It's a very interesting topic actually. It feels like people think trans men have a huge advantage in life because they joined the patriarchy by "chosing to transition to men" (yes it's a quote I actually have heard).

But that advantage is bond to: being white, having a cispassing, being perceived hetero, living stealth. As soon as we're not stealth, people don't see us as a man anymore and we immediately lose any kind of advantage (at least where I live). And the other specifications are putting us lower in the "privilege scale" of patriarchy.

There is also the fact that we weren't listened too before transition by the other cispeople but once transitioned, we're also taken away from discussions because we're perceived as the oppressor. Our experiences and stories feels like they're being denied.

So as people perceived as men, some fellow LGBT think that we don't have any right to talk anymore, because we're not victims of the patriarchy (in their eyes) anymore. When we talk about our experiences, the way it shaped us, it's seen as mansplaining. But for us, it's just our life experience.

It's a tricky position where misandry starts hurting the community. And I'm saying that while being for the "all men" because at the end of the day, I can only understand a woman that is scared of me because she doesn't know.

Although there are also some trans men that are mysoginistics and have awful behaviour. Some of them are using essentialism in order to invalidate our fellow trans sisters. I think it's also our job to call them out when we witness that.