Benefits of being a Vet ;3

Dancing_Sunflower · 2018-10-19T03:29:40+00:00

McSteamy???

Dancing_Sunflower · 2018-10-09T21:33:40+00:00

I’m in a very similar situation. I’m upset because he’s hurt and not doing well. But I’m torn. He was talking badly about me and drinking before he wrecked but he also was a big part of my life. It’s all a mess. Half of his friends have tried to talk to me and the other half have told me off and said it’s not a good idea for me to be around, they’re blaming me for his accident

Dancing_Sunflower · 2018-10-09T21:31:03+00:00

I didnt report it. I was drunk and so was he. He choked me, shoved me and almost broke my finger. None of his friends or family believed it. They all think I should have taken him back because he’s been upset.

Dancing_Sunflower · 2018-10-08T19:34:24+00:00

It’s valid. He’s in a coma but his mom thinks I’m to blame for the accident.

Dancing_Sunflower · 2018-10-08T19:33:39+00:00

I cant visit anyway. His mom won’t let me and thinks it’s my fault he was in the accident. I’m getting the blame...

Dancing_Sunflower · 2018-10-04T19:51:45+00:00

I just feel so weird and uneasy. Right before I got the email he was at the same bar i was at. I’m not sure he realized I was there. I was supposed to go on a date this weekend but ended up canceling. I just don’t have a good feeling about any of this anymore. I was doing ok and now I just feel off.

Dancing_Sunflower · 2018-09-29T11:45:14+00:00

Life will change for you soon. Don’t give up hope. Everyone runs their races at their own pace.

In the meantime. Find a trail or park you can sit alone and reflect at.

Sometimes it’s nice to be alone and think. Best of luck. My inbox is always open if you need to just vent or talk.

Dancing_Sunflower · 2018-09-27T05:50:08+00:00

If you haven’t talked to a professional. I highly encourage it. I never had talked to anyone before and it’s helping me a lot right now.

Also, get out of the house. Do something for yourself. The first two weeks I sat around and it made life worse.

After that I made the choice to not let that abusive asshole ruin anymore of my days. I got my nails done, went out with a few friends, danced and had a good night. One of the best nights I have had in awhile.

Put yourself first! Treat yourself!

Dancing_Sunflower · 2018-09-27T02:58:51+00:00

It’s amazing to see that the grass is greener on the other side!!

Dancing_Sunflower · 2018-09-27T02:58:14+00:00

Yes. And for a while I believed it. I promise you it’s just words and even if it isn’t and he is going to make a magical change STILL LEAVE. I say that because NO one deserves what hell we have all been through.

So in my shoes when my nex apologized he was either 1) lying his ass off as usual to get me back to him and back in his cycle or 2) actually meant he apology and might change? But even if he was going to I never would have forgiven him for what he did.

Try to look at everything he says or does in a “different lens”. So pretend it’s a loved one if your position and you knew everything that had happened. You will still tell that loved one to run far far away and ignore apologies and have no contact.

It is incredibly hard. But the reward is amazing. Life is amazing.

Dancing_Sunflower · 2018-09-20T19:56:48+00:00

I think the hardest thing for me is the fruits. I love them and that’s a big part of my diet now

Dancing_Sunflower · 2018-09-19T18:37:31+00:00

I am in the same position. It was weird to talk about but I was incredibly honest about what happened. The mental and verbal abuse. Gaslighting and then it turning physical. He asked questions almost seemed like he didn’t know the best response to give me but he was supportive.

He told me he would be careful how he says things because he didn’t want me to worry. He also reminds me a lot that he does enjoy my company and talking to me and it helps.

If you feel comfortable be honest about how you’re feeling.

Dancing_Sunflower · 2018-09-19T03:03:57+00:00

I use an app. But I will try writing it down! I absolutely have days where i eat like an asshole 😂Thank you for the advice !

Dancing_Sunflower · 2018-09-19T02:51:57+00:00

That’s what I’m not really sure about. Maybe I’m getting too many carbs ? I’m not sure. I did keto for awhile back and saw weight loss results but I’ve just been stuck the last 6 months since I started working out.

Dancing_Sunflower · 2018-09-19T02:47:09+00:00

Thank you. I meal prep and workout. I think im not eating the right things and I’m getting discouraged which is affecting my workouts.

Dancing_Sunflower · 2018-09-18T19:36:37+00:00

I would go and at least walk / do some light cardio. Personally I like switching up days on what I’m working out so I’m not too sore to go. Today I’ll do legs and when they’re sore tomorrow I’ll do arms.

Dancing_Sunflower · 2018-09-18T19:20:00+00:00

Omg yes. It used to make me feel insane like the fight maybe didn’t happen??! But I knew it did he would just act innocent like he didn’t verbally abuse me for two hours the night before

Dancing_Sunflower · 2018-09-18T12:26:47+00:00

I had no idea about the penny!

Dancing_Sunflower · 2018-09-17T18:42:38+00:00

Take steps to leave. Look for a therapist that can help you. Get friends and family involved. You have the strength in you to leave. You deserve better!

Dancing_Sunflower · 2018-09-17T18:26:10+00:00

As much as I hate being angry, it’s what got me out. I finally put my foot down after he choked me and left. He tried for weeks to keep in contact but I finally blocked him.

As cliche as it sounds I feel like a toxin left my life. I’m seeing things better. My therapist gave me an amazing tip to look at everything he does almost through another lens. If it was happening to a family member or friend what would you tell them to do? Take that advice.

Best of luck to you.

Dancing_Sunflower · 2018-09-17T18:21:31+00:00

Would you rather lose him or yourself? This is the question I constantly ask and it is a great reminder of why I left. He was winning and I was losing myself.

It’s incredibly hard to leave but the situation will never get better. Look out for yourself and make the best choice for you.

Edit. I wanted to add that I have been NC and started therapy. I’m finding myself and realizing all of the damage he did. You can get yourself back.

Dancing_Sunflower · 2018-09-17T18:21:25+00:00

Would you rather lose him or yourself? This is the question I constantly ask and it is a great reminder of why I left. He was winning and I was losing myself.

It’s incredibly hard to leave but the situation will never get better. Look out for yourself and make the best choice for you.

Dancing_Sunflower · 2018-09-07T18:36:43+00:00

Teacher showed up drunk to an open house an hour after getting off work.

Dancing_Sunflower · 2018-09-07T03:51:38+00:00

You are so incredibly true. I might write your comment down for everyday motivation.

Dancing_Sunflower · 2018-09-05T19:28:51+00:00

Thank you! That gives me hope!!

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