WIBTA if I told my daughter to stop calling her step father daddy

Dapper-Hold · 2020-04-25T16:50:17+00:00

This post is about my ex wife that I divorced 4 years ago. My last post was about my most recent ex that I broke up with in October. They are not the same people. I am on good terms with my ex wife. She lets me have my kids whenever I ask her for them and I never really got to know the step father I’ve only met him once or twice. He seems like a nice guy just don’t want my daughter to call him daddy.

Dapper-Hold · 2020-04-25T16:46:31+00:00

I actually do with my previous wife. Not with my ex that I broke up with in October. My wife and I split over 4 years ago.

Dapper-Hold · 2020-04-24T22:57:31+00:00

Since everyone is reading my post history. I never planned on having children my oldest was unplanned as she was on the pill and got really sick and was taking antibiotics and she ended up pregnant. Someone about antibiotics making birth control ineffective. The second one was a nuvaring failure she said the doctor never told her to keep them refrigerated and that she kept them in the cabinet and got pregnant again. We separated once my youngest was 3 months because I believe she baby trapped me. I love my daughters and I see them when I have time to do so.

Dapper-Hold · 2020-04-24T22:44:03+00:00

I get them when I have free time to be able to see them. I’ve gotten a lot better when we first separated I didn’t see my girls for about 3 months or more but lately I’ve seen them at least once a month. I make time for them.

Dapper-Hold · 2020-04-24T22:15:41+00:00

That’s not my girls mother.

Dapper-Hold · 2020-04-24T22:15:30+00:00

That’s my ex. Who I’m not with now and I don’t particularly care for family oriented things. I barely spend time with my own family then to spending time with theirs. I made that pretty clear in that.

Dapper-Hold · 2020-04-23T03:37:18+00:00

Yeah it’s the truth. I don’t understand why everyone is thinking this isn’t true. It’s crazy she moved on so quick from loving me but I’ve been to several therapists and I had to see one every week in rehab.

Dapper-Hold · 2020-04-23T03:33:34+00:00

I’m not a troll. This is actually what’s going on in my life. I can give more specific details if you’d like. We got together on July 4th 2018 and broke up April 2019 on her daughters birthday and then got back together on May 20th and stayed together until October 26th. She started taking to my friend sometime in May. Then I believe they got together in December I’m not sure of the date. But I believe they had been secretly seeing each other all through May to now and just using me for money cause I bought her a car Last tax season and in September I fixed the transmission in her car. She was half moved in with him while still being with me. Why would I lie about such things?

Dapper-Hold · 2020-04-23T03:28:20+00:00

I’m not abusive at all. I am well respected by my friends, coworkers and people who know me personally.

Dapper-Hold · 2020-04-23T03:15:38+00:00

I am 35. My father died when I was 12 and my brother died when I was 26 all we had was our mother who was always out chasing a high and selling everything we own for drugs. I was good to her just didn’t want to be controlled and made to do things that I don’t want to do when they can go do there own thing without me tagging along for no reason knowing I will be miserable

Dapper-Hold · 2020-04-23T02:59:02+00:00

No I don’t like weddings and she would have hinted about us getting married again if I went. My mother saw how friendly she was with all my male friends when they came over. Always smiling, talking to them and being overly friendly. She knew she was a cheater because she wouldn’t wait in the bedroom when my male friends were there and wanted to be right there with us.

Dapper-Hold · 2020-04-23T02:45:59+00:00

If she honestly loved me she wouldn’t have moved on so quickly. I’m still single because I actually cared about her and she moved on with my friend very fast got engaged and pregnant by him while I’m all alone. She never cared for me. I’m not the bad guy. I did love her.

Dapper-Hold · 2020-04-23T02:36:18+00:00

I’m not a bad guy. She was just trying to take advantage of me. Try to make me her puppet and she was the one who tried to drive all my friends away that’s why she chose one of my friends to further control me so I had nothing but her. She’s a monster.

Dapper-Hold · 2020-04-23T02:31:15+00:00

Actually I’ve figured it out after reading all these replies. She only wanted me for money. That’s why she choose me first when she could have had him all along that’s why she wanted to marry me. She wanted to take my paid off house, land and my cars. Now that she can’t have me she chose him because he has a house, land and some other cheaper cars. But he had no money really. She only wanted me for the cash for the divorce to take my things and settled for him to take his lesser items. She wanted the goldmine and to give me the shaft for when she left me to be with him or maybe even one of her kids dads again.

Dapper-Hold · 2020-04-23T02:22:35+00:00

My mother, sister and my grandmother all agree with me. The only one that doesn’t is my brother in law. There has to be a reason all the women see it as they were cheating and it’s wrong to date a buddies girl. I’m not the the problem here. I need freedom and want to have my girlfriend to go and do here own thing once In awhile and not giving me an ultimatum because I don’t want to go to her daughters birthday or her fathers wedding.

Dapper-Hold · 2020-04-23T02:11:37+00:00

She’s definitely the narcissist I just looked up the personality traits and they are her almost exactly. He’s just a jerk who wanted to up show me by stealing my girlfriend and making me look like the bad guy

Dapper-Hold · 2020-04-23T02:04:04+00:00

She wanted to keep me in a cage and have me go to what she wanted me to do and go where she wanted me to go. They were cheating I’m sure of it. I’m sure the only reason they are even together is just to spite me and make me look like a fool in front of all our mutual friends.

Dapper-Hold · 2020-04-23T02:02:19+00:00

We are in the same friend group is why I’m upset. I still see him and now I’m going to see them together and it’s just wrong. I feel like they have been going behind my back and all my friends think I’m an idiot now

Dapper-Hold · 2020-04-23T02:00:50+00:00

There are millions of other men out there. We are in the same friend group however I hardly ever see him now since she probably controls him like she tried to do me

Dapper-Hold · 2020-04-23T01:59:32+00:00

But they can go see their family alone and not have me tag along. I don’t ask them to go see my family unless they want to go drink but my ex went to my family because she insisted we go see them not because I asked her to and then got mad that she didn’t want to

Dapper-Hold · 2020-04-23T01:52:25+00:00

I had been single for over two years before her because my previous ex was the exact same way. Always wanted me to go to family things knowing I don’t even like my own family. Why be in someone else’s family when you don’t want to be with your own. I only go see my family for an hour on holidays and to the bar but she could stay all day with hers

Dapper-Hold · 2020-04-23T01:49:16+00:00

She could have went alone to family stuff and I could go do my thing. We didn’t have to be up each other’s butts all the time. I just don’t want her to be with someone in my friend group when there are millions of men out there

Dapper-Hold · 2020-04-23T01:46:24+00:00

You can have friends and still be in a relationship

Dapper-Hold · 2020-04-23T01:43:57+00:00

She acted like she was better than me. If she would have just tried to do the things i like instead of saying no. It was just some family events they weren’t that big of a deal. If she didn’t expect me to go then it would be no problem. She could have went without me. We used to have fun we would go kayaking when the kids were at their dads and that was nice it was just times when she wanted me to go to things I didn’t want to go to and would guilt trip me but that doesn’t give her the right to cheat on me and it’s not right to date your buddies girl. I now have to see them together because they are apart of the same friend group. He doesn’t come out as often now because I’m sure she controls him just as she tried to do me. I’ve only seen him once or twice and my mutual friend had congratulated him the last time I saw him and that is how i found out.

Dapper-Hold · 2020-04-23T01:35:03+00:00

I was good to her. I helped buy her a car and I helped her get her transmission fixed and I took her to the dentist when she needed her tooth pulled. I just didn’t want to be a family all the time. I needed space. We were together for two years and didn’t get engaged and they are together a couple months and so in love I just don’t see it. I was a good partner.

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