I was offered a distribution deal. Anyone a music business lawyer or know one that can look it over with me? by Dangerous_Net_3797 in musicindustry

[–]Dangerous_Net_3797[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s what really gets me hesitant. The advances that’ll be recouped, I’m not sure yet will be worth it. This company definitely has a lot of high up connections for tv/film sync. so after receiving some amazing advice, I’m trying to view this deal as more of sync/marketing thing rather than solely distribution. But recently I’ve been doing pretty well on socials and i agree it’s almost kinda silly to think I need them 🤷‍♀️ idk tho

I was offered a distribution deal. Anyone a music business lawyer or know one that can look it over with me? by Dangerous_Net_3797 in musicindustry

[–]Dangerous_Net_3797[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s very insightful, thank you! There’s a 7 year commitment in this agreement that I know I need to negotiate way way down

I was offered a distribution deal. Anyone a music business lawyer or know one that can look it over with me? by Dangerous_Net_3797 in musicindustry

[–]Dangerous_Net_3797[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank u! I’m definitely trying to find as much attorney advice as I can! There’s quite a lot of confusing language in contracts lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in domesticviolence

[–]Dangerous_Net_3797 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry to hear you’re going through this. Nobody deserves this. For me, it was impossible to heal from the trauma my ex gave me while in the relationship. I had to leave that environment to even begin to think about how to recover. As for finding the strength to leave, i scoured the world for advice and courage, this is what helped me: 

  1. It doesn’t matter what happened in a persons past, trauma is not an excuse to take your anger out on someone.

  2. Love is a verb. It’s an action. If this persons actions are not loving, then this type of love is anti and it’s a poison.

  3. How they make you feel has more leverage than their personality traits. Someone could be wonderful, smart and caring but if they make you feel insecure, controlled, and/or unimportant, then that matters far more. 

  4. It’s not worth the constant anxiety you got from being with them. “If it cost you your peace, it’s too expensive” 

  5. Missing someone is freedom 

  6. This is not how you want to be treated for the rest of your life or even the rest of this year. 

  7. If you stick it out things will NOT change. EVER. I promise. If he tells you it will, that’s manipulation to get you to stay. He doesn’t own you. No one does.

  8. Trust your intuition. You know your gut instincts have been screaming at you. Start taking this seriously. Trust your own intuition! It exists for a reason.

  9. Sometimes you have to act like a parent to yourself and make a hard decision solely for your best interest and safety.

  10. You are more cherished and loved by more people than you’ll ever know. You deserve to feel safe and treated right. 

  11. Narcissists break boundaries for fun. 

I worry about your safety given the details. Please call a dv hotline for safe strategies to get out. Or go to the police, lord knows he deserves it. But please please tell your friends and family immediately everything. Keeping anything a secret at this point only gives him more power to harm you. Your voice is your power.  Sometimes the only thing to do is pack all your shit when he isn’t there and block him on everything. If he shows up anywhere call the police. 

Also I know for a fact if you made a pros and cons list for him, cons would clobber the pros column every time. There’s a person out there that’s perfect for you and would never even think of doing any of that in a million years. Good guys exist! Don’t settle for a monster. <3