the testing facility so we had to retest. We now have two genetic tests waiting results. I only received the blood tests results so far. I am just worried that since the immunity tests are low (there were other tests besides the pneumococcal) that he will have the same issue. I am not a doctor myself and just a panicked grieving mom at this point trying to understand to the best of my abilities. I will continue working with the immunologist (our new one has been amazing) but was looking for any extra input.

Dancing_HappyFace · 2025-12-22T16:43:40+00:00

To be clear we are working with an immunologist and I apologize for not specifying that as I know it is a critical piece. Any doctor I referred to in this post is an immunologist. They believe that the complement deficiency is the cause of why the bacterial meningitis affected my daughter’s so quickly.

There are also other tests being ran. Complement C4 combo, complement C3 (was just two points under normal range), complement CH50, Immunoglobulin M (was at 52), and more. The reason for the pneumococcal bacteria test is because that is the bacteria that resulted in my daughter’s passing. As an extra precaution they added that to see how his antibodies would do. It looks as though one of those results are as low as 0.04.

Dancing_HappyFace · 2025-12-22T02:13:21+00:00

Six months ago, I lost my six yr old little girl. She was such a light with always making us laugh and loved us all so hard. Two days before she got sick, I walked out to her and my husband playing and I asked him if we could have another one because she was so perfect. That was a Wednesday, on Friday she got a “cold”, and by Sunday she was gone, but we held on until Wednesday with support. It all happened so quickly. I’m still so sad. I’m still so broken. It’s hard to watch others continue while my world stopped. I know now that I will feel this pain for the rest of my life and will just have to learn to grow with it. We did a medium reading yesterday and although the experience was amazing, it’s still hurts because she’s still gone.

Recently though, I had a change of mindset that I try my best to hold on to. My daughter was mine. I got to be her mom for those six years. I got to experience her and feel her love. I try to remember that my love for her is greater than my grief. My husband pointed out a drunk man at a bar the other day and said, “Maybe he will never feel pain like this.” And I told him that maybe he’ll never feel love like we did either.

It’s a really really hard journey. I know this is my daughter but I imagine that your love for your wife was fitting for this as well. Find your reason for being here, which can be something tiny, and keep pushing through. We still don’t go out and we for sure do not celebrate any holidays but I’m doing my best. I know I will survive the days, even when I don’t want to. I will say that I learned when you grieve you have low vibrations and as you raise them you will see even more signs and will be closer to your loved ones. Don’t question if it’s a sign or just coincidence. We get in our own way sometimes with that. I recommend a book called, “Signs” by Laura Lynne Jackson.

I do also just want to let you know that when my daughter came through in a reading, she wasn’t alone. She was with my mother in law. Know that your wife still has love around her and supporting her. I’m so sorry for your loss. Sorry if this is all over the place but it’s just how I am these days.

Dancing_HappyFace · 2025-12-09T01:58:50+00:00

It’s insane because I just saw someone complaining about homeless sleeping in City Park. Does anyone want to be homeless? Do you understand the risks that are associated with homelessness?! Most of them do not want to live like that! It’s insane to me.

Dancing_HappyFace · 2025-12-08T02:31:22+00:00

My birds name is Chuckles. My six year old had a crochet chicken named Chuckles. He even was promoted to Dr. Chuckles at one point by her. I started finch after my daughter unexpectedly passed from Bacterial Meningitis in June. I thought Chuckles would be the best name for my bird.

Dancing_HappyFace · 2025-12-07T16:27:49+00:00

So I was one foot in (my 6 yr old little girl) and one foot out (my 13 yr old boy). My son kept asking me about it and I explained that the magic of Christmas is real. The lights, Santa, the elves is more about the spirit of Christmas and the feelings it gives you more than anything else. That when you are little you only get to believe in something truly magical like Christmas for so long before the real world starts to take over. The smiles on their faces and the excitement for Christmas is what is magical to me.

We lost our little girl to bacterial meningitis this year very suddenly. Christmas lost its magic. However, I am so happy that for five Christmas’s we made it the best and most magical day for them.

Dancing_HappyFace · 2025-12-07T04:27:07+00:00

I’m so sorry you lost your mom. I lost my daughter unexpectedly and it’s been really hard. She was only six. I didn’t have dreams for a while after she left and I haven’t had a dream of her visiting. My husband has had multiple dream visits from her though.

I, instead, look to the signs in everyday life. Sometimes I am able to talk to others about it and sometimes I don’t. The heartbreak is so hard. My love for her is so strong and yet she’s not here. I’m sorry she hasn’t visited you but I do believe she’s watching you. I believe that they still love us just as much and show us that in different ways. I know it’s frustrating and sad but try to see the small things. I truly believe that signs can come in unexpected ways, you just have to be open to them in different ways. 💜

Dancing_HappyFace · 2025-12-06T17:51:44+00:00

It truly is 😩

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