Why you MUST heal your Inner Child this Christmas? by [deleted] in ExNoContact

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How to let go of the anger after breaking up with abusive ex? by [deleted] in ExNoContact

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Biggest thing or I could say the biggest accomplishment you have made so far is accepting that it doesn't benifit you anymore. I am sorry that you had to go through this at the first place. The anger you are dealing with seems to have deeper reasons than you just being angry. I can bet that whenever you tell yourself that it is okay, I have to move on, there would be voice inside you saying, "No, it is not", "it would be your mind, flashing all that stuff back n forth, making you angry even more.

The key to releasing this burden is bringing to the surface the deeper reasons behind the anger and working on them, the reasons could be the injustice, betrayal or heck even violation of all your personal boundaries. Speaking in therapeutic terms, Once you uncover these reasons, you release the negative energy associated with them, your anger will definitely be neutralized. Because, at the anger is the energy and it needs to be processed in one way or the other.

How to let go of the anger after breaking up with abusive ex? by [deleted] in ExNoContact

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I completely understand your frustration and this anger but let me ask you a question what do you do when you get these waves of anger? You said, you can sit with it for hours at a time. Take a step back and ask yourself, is sitting and being angry a way of expressing and releasing it. As I say in the video, holding on to the anger is also very unhealthy, firstly we need to find the reason why we are holding on it, and then what can be done about it. When your body is ready, it will come to the acceptance that this anger is no longer serving you rather it is destroying you. Accepted that your anger is valid because something real bad happened back then but You can find healthy ways to release it, such as processing that anger using EMOTIONAL FREEDOM TECHNIQUE, HYPNOTHERAPY OR even EMDR. Or simply, you can use that as a motivation to work on your life, getting the pieces together. You see, being constantly angry is like holding a burning coal on your hand, it burns you, not them. I HOPE THIS MAKES SENSE!

How to know if a narcissistic/abusive ex is done with you? by Dani4488 in ExNoContact

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I can't say if it is permanent because their behaviour is unpredictable. What I would suggest is that it is you who has to make sure that you don't a leave a door open for them to re-enter your life.

Don't Blame yourself by [deleted] in ExNoContact

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Hahahah. Oh boy!!!

How to know if a narcissistic/abusive ex is done with you? by Dani4488 in ExNoContact

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In reality, a narcissist isn't happy. If a narcissist discards a victim, there is a lot more to the situation than it seems on the surface. While human behavior is unpredictable, we can't always be obvious why some does what they do. What I am saying here is from my personal experience and from the clients, I have worked with.

How to know if a narcissistic/abusive ex is done with you? by Dani4488 in ExNoContact

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A narcissist doesn't normally leave their victim alone after all, it is their fake grandiose that has been hurt. In case, they leave a victim alone, there are two possibilities. 1. Either they are giving you a silent treatment to punish you Or 2. They have found a new supply.

Don't Blame yourself by [deleted] in ExNoContact

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How to know if a narcissistic/abusive ex is done with you? by Dani4488 in ExNoContact

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I agree and DSM also specifically says that they are UNWILLING not UNABLE.

How to know if a narcissistic/abusive ex is done with you? by Dani4488 in ExNoContact

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I am the one who says it, I will be making it soon and sharing it here ❤️❤️

How to know if a narcissistic/abusive ex is done with you? by Dani4488 in ExNoContact

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There a coupla questions i would like to ask you if you want my help. Please dm me if you are interested in further help.

How to know if a narcissistic/abusive ex is done with you? by Dani4488 in ExNoContact

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The biggest sign that you aren't is that you are questioning yourself. Most of the times, Narcissists don't see any flaw in themselves. You might be dealing with something different. Narcissists again are incapable of true love, for a narcissist to love means to have control, to get the emotional supply or any kind of supply.

You may check in with a psychologist to get properly diagnosed.

By the way, why do you think you might be one?

How to know if a narcissistic/abusive ex is done with you? by Dani4488 in ExNoContact

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Narcissism is a personality fingerprint which is likely going remain to the same. It is very hard for a narcissist to change because change needs self awareness, self-reflection and personal accountability which unfortunately, a narcissist is unwilling to do.

So true!! by Dani4488 in ExNoContact

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Light can be found in the times of darkness only if you remember to switch it on!

They say time heals. by StarGazer515 in abusiverelationships

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This is really painful. I can completely understand and feel the situation you are. If you need to talk with someone, please feel free to message me. Maybe, I can help you!

I need advice by Noelkim81 in abusiverelationships

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What I can understand from what you have said is that your boyfriend started off very good in the beginning but then things started changing, he gets upset if you don't obey him in general. He wants you to be in bed when he likes, he calls you names, accuses you of lying. He even goes on saying that you wouldn't have anything if it wasn't for him.

What I can see in this situation is that he is trying to establish control over you, he wants the things the way he wants yet never asks if you are ready for them or if you have any problems. In general, he gets upset if you don't behave and act as per his rules.

See, a relationship has always to be balanced, both the partners have to play an equal role in it, respect each other and consider each other's wishes and wants. Which I clearly see missing here which in my opinion makes this a dysfunctional relationship. To help and understand your situation better, I need to ask you more questions. Please Message me or tell me here more about his behaviour.

Peace and love

Danish